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sorry if people are bored of this but honestly what are people's views on cheating.
at the start of my relationship my bf hi fived me because we both had cheated when we were about 14 and in other relationships. he said that you needed to do it sometime in ur life to know how it all felt afterwards and probably put u off doing it again. i dont agree with once a cheater always a cheater, each person is different.
as a child i was always against cheating with anyone because i felt "omg he doesnt love me anymore" but now i dont think i would get upset or end a relationship; obviously thats dependent on how far it went. i feel mature enough to deal with my feelings and except that kids get temptations. me and my best friend think that if we were to cheat we would know our intentions and that it would just be a one off, we'd be in control and we would know our true feelings so it would be just lust etc. but if the bf cheated we wouldnt know what was going through his mind.
and all my male friends views on young relationships are ".....you're not going to marry each other...."
sorry if i seem like im out to cheat. im not.i was just wondering do u need to go through it to have a proper stance.
at the start of my relationship my bf hi fived me because we both had cheated when we were about 14 and in other relationships. he said that you needed to do it sometime in ur life to know how it all felt afterwards and probably put u off doing it again. i dont agree with once a cheater always a cheater, each person is different.
as a child i was always against cheating with anyone because i felt "omg he doesnt love me anymore" but now i dont think i would get upset or end a relationship; obviously thats dependent on how far it went. i feel mature enough to deal with my feelings and except that kids get temptations. me and my best friend think that if we were to cheat we would know our intentions and that it would just be a one off, we'd be in control and we would know our true feelings so it would be just lust etc. but if the bf cheated we wouldnt know what was going through his mind.
and all my male friends views on young relationships are ".....you're not going to marry each other...."
sorry if i seem like im out to cheat. im not.i was just wondering do u need to go through it to have a proper stance.
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No, you don't. I've never cheated (and hopefully never will) but my stand on it is definite and clear.
It's far better to have integrity and be honest in the relationship. If you think it isn't going to work out, then spit it out. Either way, it'll end - you'll just make the ending a little uglier.
It's far better to have integrity and be honest in the relationship. If you think it isn't going to work out, then spit it out. Either way, it'll end - you'll just make the ending a little uglier.
I don't get cheating... it makes no sense - that lust theory is a load of crap!!! Personally when I am with someone, I only want to be with them... for me to be in a relationship with them is a huge thing - they obviously push all my buttons - mentally and physically. If your feelings change then end the relationship - don't disrespect the person by abusing their trust, loyalty and love? Have some metal about you!
Also can you really class a 'relationship' at 14 as a real relationship...?
Also can you really class a 'relationship' at 14 as a real relationship...?
hmm dont mind me i was just bored at work
14 gosh no. ive been trying to reason with people that your first real relationship shoudlnt be classed as your first ever. i think its when you copulate but obviously not everyone does before marriage and they can still have relationships.
i think what i was getting at is that if cheating does come up. u might feel uggh but ur young and it shouldnt be the be all or end all. and i think im getting at the angle where everything in the relationship is perfect but it just happens.
yeah i make no sense
14 gosh no. ive been trying to reason with people that your first real relationship shoudlnt be classed as your first ever. i think its when you copulate but obviously not everyone does before marriage and they can still have relationships.
i think what i was getting at is that if cheating does come up. u might feel uggh but ur young and it shouldnt be the be all or end all. and i think im getting at the angle where everything in the relationship is perfect but it just happens.
yeah i make no sense
I've never cheated, those who say everyone cheats are so wrong, if you truely loved your partner you wouldn't feel the need to stray.
I have cheated and im not proud of it. At the time i was in a relationship where i think the felings were more friendship based than love. he cheated on me aswel which is not a justification for what i did. However I think the whole concept of once a cheater, always a cheater is not always true. Since what happened i would never cheat on my partner nor have i been tempted to. Im very much in love with him and i think ive learned from my mistakes in that if i was ever in a situation where id be tempted to cheat i would rather end the relationship then go through with it. Since ive got older i think ive grown more mature in my decisions.
janesmith
i think what i was getting at is that if cheating does come up. u might feel uggh but ur young and it shouldnt be the be all or end all. and i think im getting at the angle where everything in the relationship is perfect but it just happens.
If you are mature enough to be in a proper relationship, sex or no sex, then you are mature enough to take responsibility for your own actions. If you cheat then obviously everything in the relationship isn't perfect... you wouldn't stray, you wouldn't be tempted, you wouldn't want revenge, rebellion, whatever other excuses there are.... the person you are with would be enough!
Perhaps if one party did cheat, the pair could work out why and how to fix the problem and if they wanted too... some times trust just doesn't heal. I personally just don't think it should happen in the first place!
janesmith
i think what i was getting at is that if cheating does come up. u might feel uggh but ur young and it shouldnt be the be all or end all. and i think im getting at the angle where everything in the relationship is perfect but it just happens.
If the relationship is perfect, then it doesn't 'just happen'.
If you're young enough that you think cheating isn't a big issue then you are too young for a serious relationship, in my opinion.
There's nothing worse than people who cheat and then say 'oh it was an accident, I didn't want it to happen', and generally act like they had no control over the situation. Unless they are an utter pleb, then they clearly did have control over it, and just lack the balls to take responsibility for their own actions.
Lust is absolutely not a good reason to cheat on someone and anyone who thinks it is, is quite frankly a few crumbs short of a cookie. People cheat because they are plebs, not as a result of some overwhelming force beyond their control!
Nutter
No, you don't. I've never cheated (and hopefully never will) but my stand on it is definite and clear.
It's far better to have integrity and be honest in the relationship. If you think it isn't going to work out, then spit it out. Either way, it'll end - you'll just make the ending a little uglier.
It's far better to have integrity and be honest in the relationship. If you think it isn't going to work out, then spit it out. Either way, it'll end - you'll just make the ending a little uglier.
Ditto.
*shrugs* I don't think cheating necessarily has to mean the end of a relationship, and if someone cheated on me, I'd definitely give them the opportunity to explain why they did it. I just don't see it as that big an emotional thing, necessarily, and I don't think relationships can be perfect.
Then again, I've never exactly been in a 'proper' relationship, so my views might change.
Then again, I've never exactly been in a 'proper' relationship, so my views might change.
fpsg
...where the other brothers leave it be
but its stuck hard down like chewing gum
and now I'm on the floor singing R.I.P
but its stuck hard down like chewing gum
and now I'm on the floor singing R.I.P
yessssss. i didnt think anyone would get that. u actually made my day. thats all the post was about
i havent read all the posts but i will do im not cheating, i'm just unsure whether it really is soul destroying and whether you can forgive etc. i respect everyones decisions and views.
paintedblind
*shrugs* I don't think cheating necessarily has to mean the end of a relationship, and if someone cheated on me, I'd definitely give them the opportunity to explain why they did it. I just don't see it as that big an emotional thing, necessarily, and I don't think relationships can be perfect.
yeah the emotional thing is what i was getting at. i didnt mean perfect to the true sense of the word just that there was no cause for concern. im not saying we should cheat, just why cant we all deal with it without it being such a damning hurtful thing...but then again some men and women are sluts and carryon cheating
Did anyone else read the title and think the contents were going to be:
"OMG my bf came onto the carpet and its dried on, how do I get it off before my parents come home IT'S A RACE AGAINST TIME OH NOES!!"
Cheating bad. But not always end of world. Everyone feels differently about these things.
"OMG my bf came onto the carpet and its dried on, how do I get it off before my parents come home IT'S A RACE AGAINST TIME OH NOES!!"
Cheating bad. But not always end of world. Everyone feels differently about these things.
janesmith
yessssss. i didnt think anyone would get that. u actually made my day. thats all the post was about
i havent read all the posts but i will do im not cheating, i'm just unsure whether it really is soul destroying and whether you can forgive etc. i respect everyones decisions and views.
i havent read all the posts but i will do im not cheating, i'm just unsure whether it really is soul destroying and whether you can forgive etc. i respect everyones decisions and views.
Love it. Seen it live and its one of his best songs!
Sorry to say I'm kinda in the same camp as the other guys you know - i.e "you're not going to get married" etc.
Its bad, you shouldn't do it, but I don't necessarily think it makes you an awful person.
I think going through it on either end will always change your perspective but that doesn't mean you can't have a stance without the experience.
I've cheated in the past. It was stupid. I felt like **** and it's not worth it. I was too gutless to own up to it and I broke up with my poor confused boyfriend a week later.
LouE3D
Also can you really class a 'relationship' at 14 as a real relationship...?
Also can you really class a 'relationship' at 14 as a real relationship...?
I started going out with my boyfriend when I was 14, and were still going out now, at 17. And I hope to go out with him forever!
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