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    In February this year i had a major fall out with my friends and we haven't talked since. They were my friends since year 10 and i finished year 13 this year. We all went to different colleges.
    They were also my only friends, i didn't make any in my 2 years at college, i obviously talked to people in the class but they were just people i talked to, not really friends so i was alone outside of classes spending time in the library.
    The last day of college was horrible even though everyone else seemed to have the best time of their lives which made me feel even worse about myself.
    Its now the summer holidays and I've been stuck at home for weeks bored out of my mind, there's nothing to do where i live its pretty much a ghost town so i just sit here day in day out waiting for my A level results (which I'm scared Sh**less about)
    I tried hanging out with some of the people i met in my class, they all said that they wanted to do something over the summer holidays but when it actually came to making plans they just blew me off.

    Is there something wrong with me? I just hate sitting at home and not socialising (I don't really like Clubs and I'm kind of shy).
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    I am in the exact same situation.

    I'm not really the popular type, however my group of friends would have been. They love to go out drinking, and I don't. I was also the only girl out of all of us that had a boyfriend, so if I hung out with him instead of them, I got a lot of crap for it. My closest friend turned on me the most and belittled me so much that I had to take the last week off school before study leave for A2 exams. Perfect timing, I know. Now that the exams are over, they are all out partying, I haven't heard from any of them - and to be honest, I don't particularly care. I was just too different from them.
    I also hated this year because of my lack of friends outside of that group - I prefer to sit in and play video games than go out drinking. I know, I'm weird.

    At this present moment I am doing the exact same thing. I'm an only child and my parents work full-time so I am usually sitting in the house by myself. I've tried to make plans with some people who I am friendly-ish with, but nothing has been arranged for definite so far, and it's almost August.

    And as for results day, I am also terrified - mainly because since sitting the A2's I've realised that the course I've applied for (English Literature at Queens Belfast) is not what I want to do any more. So I have no idea what I want to study, and what I'm going to do after results day.

    I don't think that there's anything wrong with you at all. I hate sitting in too, but I'm also quite shy. Perhaps you could look into volunteering for a couple of weeks until after results day - just to take your mind of things? Unless you already have a part-time job. You could look into classes that can be taken near your hometown - I live by the sea so I'm thinking of taking up kayaking. You could keep trying to make plans with people. I personally find this difficult after been cast aside from people's plans because I feel like I'm annoying everyone by being there, but you could still try.

    Please don't give up, and don't think that you're the only person that feels like this - because until I read your post, I felt like nobody was in the same position as I was.
    I hope things improve for you, and your results turn out well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In February this year i had a major fall out with my friends and we haven't talked since. They were my friends since year 10 and i finished year 13 this year. We all went to different colleges.
    They were also my only friends, i didn't make any in my 2 years at college, i obviously talked to people in the class but they were just people i talked to, not really friends so i was alone outside of classes spending time in the library.
    The last day of college was horrible even though everyone else seemed to have the best time of their lives which made me feel even worse about myself.
    Its now the summer holidays and I've been stuck at home for weeks bored out of my mind, there's nothing to do where i live its pretty much a ghost town so i just sit here day in day out waiting for my A level results (which I'm scared Sh**less about)
    I tried hanging out with some of the people i met in my class, they all said that they wanted to do something over the summer holidays but when it actually came to making plans they just blew me off.

    Is there something wrong with me? I just hate sitting at home and not socialising (I don't really like Clubs and I'm kind of shy).
    (Original post by HNSE)
    I am in the exact same situation.

    I'm not really the popular type, however my group of friends would have been. They love to go out drinking, and I don't. I was also the only girl out of all of us that had a boyfriend, so if I hung out with him instead of them, I got a lot of crap for it. My closest friend turned on me the most and belittled me so much that I had to take the last week off school before study leave for A2 exams. Perfect timing, I know. Now that the exams are over, they are all out partying, I haven't heard from any of them - and to be honest, I don't particularly care. I was just too different from them.
    I also hated this year because of my lack of friends outside of that group - I prefer to sit in and play video games than go out drinking. I know, I'm weird.

    At this present moment I am doing the exact same thing. I'm an only child and my parents work full-time so I am usually sitting in the house by myself. I've tried to make plans with some people who I am friendly-ish with, but nothing has been arranged for definite so far, and it's almost August.
    In the exact same situation , the friends that I thought i'd made at college don't actually want to go out or do anything with me and i've spent most of my summer alone.

    I've got a part time job but its only weekends.

    During the days i've just been forcing myself to go out and enjoy things alone.

    I've been going cinema alot by myself and started a film blog.

    Been reading alot.

    Today i'm going out to central london by myself , might do a bit of shopping and just enjoy the weather before going to see hercules. I know its incredibly sad but I don't want to become a recluse.;

    I'm considering looking for a club or something to join , think that would be best for you OP.
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    Oh my God, I'm in exactly the same position as well.

    I assumed I had friends, as they all said we'd do things during the summer, but they've arranged nothing, or they message me saying we should do something, and then I never hear from them again. This summer I've probably been out around twice. I feel like I'm wasting it so much because I literally sit around the house all day staring at the computer screen or watching the TV. I also live in a ghost town, so I have no idea if there are even groups I can join here =/ If there are, I don't know how to find them? Or where to volunteer?

    It's so good to hear of people who are the same, though, as I actually thought I was the only one. Seeing people's posts on Facebook about their holidays and what good times they're having just brings back my depression. I have money...I get invited to numerous events on Facebook, but I have no one to go there with, and I know I'll have a bad/awkward time without the support of a friend.
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    Yeah, I know your feelings. I'm gonna move to new city, in other country far from I am from, so no friends for me for a while. I decided to take a gap year. So the question for me remains: where the hell should I get new friends? I just hope to find some at my job (I will try to look for a work placement with a lot of communication) or look at activities around. Dunno, I feel kinda stressful about that but I know from my experience that everything's better when you are calm. Just relax, enjoy your time alone, talk yourself into believing that you are awesome (because I think you are!) and go somewhere, in so event where people would be friendly and ready to expand their circle.
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    This is so sad
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    Me 3 I am also in this position. I stopped talking to them. They were so fake to me that I can't deal wit it

    And I am terrible at making friends
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    My school friends, about 4 of them, a couple of years ago now, told me to not contact them again and stay out of their way (no explanation, nothing had happened as far as I know), have never really recovered from it, and often end up walking the streets like a saddo or going to random places and pretending to enjoy it when I don't so I don't end up locked in the house. Doubt I will ever be able to ahve proper friends again tbh.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My school friends, about 4 of them, a couple of years ago now, told me to not contact them again and stay out of their way (no explanation, nothing had happened as far as I know), have never really recovered from it, and often end up walking the streets like a saddo or going to random places and pretending to enjoy it when I don't so I don't end up locked in the house. Doubt I will ever be able to ahve proper friends again tbh.
    i know how you feel espcially since they were you only friends and you never attempted to make others because you thought you had them :'[

    MY friends didn't tell me not to contact them again because they were too 2 faced and didnt have the guts ;/
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    It's sad to know that people with the same interests as me are in the same situation as me. Maybe we should all meet up and be friends. That would be nice.
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    I can relate rather well to this

    Although I really never had many friends in the first place, I was a keep to myself type of person. Although in primary school I did have some close friends, most of these stopped talking to me once we got into secondary school, after that point I just didn't bother, I went to a, well, not very good School, so I didn't bother after this.

    In College, I guess I opened up and related well with other people, although I had the same situation as you, they were just people I spoke to in the class, once College finished we no longer spoke, with that in mind, I have a feeling that the majority of the people in my class would just use me for help with work.

    Also rather bored out of my mind, but I do what I usually do, sit inside, read books in preparation for university, in addition to the exams I have registered for beginning of October.
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    (Original post by xalmis)
    It's sad to know that people with the same interests as me are in the same situation as me. Maybe we should all meet up and be friends. That would be nice.
    Are you in the same situation ?


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can relate rather well to this

    Although I really never had many friends in the first place, I was a keep to myself type of person. Although in primary school I did have some close friends, most of these stopped talking to me once we got into secondary school, after that point I just didn't bother, I went to a, well, not very good School, so I didn't bother after this.

    In College, I guess I opened up and related well with other people, although I had the same situation as you, they were just people I spoke to in the class, once College finished we no longer spoke, with that in mind, I have a feeling that the majority of the people in my class would just use me for help with work.

    Also rather bored out of my mind, but I do what I usually do, sit inside, read books in preparation for university, in addition to the exams I have registered for beginning of October.
    you remind me of someone i know. How did you get talking to people in your class anyways. I just kind of need help with that
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    you remind me of someone i know. How did you get talking to people in your class anyways. I just kind of need help with that
    Since I don't particularly care about anonymity (I have no idea why I posted as anonymous.

    I'm Autistic, so I actually have a hard time socializing with many people. Most people in my class were actually understanding of this, so I didn't really have much to lose.

    Admittedly, my social incompetence was always usually fear of what I'd say, or what people would think of me. Even then the vast majority of people in my class were usually the first to talk to me. Again I think this was probably just to become my friend to get help with the work.

    I think, if you're anything like myself, then you just need to bottle up and find the guts to make a conversation. If people become your friend then that's great, if they don't then just keep trying, you really have nothing to lose. If they end up thinking of you in a negative aspect after being your friend, then they aren't really good friends.

    All of the people I've ever been in a relationship with, I've met over online and then met them in person, they've all been of close distance so it wasn't really an issue seeing them. Strange stories about how I actually met them.

    Think of it like this, with friendship I've always found that it's quality of the friends that you have, as opposed to the quantity of friends you have.
 
 
 
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