How do i break it to her??

Although she may not be happy, she is your mum and will support you in this. If you want to keep the baby your mum will accept that, even if it upsets her. My mum went through a similar thing when she was 17 and she is now really close to her mum because they went through it together. Whatever you decide to do good luck xxx

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Lady of the Lake

She'll respect you more for telling her, she's not going to cast you out or disown you you're her daughter and she loves you, plus she'll be made up about becoming a grandma!

Good luck and post pics,

Charlotte xxx :smile:

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Shout Box

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get an abortian. Dont tell her .......

Reply 4

You should be proud of yourself for choosing to keep the baby. A lot of women in your position would choose the easy solution. It sounds like you are an educated individual and you have respect for yourself and the gift of life that you can give.

Even though you may not have planned this, your mum will surely see that you have made a decision and respect that it is yours and yours alone.

I'm obviously speaking from a male standpoint but I did know someone who was very scared to tell their mum that they were pregnant.

History_is... made a very good point, your mum will accept it and she will stand by you.

Good luck.

Reply 5

Shout Box

get an abortian. Dont tell her .......

What an irresponsible post.

Please note: I would not take advice on abortion from anyone who can't spell it.

Reply 6

Yeah Shout Box is an idiot. Sorry but yeah, that was dumb.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Abortion should be on the agenda. Bringing up a kid on your own isn't fun and games. How about the kid with no father?

How about your life and your exams, and never going to university?

Reply 8

Really i personally think abortion should never be on the agenda, but everyone is individial sop not going to have that argument here. But is the OP wants this baby nothing else is as important as that. Exams and uni are selfish reasons to do such a thing, and just because it isnt all fun and games doesnt mean it isnt sometimes amazing and wonderful, and totally worthwhile. Kids without fathers can do fine if the mother is there for them.

Reply 9

Solid_L

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Anonymous

How about the kid with no father?

I'm sure that if you asked the child in 10 years time, it wouldn't say "I wish I wasn't born because I don't have a father."

Just a thought.

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BeesKnees

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My sister got pregnant the year she was going to uni and my mom was soooo mad at her and even wanted her to have an abortion but your mom loves you and yes, she may be angry at first but she will get over it and then try to focus on supporting you. By the way, my sister has managed to go through uni...with her baby (cutest thing alive btw :smile:

)... and she's currently in her last year of uni. It is very hard work but it's doable. I don't want to sound biased but I cannot say what it's like having an abortion . What I do know is that my sister says she knows she would've regretted it all her life if she'd had an abortion but ultimately, the choice is yours. Do what you feel is right.

Reply 11

History_is...

Really i personally think abortion should never be on the agenda, but everyone is individial sop not going to have that argument here. But is the OP wants this baby nothing else is as important as that. Exams and uni are selfish reasons to do such a thing, and just because it isnt all fun and games doesnt mean it isnt sometimes amazing and wonderful, and totally worthwhile. Kids without fathers can do fine if the mother is there for them.

Agreed. Although we don't really know for sure that it wouldn't have a father. She said it was a one night stand but it's possible she knows them, could tell them and perhaps they would want to help raise their child. Even if that isn't the case, a father figure could be provided in the shape of any future partner.

I'm with you on your stand regarding abortion too.

Reply 12

Beesknees that is such a lovely story, just proves that people can do these things, and sometimes things work out in ways you dont expect! sorry reading that just really made me smile. xx

Reply 13

Ulala

It's a tough decission, but I am sure I do not have to remind you of this... You're not old enough to have a baby - in the context of being 'mature' - you dont afraid about the baby/abortion/bringing it up, but about - "how to tell it to my mother", you're just a child... I dont know what to write, what tips to give you, I personally would keep the child and go to university - and leave the child to my mum, than I would take it back after leaving uni. But it's from my perspective, it's tough and honestly saying, I can't even put it into my mind. Sorry.

Reply 14

Ulala

You're not old enough to have a baby - in the context of being 'mature' - you're just a child...

That's not your place to say.

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Anonymous #1

OP

I thought maybe i could go to uni when the baby is older, do u think that would be possible? Do uni's accommodate for that sort of thing? How fair would it be on a young child if its mum is studying all the time.

Reply 16

Ulala

It's a tough decission, but I am sure I do not have to remind you of this... You're not old enough to have a baby - in the context of being 'mature' - you dont afraid about the baby/abortion/bringing it up, but about - "how to tell it to my mother", you're just a child... I dont know what to write, what tips to give you, I personally would keep the child and go to university - and leave the child to my mum, than I would take it back after leaving uni. But it's from my perspective, it's tough and honestly saying, I can't even put it into my mind. Sorry.

And you call the OP too much of a child! I disagree completely i have to say, the OP seemed to have thought about the situation, and really breaking such an idependant and mature decision to a parent who still considers you a child would undeniably be difficult, and it is not a bad thing that she is asking for advice on it.

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Anonymous

I thought maybe i could go to uni when the baby is older, do u think that would be possible? Do uni's accommodate for that sort of thing? How fair would it be on a young child if its mum is studying all the time.

There is absolutely no reason why you cant do that later in life, you studying will only be like a mum who works, which many today do. Plus if you do your course part time, it needn't be that time consuming,

Reply 18

*titanium*

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atomheartbrother

Please note: I would not take advice on abortion from anyone who can't spell it.

So us dyslexic people are not welcome here either?

Reply 19