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Not sure he understands

I'm really worried about uni - about how I will cope with the work and making new friends, but also about being apart from my bf (we have been together nearly two years). Also I am going to uni in my home town, which I almost decided not to do, but the uni is really excellent so I thought it was worth it (he also encouraged me). However this means that I don't even have the excitement of going somewhere new, which I'm slightly disappointed about. I'm going to throw myself into it whole-heartedly when I get there but this doesn't stop me worrying now, especially about him finding everything about uni so great that he just forgets about me. However when I tried to talk to him about my insecurities he got really stressed at me, saying he would have loved to get into the uni I'm going to and that all my worries are silly. He also got stressed saying that he has done all this preparation stuff, like finding about about trains from his town to mine and researching the best phone contracts so that he will be able to keep in touch with me, which he said shows he's more committed than me because I've "just complained". The thing is I don't have a whole lot of preparation to do, because it's my home town - e.g. I can always come home to use the phone. Now I feel like I can't say anything about my worries because he'll just think I'm whining. Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts or advice? Sorry about the long post btw

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User69701

This is a common problem. You can always try to maintain a long distance relationship, but they rarely work. I think you know that which is why you are insecure. You should try to talk to him again. If he still compkains to you it may be better to end it now and start afresh in uni.