Why can't females ask males to be in a relationship/propose?Watch
So for a girl to ask someone out, is a sign that she's not attractive in the first place eh?
If I asked out my boyfriend or proposed to him, I know he would feel rather emasculated. We have spoken about it in the past, and he feels that if the guy can't step up and take charge in this instance, and just waits for the female, it doesn't show much about his balls for the rest of the relationship/marriage.
"The man must make the first move"
"Never initiate contact, if you do you look too keen"
"If he doesn't ask you out first he's not interested"
It's all so sad. Perhaps the guy is shy or wants to feel wanted, but because of what friends and family say you don't make a move.
There's also fear of rejection. That's huge.
I think that's silly. Society has made males think that they have to always make the first move and things like that...
It depends on the type of relationship you have and the type of people involved. For example, with regards to paying on a date. Some guys would love to pay and sees it as the polite chivalrous thing to do, other guys would rather go half to "see" if the girl would pay, but then wouldn't mind paying themselves. Some girls expect to be paid for, other girls (some of whom I know) would take offence if a guy thought they couldn't pay and suggested the 1950's style wife. Girls would want everything equal and some girls who would love to look after their husbands....me personally, I'm a bit of both, I would go to work and come back home and if I have time, would love to cook dinner for my husband. In turn he can take out the bins! I'm not one of those extreme feminist types, there's certain things I would like to do and certain things I would like him to do.
It literally depends on the people involved.
However, I think initiating relationships is a test of a man's character, if he is not prepared to ask and risk rejection, I do not think he is worthy despite what other good qualities he has. A man needs to take risks if he is to get the most out of life, it might be a promotion or a bungee jump. Bravery might be associated with war but I would not want my daughter to be in a relationship with a coward and I would not want my son to be too scared to ask someone out he liked and respected.
Of course a woman can give hints and create a situation that facilitates initiation but the man really needs to step up and do the asking.