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    Now half way through summer as I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed looking at other people's posts when I realized I currently no friends at all. I have made plenty of acquaintances during first year of uni in classes and societies but few- none of them kind of stick. I have a distant friend or two but that's it. Being an international student kind of sucks during first year because I have to adapt to my new environment and studies that kind of stuff, I thought I wouldn't be homesick but I was wrong, but by the end of the year my homesickness kind of fades away. I was diagnosed with Aspergers at Year 10ish and I already had trouble making friends in the past. Back at my high/middle school I had no friends, constantly being bullied back in the early years and the only person I had considered to be a really close friend at high/middle school abandons me during my first year of uni (coincidentally, we chose the same course at the same uni) and the really sad thing is the person(s) who I consider to be very close are my teacher(s) back in high/middle school, and we aren’t even that close!

    I really try to blend in during my uni societies, I even attend one regularly but while people there are very friendly, they are just acquaintances, and that's it. Now as year 2 is gradually approaching I am starting to feel scared that I have to live another year of lacking a decent social life. I don't want to feel lonely, I just want to have a social life of a typical uni student, is that even hard to ask? I know that I have caused this problem but I can't feel that fate is trying to play me
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    try inviting some people to an event or something like a meet up at nandos on the weekend. then maybe you'll be invited out for stuff too i had problems making friends in my first year at college but after i invited them out they did the same and we've since become a tight bunch. sometimes you need to make the first move.
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    Well how much did you go out and socialise and really get to know people over a few beers and try to turn these aquaintances into real mates?
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    Well why not try to get to know people more? Go out together, organise meeting for food or drinks or whatever.

    One thing though, you could hardly expect someone to stay friends when you go to the same uni , as you each have other friends/change as a person so grow out of each other, so to speak. It happens to a lot of people at uni.

    You have complete freedom to do what you want at uni. So if you get people to do things with you, a friendship will build!
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    I realize that this is a duplicate post but thank you for the reply!
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    i am an international student as well and back home i was never popular but i had friends but ever since i moved nothing, i tried a lot, but people are difficult, i have acquaintances but no one i would call a true friend.

    my advice: dont force your friendship on people, you have to let it take it's course, see how other people interact and you do the same, and when you talk to people make sure you dont do all the talking and frequently ask them questions eg: so how was your last lesson?, so what did you think the football yesterday? etc. and make sure you dont give up im sure you'll meet likeminded people soon
 
 
 
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