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Screwed up relationship with friend

I have this guy friend I've known about a year, and we've been pretty good friends all year. He's quite...odd...very 'open' when it comes to talking about sex, ie. he'll say anything, anytime and people just take it as a joke. But it creeps me out sometimes, I guess I'm a bit of a prude.

Anyway, at the end of school we were at a party and I was dancing with him and his hands kept slipping down onto my butt. And he kind of ducked his face in, I guess trying to kiss me, but I turned away so all he got was hair. Anyway, things are completely different now - he hasn't really mentioned it and I think he was drunk, but he def. remembers it. Our friendships totally screwed now - I can't hold a conversation with him, can't even be in the same room alone with him, just cos he really freaks me out now. I don't know what to do! Am I just being a total prude?
Reply 1
Is it because you're scared he might bring it up and you won't know what to say, or that you're just freaked out by him?
Reply 2
Both I think - more so that he'll bring it up though. I'm never comfortable when people discuss sex so openly, but it's just worsened by what he tried to do
Reply 3
Maybe you've just grown appart as you've grown up. Some times you simply have to let certain friends slip away.
Reply 4
law:portal
Maybe you've just grown appart as you've grown up. Some times you simply have to let certain friends slip away.
I disagree totally. I don't think many things are big enough an issue to lose a friend like that. Friends are meant to be for life.
Reply 5
I've only known him a year though! And before this party he was a good friend, we got on well. And he's part of my friendship group too - everyone likes him, and whenever sex comes up in our conversations (quite a lot - yes they're obsessed) they'll all be like, 'Oh no don't talk about this in front of Sarah (me) she'll start feeling uncomfortable'! Which I kinda hate. Eugh I don't know what to do :frown:
Reply 6
Anonymous
Both I think - more so that he'll bring it up though. I'm never comfortable when people discuss sex so openly, but it's just worsened by what he tried to do
You could either find some courage and talk it over one day so it needn't be brought up awkwardly or you could give it some time to let it die away.
Reply 7
justfarhan
I disagree totally. I don't think many things are big enough an issue to lose a friend like that. Friends are meant to be for life.

...in an ideal world, sure. What I'm saying is that sometimes friends just drift appart and you have to accept that. What I'm not saying is that friendships should be broken after arguements.

And back to the OP:

I think your giving yourself a bit of a hard time. You are who you are - and from what you've said/sounded like so far that doesn't seem so bad :smile:

Are you attracted to this guy, at all?
Reply 8
it happens if he was pissed, im in similar situation from tuesday nite, but slightly worse, not spoke to her yet. might just ignore her til after uni!

im sure he feels bad, and wont say anything, thats how i feel anyway with my situ, so maybe thats how he feels, also if u rejected him he deffo wont wanna bring that up!
Reply 9
the same kinda thing happened to me with one of my best friends last year, except we actually hooked up and were seeing eachother for a while. then we went on holiday and were like a couple but then decided to break it off when we got home, and our friendship was weird for a while. but now it's fine again, and we're both going out with other people!

but yeah, i know its weird and confusing...maybe you just need some time? or like a "private chat" to actually spill it all, get it sorted? :dontknow:
Reply 10
Don't let something like that ruin a friendship. Sure, friends can do stupid things sometimes, but at the end of the day they are "friends", and they're hard to come by.
Reply 11
why dont you talk to hima bout what happened and tell him you dont want your friendship ruined because of it.
Reply 12
law:portal

Are you attracted to this guy, at all?


No no no lol, not at all. I think I'll just forget about it and hope things go back to normal. Cheers for the advice :smile:
Reply 13
I think he fancied you all along (or at least after a short while of being friends).
Reply 14
i dunno.
i can't tell if you're upset by the friendship being screwed or you want it to be screwed?

i think from the sound of things stuff won't go back to the way it was.. if he freaks you out that much just keep it mutual - hello & hi's surely can't be a problem?
You need to address the problem head on and then move on