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Depressed - but my mum is not being helpful Watch

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    I still live with my parents, and recently I quite my job due to bullying. I have some money to live on, and I am spending the summer trying to recover from my depression and get over my mental illnesses. I have had a lot of damage done to me by these bullies, and I may never be the same again.

    However, my mum just called me lazy because I haven't started looking for work again yet. I told her that I probably wouldn't be until Christmas at least, but she seemed to not like that.

    I still pay the same rent as before, so what difference does it make to her?
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    I do not think it's a matter of whether or not you pay her rent. It seems to me that you mother is more concerned about you. It seems like she wants you to be up on your feet and moving on from the bad times as soon as possible. It's hard for a parent to see their child go through something like bullying - and the effect that it has on their child, no matter how old they are.

    MY sister was not bullied, but she does have social Anxiety disorder, and for a time, it seemed that my parents knew she was different, but I guess they did not want it to be official that there was something different. IT's like a larger scale of the kind of thing we all did when we were younger, when we say to our parents that we don't feel well, in the morning, just before school. From my experience, my Mum would always suggest that I went to school anyway, unless I was physically showing signs of a more nasty illness.

    Our parents want us to be great and do well in life. They love to be proud of our achievements - they don't want to see us in an bad state. In some cases, they feel that it reflects badly on them, as though they did not do a good job as a mother or father. Because of this, sometimes they don't realise when they can help you in certain areas of your life, because they may be too caught up in what they would like you to be, rather than what is actually before them.

    Your Mum cares about you and wants to make sure that you can sustain yourself and stand up for yourself. She does not want to see her child in depression every day, she wants to see them live life to the full. And you should!!
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