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    Broke up with her last November. She does not know I'm on Facebook as I don't use my real name.

    There were a few mutual friends that she posted some lies about me and I came across it.

    Some of it are rather serious but it doesn't explicitly state my name but I could tell she was talking about me.

    Should I just let it be or confront her about it?
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    Leave it. She is doing it to get attention. As much as it pisses you off, she isn't your problem anymore. The fact that you have thought about it, seen it online, "could tell she was talking about you" etc shows that you have given this more thought than you should have. ....There's nothing for you here. Let her vent, she will shut up soon enough.
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      It's Facebook. Grow up and do something productive instead.
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      (Original post by stargirl63)
      Leave it. She is doing it to get attention. As much as it pisses you off, she isn't your problem anymore. The fact that you have thought about it, seen it online, "could tell she was talking about you" etc shows that you have given this more thought than you should have. ....There's nothing for you here. Let her vent, she will shut up soon enough.
      Love this post "and she will shut up soon enough". It's true though OP. As bad as it is, unless what she is doing is illegal then don't engage.

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      (Original post by will2348)
      Love this post "and she will shut up soon enough". It's true though OP. As bad as it is, unless what she is doing is illegal then don't engage.

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      Why thank you :grin:
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      A swift Left Hook should sort her out.
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      Definitely call the ***** out!!!
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      (Original post by stargirl63)
      Leave it. She is doing it to get attention. As much as it pisses you off, she isn't your problem anymore. The fact that you have thought about it, seen it online, "could tell she was talking about you" etc shows that you have given this more thought than you should have. ....There's nothing for you here. Let her vent, she will shut up soon enough.
      I have no doubt why she is doing it.

      The problem is she is posting **** that simply is very far off from the truth. It is along the lines of she is in financial trouble and it is because I owe her money that I have not paid back. Then she has the cheek to add to it the reason why I borrowed money from her was due to gambling debts and a payday loan which got out of hand. I would have ignored it but 2 of her friends work at the same place as I do in a decision making capacity thus I'm a bit worried this may or will affect their judgements. For the record I don't gamble or borrow money and it is her who still owes me money that I now can't be bothered to pursue.

      Then the other is she posted that I had beaten her in the past. While I'd have ignored it, the problem is she posted it on the wall of a girl I'm trying to pursue.
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      I have no doubt why she is doing it.

      The problem is she is posting **** that simply is very far off from the truth. It is along the lines of she is in financial trouble and it is because I owe her money that I have not paid back. Then she has the cheek to add to it the reason why I borrowed money from her was due to gambling debts and a payday loan which got out of hand. I would have ignored it but 2 of her friends work at the same place as I do in a decision making capacity thus I'm a bit worried this may or will affect their judgements. For the record I don't gamble or borrow money and it is her who still owes me money that I now can't be bothered to pursue.

      Then the other is she posted that I had beaten her in the past. While I'd have ignored it, the problem is she posted it on the wall of a girl I'm trying to pursue.

      Okay I understand now. This is a little more intense than you first made it out to be. What's her motive here...is it attention or does she still love you? In the people that have an influence on your life eg the people you work with, you need to speak to them,don't make a big deal,but say to them if they have any questions to speak to you,don't believe everything you hear etc. I would recommend that you get closer to them that they can't misjudge you...You will have more of an influence seeing them at work than what they read online on fb. Use it to your advantage and make sure they know who you are. For example, if my friends read something completely false online,they would know straight away because they know me.

      Unfortunately it may be one of those things that you need to ride out and until your ex is not bitter, it could continue. How long where users dating and how long since you broke up?
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      Ignore, doing anything else will only promote a response.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      Broke up with her last November. She does not know I'm on Facebook as I don't use my real name.

      There were a few mutual friends that she posted some lies about me and I came across it.

      Some of it are rather serious but it doesn't explicitly state my name but I could tell she was talking about me.

      Should I just let it be or confront her about it?
      whats the rather serious accusations?

      you sure she aint accusing you of being abusive too?
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      Ignore it, she's not worth your time and people who you know you for who you truly are - will know her accusations are false anyway.
     
     
     
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