Shes Finally Comming Back Next Week..

Had a heart, heated and emotional convo with the x.
We split 2 motnhs back while she was on vacation as she didnt want to live a life full of sins and lies.

She clearly indicated to me she wanted to be with me but couldnt cause of the sins and lies last week and then indirectly she told me she wanted to be with me but we will have to cut down meeting cause of final year.

Today everything was brought up (the past and present/future).
I got heated about the past and she got upset and started crying and then felt ill. Anyway she did deserve me talking to her straight which she couldn't handle hence the drama. Anyway she is confused and doesnt know whether she wants to be with me, as in she does but she doesnt want to follow her heart. Everytime I mention being with her as a couple she runs 10 miles, if I dont mention being a couple she naturally comes to me. She said she wants us to have the name as close friends but be more, then she said no just friends and then again confused.

In the end the credit ran out and I told her by text that if u dont want to be with me Ill see u at the airport where then we will talk and if u do want to be with me I await your reply today or tommorow.

Shes comming on thursday, the day after my resit at 8am. Its gonna be a tough one.

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Reply 1

generalebriety

Good luck... nothing more I can say really. :smile:

.......I'm confused.

norelle

.......I'm confused.

About?

Reply 4

norelle

Everything. Could you maybe simplify it a little bit?

Reply 5

sweetface.

But the real question is do you like her?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Well basically we were together for 2-3 months then because she had to lie to her family and live a life of sin (physical before marriage) she regreted what happened.
Now she is comming back to UK (we split up 2 months back while she was abroad) she was getting more close to me via phone and online.
She doesnt know what she wants but when I bring up the direct question of where we will stand she is totaly confused.

Ive given her a choice via text. If she replies before thursday (the day she lands at the airport) we will be together and if not then me and her are finished.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Lyndzxx

But the real question is do you like her?

Yeah and I thought I loved her as well.

Reply 8

norelle

Ok, marginally clearer. I'm not sure trial by text is the best way to go - surely you should meet face to face and work out how you feel?

Also, why do you keep using the phrase "life of sin"? Is that how you see it or how she does?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Life of sin is how she sees it.

Reply 10

sweetface.

Well if she see's it as a sin to date you, well you should respect her views.

Reply 11

WaW™

Well best of luck mate. Thats all i can say really.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Lyndzxx

Well if she see's it as a sin to date you, well you should respect her views.

She already went out wid me for 2 months and in that time she didnt seem guilty one bit, hence why im confused as to what she want and what really is going on in her mind.
On the phoen last night she said we will be good mates but be more then that. When I asked for detail she then refused to say we can get physical.
Its like she wants us to be close without me saying we are so & if anything goes wrong she will return back to saying I told u we are just mates.

Reply 13

jess850

i dont think this sounds like a gd situation, in my opinion it is in ur best interests to leave it if u can. u want completely different things, shes (intentionally or not) playing head games with u, u will get frustrated and confused- not basis for gd relationship or friendship. i think its best to end it now, it will hurt more later. texting about these issues isnt v effective, talk to her in person

Reply 14

WigBaM

Leave her. Tons of girls with clear heads around, m8.

Reply 15

decoy

Ive given her a choice via text. If she replies before thursday (the day she lands at the airport) we will be together and if not then me and her are finished.

you seem to have it worked out.
i don't see what the problem is, you know what you want.
even though this is confusing, sounds to me she has no clue, move on.

Reply 16

pol_student

Anonymous

Ive given her a choice via text. If she replies before thursday (the day she lands at the airport) we will be together and if not then me and her are finished.

Don't EVER give an ultimatum like this unless you are REALLY 100% sure you can go through with it. I did that once and the recipient was so shocked that I could do that and set a deadline, they didn't respond... But then I realised that I didn't really mean it, I just thought I did.

We then spent the next few weeks in a very werid place trying to work past that... during which time we had loads of arguements because then we not only had original problem, I had given us a whole new problem to add to the mix.

I think you're playing a risky game here... unless you are sure you can stick to it (I really thought I could - but it turns out I really didn't mean it, I just thought I did).

Good luck whatever happens.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

well she wants to be mates I want to be more. Shes confused, im not.
I gave her an ultamatum based on the next few days of contact.
If she texts me by monday she wants us to work and if not I will speak to her on thursday at the airport.

Reply 18

santogold

good luck (for your exam as well)

Reply 19

Ulala

All I would say is that it won't end I guess... I mean is she's so confused now, what will be later on... She just does not know what she wants, regrets sex with you... when you love somebody you don't have doubtd do you? And if you do, you don't care.. that's just my opinion