Is it because i'm Chinese?

I'm an Indian living in the UK I had loads of racism from jealous people,it's the white lower class,they are jealous of our success we are doing better than them in their own country .So don't worry about it and study well.

In honest opinion, I'm not here fishing for compliments or sympathy, this is a genuine problem that I'm having and some genuine advice would reassure me.
I'm a British born Chinese girl, 5'3 and I wouldn't say I was ugly but I'm definitely not pretty - just below average.
So having been living in the UK for all my life, I've always been a victim of racial bullying that was until I got into university. I think being called 'chinky' n all the **** has literally lowered my self esteem. And I've always felt ugly next to my friends whereby guys always choose them over me like being partners or such. i was always the one left with no partner until a friend's would feel sorry for me and be my partner. I've never really had a boyfriend, been asked out or even kissed. I've tried internet dating, but realistically, I findthey don't work out. I have penty of male friends but I always find myself friendzoned or they end up liking my friend's. I am a sociable person but its like guys never ask for my number or show any interest. I'm already 20 so I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with the way I look. I'm fashionable, don't wear tonns of makeup, play games, watch anime, smart. I'm currently studying a respectable degree, I drink n all that but I've literally got nothing and its making me feel like ill forever be alone.
There must be a reason why I'm getting no guys. I'm not desperate, its the fact that everyone around me can easily get someone...I've liked a few guys but they just don't return the feelings and I know it can't be forced.

I haven't ever seen the Sydney Opera House in real life, but I don't doubt that it exists.

Why do you insist on denying that these girls exist when they plainly do? You must be wilfully blinding yourself to reality.



You're completely missing the point. Firstly, I'm not Cyrano de Bergerac for Asians.

Secondly, this doesn't address the Brontosaurus in the room - which is that it might be nothing to do with being Asian/Chinese/Oriental - but it might be something peculiar to yourself.

Thirdly - why £440?

What gibberish, it's alright to blow your own trumpet but please don't make such silly claims.

I can empathize with you in not finding yourself attractive to others perhaps due to past experiences of racism and bullying. However , I do have one problem with your initial post it seems just like quite a few black women, you as a Chinese women growing up in the west are also obsessed with seeking validation from Caucasian men and I assume these guys who are in your circle or trying to attract are probably Caucasian males and therefor you too are excluding others from getting close to you even guys who are oriental like you.

Of course you used the excuse or reason that oriental guys not are not so open which is used so many times I am not really going to believe it, because it is just a blanket statement generalising a whole group. There also oriental guys who were born and grew up in western nations who you could get to know, who would have a more similar attitude to you.

Of course if I am wrong of you seeking only the attraction and validation of Caucasian males in a potential relationship feel free to correct me. Just remember though that if it is true you cannot complain about these men not finding you attractive since you too have your own taste in men which does not seem very open. If a male who was not of your liking lets say he was a darker skinned male probably black you probably would reject him just as the Caucasians reject you so would you not be a racist in this example? Or is it not your right to choose who you want to be in a relationship with for whichever reason?

Is there a double standard here at play? You can choose but they cannot. Everyone has tastes and different culture and they are free to be with who they want, I am not going to be so quick as to call every Caucasian male who finds you unattractive racist. It's also troubling that these same guys who you say find you unattractive and in the past perhaps were racist and bullied you are the same group of guys who you seek as a partner.

I can only guess like every other women in society it's for the same reasons the Caucasian male seen as dominant and the best example of success in these western nations, you like other women seek them out because to be with one is a sign that society has somehow accepted you , you now belong and are as worthy as any other women who is an example of western beauty.

I know this post is likely to offend others, however, it was not written to offend these are my thoughts on the initial post and if anyone wants to contest them feel free. Perhaps I am totally wrong with my assumptions and the poster is attracted to a wide variety of men although I doubt it, I will leave it to her to respond.

What gibberish, it's alright to blow your own trumpet but please don't make such silly claims.

It may be due to a confidence issue, and also, despite the common misconception, it is fine for YOU to approach guys. Don't worry if you get rejected, keep persisting and eventually you'll get them.

Edit: Guys are also desperate to find girls interested in the things you're into, I and most other guys would LOVE to be with a girl who's got interests like Anime and gaming, and most of all someone who is smart. Do you know many girls I know that have literally nothing in their heads? That must be the biggest turn off. How dull can some girls be to have not even pondered an idea in their lives. Smart girls with desirable hobbies are a rarity. I suspect it must be either something wrong with the way you look, or the way you carry yourself.

If you want, please PM me a picture of your face or a whole body shot, I'll objectively tell you what's going wrong and what you're doing right with no bull**** or exaggeration. If it is an attraction issue, you can overcome it by increasing other traits to increase your desirability.

I'm an Indian living in the UK I had loads of racism from jealous people,it's the white lower class,they are jealous of our success we are doing better than them in their own country .So don't worry about it and study well.

I know some. And have seen more in my travels. Also I've had white gfs so theres that.

But you're mixed so that ruins your argument. You love racist threads huh?

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I'm an Indian living in the UK I had loads of racism from jealous people,it's the white lower class,they are jealous of our success we are doing better than them in their own country .So don't worry about it and study well.

I'm 18 in a couple of months and I was born and bred in the UK but I am of Pakistani descent and suffer a lot of racism. I couldn't care less as it's from all these lower class people who are just full of jealousy.


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I'm 18 in a couple of months and I was born and bred in the UK but I am of Pakistani descent and suffer a lot of racism. I couldn't care less as it's from all these lower class people who are just full of jealousy.


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I find Chinese girls to skinny.

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'Tis not a silly claim really, although it may be exaggerated slightly, and you being on tsr as long as you have probably should have known that - just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it's gibberish and not true