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    Now half way through summer as I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed looking at other people's posts when I realized I currently no friends at all. I have made plenty of acquaintances during first year of uni in classes and societies but few- none of them kind of stick. I have a distant friend or two but that's it. Being an international student kind of sucks during first year because I have to adapt to my new environment and studies that kind of stuff, I thought I wouldn't be homesick but I was wrong, but by the end of the year my homesickness kind of fades away. I was diagnosed with Aspergers at Year 10ish and I already had trouble making friends in the past. Back at my high/middle school I had no friends, constantly being bullied back in the early years and the only person I had considered to be a really close friend at high/middle school abandons me during my first year of uni (coincidentally, we chose the same course at the same uni) and the really sad thing is the person(s) who I consider to be very close are my teacher(s) back in high/middle school, and we aren’t even that close!

    I really try to blend in during my uni societies, I even attend one regularly but while people there are very friendly, they are just acquaintances, and that's it. Now as year 2 is gradually approaching I am starting to feel scared that I have to live another year of lacking a decent social life. I don't want to feel lonely, I just want to have a social life of a typical uni student, is that even hard to ask? I know that I have caused this problem but I can't feel that fate is trying to play me
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    I might have posts copies of this, but because I cannot view them at all no matter how I tried they got deleted so I decided to make a new post about this. I have copied the text from my previous posts. I was legitimately trying to find answers on this forum and I have no idea why the moderators keep bugging me from the start at all. I am really frustrated right now.
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    I had a similar problem to you, only I made loads of friends at school but not in uni.

    I managed to overcome the loneliness bit by moving out and sharing a flat. Which, in turn, introduced me to a lot of very good exclusive events which get sold out at every turn (because they're that good).

    I know moving out may not be an option for you, but it was the only thing which worked for me.
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    Samesies! I do feel a bit gutted about it, but I met my boyfriend on the first day I moved into halls and we've been together ever since, so that's something
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    Well I am moving to a private hall next year because my uni is over enrolling new undergrads... but it's fine for me because I think the private hall is just like a regular uni hall the last time I checked it is fully booked by the uni's students... so fingers crossed... but I am still scared I can't be making any friends. this was a stark contrast to my overconfidence last year just after my results came out (i overachieved my offer) and that got me thinking i can achieve almost anything but apparantly I can't. I know there isn't a real formula out there to tell me how to make friends but I really want to try, I just can't bear myself living in this sad life all alone every night... even in summer...
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    (Original post by mattsoubala)
    Well I am moving to a private hall next year because my uni is over enrolling new undergrads... but it's fine for me because I think the private hall is just like a regular uni hall the last time I checked it is fully booked by the uni's students... so fingers crossed... but I am still scared I can't be making any friends. this was a stark contrast to my overconfidence last year just after my results came out (i overachieved my offer) and that got me thinking i can achieve almost anything but apparantly I can't. I know there isn't a real formula out there to tell me how to make friends but I really want to try, I just can't bear myself living in this sad life all alone every night... even in summer...
    Moving into a private flat makes it much easier to make friends, trust me
    Even though one of my flatmates has been socially awkward at school, she still socialises with us.
 
 
 
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