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Is it over?
I have a friend who I have known since primary school and I don't think I can trust her. When we were younger we were very close but it just seems we are drifting apart.
I've known her since we were 4 years old, but I don't know that much about her at all. She has never invited me to her house, I didn't even know she had a step father and know she is lying about the university she is going to.
We both took gap years to resit our papers and apply again to uni, but she texted me on the day we were supposed to go saying she will not be attending. I wouldn't have minded if she had told me in advance rather then get my hopes up, I stayed because I thought she was going to be there, otherwise I would've gone to uni. (I did want to improve my grades that was my main priority). It turns out she was coming but only for one lesson.
I planned to go to uni this year and it turns out we want to go to the same uni. I wasn't to happy about this because I wanted to go somewhere by myself so I can make new friends and be independent. However I got used to the idea, now she tells my other friend that she isn't going to the uni.
I know it sounds I rely on her to much, i don't really because I am pretty independent but if someone tells you they are going to do something you get used to the idea and it makes a harder year a bit easier knowing you have your friend there. The uni thing isn't too much of a problem since I knew she wasn't going to go. It's the constant lies and secrets that gets me.
She knows a lot about me but never shares information about her life to anybody, not even her close friends. Most people are like that and I really do not deal well with emotional stuff but since I have gotten older I feel I have been a good listner and more sensitive to all my friends because I don't put that barrier up anymore.
I understand if she doesn't want to tell me about deep stuff because I was quite emotionally immature but I wasn't rude. But trivial stuff like university and stuff is a big secret when it comes to her.
I've known her since we were 4 years old, but I don't know that much about her at all. She has never invited me to her house, I didn't even know she had a step father and know she is lying about the university she is going to.
We both took gap years to resit our papers and apply again to uni, but she texted me on the day we were supposed to go saying she will not be attending. I wouldn't have minded if she had told me in advance rather then get my hopes up, I stayed because I thought she was going to be there, otherwise I would've gone to uni. (I did want to improve my grades that was my main priority). It turns out she was coming but only for one lesson.
I planned to go to uni this year and it turns out we want to go to the same uni. I wasn't to happy about this because I wanted to go somewhere by myself so I can make new friends and be independent. However I got used to the idea, now she tells my other friend that she isn't going to the uni.
I know it sounds I rely on her to much, i don't really because I am pretty independent but if someone tells you they are going to do something you get used to the idea and it makes a harder year a bit easier knowing you have your friend there. The uni thing isn't too much of a problem since I knew she wasn't going to go. It's the constant lies and secrets that gets me.
She knows a lot about me but never shares information about her life to anybody, not even her close friends. Most people are like that and I really do not deal well with emotional stuff but since I have gotten older I feel I have been a good listner and more sensitive to all my friends because I don't put that barrier up anymore.
I understand if she doesn't want to tell me about deep stuff because I was quite emotionally immature but I wasn't rude. But trivial stuff like university and stuff is a big secret when it comes to her.
She's a crap friend. Although, to be honest, I've had very 'closed' friends like this before... specifically, one I was close to. I can't offer any advice because he started being really nice to me for about a year and we got really close then he refused to speak to me again. 
Just leave her. Especially if you're going to uni after this year. Do your best to get through this year without her then **** her, she's on her own, as are you, in separate places free to make friends. (And feel free to confront her too, as long as you're not too emotionally attached to her - after all, you don't want to go to uni never knowing what happened.)
Just leave her. Especially if you're going to uni after this year. Do your best to get through this year without her then **** her, she's on her own, as are you, in separate places free to make friends. (And feel free to confront her too, as long as you're not too emotionally attached to her - after all, you don't want to go to uni never knowing what happened.)
By the way, for anyone who's interested, that's possibly the least useful post I've ever made on here. 
yeah i can think of one particularly closed friend and it did mean i never got too close to him. he was always willing to go out and have a laugh, but some things he just wouldn't want to talk about.
i'm pretty comfortable sharing opinions / secrets / personal things with anybody i trust, but it seems strange if it doesnt work the other way. ultimately for a friendship to last, you need trust on both sides. you'll probably find you will forget about her very soon when you make friends you can rely on.
out of interest, does she have mood swings? some days you wonder why you ever got mad at her, and others where u just can't wait for her to get out of your sight?
i'm pretty comfortable sharing opinions / secrets / personal things with anybody i trust, but it seems strange if it doesnt work the other way. ultimately for a friendship to last, you need trust on both sides. you'll probably find you will forget about her very soon when you make friends you can rely on.
out of interest, does she have mood swings? some days you wonder why you ever got mad at her, and others where u just can't wait for her to get out of your sight?
Shamon
yeah i can think of one particularly closed friend and it did mean i never got too close to him. he was always willing to go out and have a laugh, but some things he just wouldn't want to talk about.
i'm pretty comfortable sharing opinions / secrets / personal things with anybody i trust, but it seems strange if it doesnt work the other way. ultimately for a friendship to last, you need trust on both sides. you'll probably find you will forget about her very soon when you make friends you can rely on.
out of interest, does she have mood swings? some days you wonder why you ever got mad at her, and others where u just can't wait for her to get out of your sight?
i'm pretty comfortable sharing opinions / secrets / personal things with anybody i trust, but it seems strange if it doesnt work the other way. ultimately for a friendship to last, you need trust on both sides. you'll probably find you will forget about her very soon when you make friends you can rely on.
out of interest, does she have mood swings? some days you wonder why you ever got mad at her, and others where u just can't wait for her to get out of your sight?
Yes that's exactly how it is. No she doesn't have mood swings she keeps everything bottled inside. I am going to uni in september this year so I guess it's time to move on... right?
Shamon
that's my plan
It's just a shame since we have done lots of things together. It's not nice when you give and your friend doesn't want to give back. She is not mean spirited in anyway, but she doesn't make the effort to contact anyone. I am the sort of person who makes friends with a small group of people and am very close to my friends.
I am going to Brunel, which isn't to far away from home. I am not sure if it's time we grew apart, I mean I have a friend who calls me regularly to see how I am doing. I haven't seen her in 5 years, but we know alot about what has happened to each other.
This friend doesn't even call me at all, she just leaves cryptic texts on my phone
This friend doesn't even call me at all, she just leaves cryptic texts on my phone
I hate people who lie, closed is one thing but I had a friend (and it took me months to realise this) but practically every other statement she made was a lie-it was kinda freaky and she lied about some really bad things too so if there's even the slightest chance she's like that ditch her now-a lot of people get hurt where serial liars are concerned.
ASprinkleOfPixieDust
I hate people who lie, closed is one thing but I had a friend (and it took me months to realise this) but practically every other statement she made was a lie-it was kinda freaky and she lied about some really bad things too so if there's even the slightest chance she's like that ditch her now-a lot of people get hurt where serial liars are concerned.
Really? My friend isn't that bad she is quite honest. It's just these couple of years she has lied about things which didn't need to be lied about.
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