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girlfriend cheated
i been with this girl for 10 months and i love her loads and we had a brilliant day at the cinemas yesterday, it was all well! wen we was going out for around a few months, her mates told me she cheated on her, my girlfriend denied it and today one of her friends tell me she did and i told my girlfriend and she still denied it. her friend then brought the guy and he told me that my girlfriend went out with him for a few days. my girlfriend then quickly went offline and didnt give the usual goodbye we give(we have our own style lol). so the seeds were planted and i thought i phone her and find the truth however before that she sent a txt sayin she didnt cheat on me and that they are lying, i then phoned her goin i want this sorted and i want the truth, she then denied she went out wid this guy. after the phone call i told her how im glad she didnt cheat on me and then she sent one back sayin she did cheat on me and went out with him and that she didnt touch him or anything but im going to discuss it with her tomorow what shuld i say and do?
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Grrrr can't stand cheating 
and lying about it makes it so much worse!! Sorry lol...
Anyway... it was relatively early on in your relationship and she said she didn't touch him or anything however it was still wrong and she should have told you about it. It seems that you made her feel guilty from that text you sent her and she then admitted it - nice one
. You need to let her know it was wrong and if she shows that she is truly sorry and knows it was wrong and won't do it again then if you think you can stay with her give it a go. You could always wait and leave it and see how she reacts like she might phone, text or email you saying how sorry she is or something that way you could make a good judgement. Hope it works out well for you whatever happens x
and lying about it makes it so much worse!! Sorry lol...Anyway... it was relatively early on in your relationship and she said she didn't touch him or anything however it was still wrong and she should have told you about it. It seems that you made her feel guilty from that text you sent her and she then admitted it - nice one
. You need to let her know it was wrong and if she shows that she is truly sorry and knows it was wrong and won't do it again then if you think you can stay with her give it a go. You could always wait and leave it and see how she reacts like she might phone, text or email you saying how sorry she is or something that way you could make a good judgement. Hope it works out well for you whatever happens xYeah i would be very upset, thing the only saving grace is she didn't do anything but still cheating is cheating and she lied.
good advice people but i still cant make a definate decision!! just hate this feeling.
I feel like being the devil negative guy on this post 
There no real level of cheating guys come on!!...She did and thats that. It was wrong and she lied...How could you honestly trust her again? She could do it again..did it once what would stop her from doing it again? I mean..could she honestly love you and respect you if she did this...really?
I think you should go talk to her 2moz and ask why she did it and how she feels about you? Can you trust her to not do it again? If not move on as there so many decent people out there.
There no real level of cheating guys come on!!...She did and thats that. It was wrong and she lied...How could you honestly trust her again? She could do it again..did it once what would stop her from doing it again? I mean..could she honestly love you and respect you if she did this...really?
I think you should go talk to her 2moz and ask why she did it and how she feels about you? Can you trust her to not do it again? If not move on as there so many decent people out there.
she says she loves me loads and i just cant see how it is now honestly. i mean she used to say she loves me more because i broke up with her but that was for family reasons but i fought my family to be with her and now i find out she cheated on me. she said that we had big fight and thought i was going to dump her so she went out wid him. the thing is i was going to stay commited to her for the rest of ma life and im starting uni in september!!! she still going to be in sixth form.
Oh gosh...Long distance relationship..Hmm that means you wont be even there making it even more of her having a chance of cheating again.
The choices I see are:
You could break up with her and have a fully new start at UNI. You could even find a great lass there
!.
or
You could stay with her and have to risk being cheated on again and just try and trust her. That I would find hard my self as I would be paranoid after what she did.
(I made it sound negative so to make it not just remember the good times you had and see if you still love her)
Just do what you think is best and I hope you do pick right decision.
The choices I see are:
You could break up with her and have a fully new start at UNI. You could even find a great lass there
!.or
You could stay with her and have to risk being cheated on again and just try and trust her. That I would find hard my self as I would be paranoid after what she did.
(I made it sound negative so to make it not just remember the good times you had and see if you still love her
)Just do what you think is best and I hope you do pick right decision.
If you think you can really truely forgive her then go for it by all means, a good way to tell if you can is; Imagine the two of you are going out again...but you have a really big arguement-do you throw the cheating in her face? If so then you havn't really forgiven her and you wouldn't have much of a relationship, but if you wouldn't then (you are a much bigger person than me hee) don't throw away what you have.
If she just freaked and wanted to keep her options open, but still felt loyal enough to you to not actually do anything.... I wouldn't necessarily be worried.
The question is, do you trust her? I think it's understandable she'd want to cover her tracks if she realised it was just a huge mistake. But do you think she actually takes the relationship as seriously as you do?
The question is, do you trust her? I think it's understandable she'd want to cover her tracks if she realised it was just a huge mistake. But do you think she actually takes the relationship as seriously as you do?
It was wrong what she did, but if you can forgive her then go for it. I cheated on my boyfriend early on in my relationship and he forgave me and we have been together for 2 years now and would never do it again. However, if it does happen again then I dont think it would work out.
It really depends on one of two things:
If she regrets it for the fact she has been caught then dump her there is nothing useful left in the relationship
If she regrets because she realises she was wrong and she hates herself for doing that to you then there is still something in the relationship
Thing is you'll be able to tell which one it is. If you ask her she'd always say the latter. You have to find out which one it was.
If she regrets it for the fact she has been caught then dump her there is nothing useful left in the relationship
If she regrets because she realises she was wrong and she hates herself for doing that to you then there is still something in the relationship
Thing is you'll be able to tell which one it is. If you ask her she'd always say the latter. You have to find out which one it was.
pay her less attention now thats its in the open.
dont get mad at her or forgive her. it will make her interested. and if shes not interested, you keep your pride.
dont get mad at her or forgive her. it will make her interested. and if shes not interested, you keep your pride.
If she lied about cheating how can u be sure she isn't lying about "not touching him"? Emotional deceit is just as bad if not worse than physical deceit. Fuzzy Hamster i'm with you on this one not being the bad guy but keeping the OP's options open.
There's no excuse for cheating, at all. full stop. If you're not happy with someone tell them there is no need to be so dirty and immature no matter how far into a relationship you are.
You need to ask yourself if you could really trust her and continue to be together knowing that a leopard never changes its spots or can u truely work through this together?
Hope it all works out honey, keep your chin up
Love n hugs
~* Robs *~
There's no excuse for cheating, at all. full stop. If you're not happy with someone tell them there is no need to be so dirty and immature no matter how far into a relationship you are.
You need to ask yourself if you could really trust her and continue to be together knowing that a leopard never changes its spots or can u truely work through this together?
Hope it all works out honey, keep your chin up
Love n hugs
~* Robs *~
Its been hard for me didnt get much sleep and feel like **** to be honest. she keeps saying she sorry but how do i know she didnt do anything, i mean i could ask her friend what exactly happened. its messed me up soo bad, i can't even look at a picture of her.
keep a cool head when you talk to her, i mean you love to bits and i'm sure you dont want anything bad happening in your relationship, but hell ya she did cheat on you, ask her why? what was the need? what was wrong with you woman? but like she said she didnt touch the guy, find out that for sure!!
Mate, dump her ass. If you forgive it willhappen again my last gf cheated on me and i forgave her I then spent like 70 quid on getting her a present as i was on holiday. 3 days after getting back she dumped my ass. So i would do it as otherwise she will do it again, or think well he has forgiven me once he will probably forgive me again. As much as it hurts to hear it it is true you deserve someone better. I didnt want to hear it at the time but i realise I am better off without her even though I miss her. Plus the rebound sex/break up sex is always the best.
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