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    I've been depressed for about a month now. This is mainly due to the fact that I was rejected from all my choices to study medicine in the UK. I know it's very hard to get a place in medical school in the UK but I was so determined and mentally prepared to become a doctor and gain admission that it became the only thing I could properly think about.

    My rejections made me even more determined and I managed to score very highly in my exams, ensuring that I could apply to even better unis than before. But the thing is, I was happy for only about a week, because then I realised that I would have to take a gap year whilst applying to universities again.

    A gap year would be fine for me if my parents were actually supportive. They were fine with me wanting to study medicine, but they think I'm "wasting a year" instead of doing something productive (they're Asian btw). My dad especially has expressed his discontent with my decision and has been nothing but mean throughout. It hurts me that he doesn't realise how important it is for me to study the course that I want to. He's also mad that I've only chosen to apply to the UK for medicine, even though US and Canadian universities don't offer undergraduate medicine, and have impossible restrictions on international applicants who choose to study medicine after their bachelor's. I really don't look favourably on medical universities in Malaysia, India or Dubai because I really like the UK; I want to study the course of my choosing but also live in a country with a good quality of life where I can have fun, socialise, date etc.

    I'm also scared that I may never achieve the goal that I have set for myself. I feel stuck, like some kind of loser. The lack of progress in my life is scaring me. I'm a very ambitious and driven person so this "idleness" is making me go crazy. I have the grades now and I need to do really well on my ukcat and bmat but I am terrified that I might screw up again

    Anyways I'm just upset that my family isn't as supportive of my goals as I am.

    I also feel this way. I came home from work last night to have my brother blurt out that my step dad said I won't get into uni, for health resins I believe, and I just want to cry.

    What I do suggest is that you look through courses, list the entry requirements and which unis they correspond to and apply to the lowest ones, hoping for unconditional offers. If you are not accepted, you can go through a process called clearing in which you can apply directly to the university and some might accept you for lower results than entry requirements.

    Remember, your success isn't just judged on your career, but also your happiness. If you need help, there should be some free phone services so you can talk to people about this.

    Also, can you complete mock papers for your ukcat and bmat? This may help too.
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