Need advice on gf v.talking to other guys

Ok so my post doesn't seem to be showing....huh

Here it is
I'll just get right to it. The girl I've been dating for about 4/5 months is always talking to other guys on the internet saying how fit and good looking they are on these myspace type things, she talks to them on msn and lets them do "things" to her on camera and some times gets their phone numbers off them when they offer to give it out. I know she'd never meet any of them or doing anything.

I think I'm falling for her but all my mates have told me that she's playing me and couldn't have feelings for me if she's doing all this.

So what I'm asking is it normal for girls to do this if they're with someone, should I leave her?
thx

Reply 1

Sazarina88

11

Your mates are right.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Could it just be that she's like this by heart and doesn't know what she's doing hurts. I really don't want to be without her but just want to know why she's doing it.

Reply 3

decoy

Talk to her about it.

Reply 4

Sazarina88

11

jcu

Talk to her about it.

That's my usual advice. But if I were the OP, meaning I would've gone through a sex change, even if I talked to my girlfriend about it and she said she wouldn't do it again, a) I probably wouldn't be able to trust her and b) What other stuff has she done that I don't know about?

Sure, go ahead and talk to her if you think it will help anything.

Reply 5

decoy

Yeah true.

Well if she's letting them do things and getting numbers and you don't feel like talking to her then just move on, 'cause she may end up meeting them one day, you never know.

Reply 6

User69701

10

It does look like she is playing you. If she was calling these guys fit or whatever in person then it is considered wrong. It realy doesn't make a difference how she does this.

If you wnt to remain with her then talk to her about it. I would think it is best to dump her.

Reply 7

khil

15

Talk to her - give her another month or two and see how it goes. If she carries on this way, I'd leave her if I were you. Anyone would know that a bf would be jealous if you keep telling him how other guys are fit. She's either deliberately doing this because she's playing with you, or she's deliberately doing this to get your attention and make you jealous cus she's insecure.

Reply 8

Schmokie Dragon

17

Talk to her. If she completly blows you off, or gets an attitude on, then she could well be bad news. If she is any kind of decent human, she will understand that what she is doing gets to you (even if it seems quite innocent to her) and she should stop.

But for all you know, this is just harmless messing around. You need to ask her, try and get into her head. But be ready to suss out excuses and lies.

Above all else, don't get angry and don't accuse her. She is more likely to get defensive and full of attitude if you do. Be nice, be calm and just ask her.

Get revenge

sounds to me like she might have low self confidence and so she is trying to prove to herself that she is attractive etc. Just let her know how much you think she great and tell her it upsets you. then see how things go.. good luck!

Reply 11

lilac!!

15

well the best way is to talk to her, tell her that what she is doing is not right in a bf/gf relationship and she should not do it, i mean you have been together for a cupple of months, she should understand!! good luck xx

Reply 12

JamieInPompey

6

the myspace saying ppl are fit is nothing at all it is the norm to make ppl feel good about themselves. If u go on to most peoples myspaces you will see loads off comments like fittie or well hot, and it doesnt mean ****. But doing stuff on webcam is bang out of order and you are better off without to be honest mate.

Reply 13

Ron Stoppable

14

Talk to her, in person, about it - you'll find it easier to gauge her true intentions that way.

geordie2006

Get revenge

Alternatively, listen to geordie2006 and do what the man in this fantastic little film does. :wink:

Reply 14

username47781

20

Yeah i would talk to her about it and if she says stop being stupid, ditch her, she does seem bad news.

Reply 15

Ulala

You all people say: "talk about with her" etc... While I'll answer his question - is it normal that girls do it? It is normal!
No matter if you have bf or no... it's just harmless flirt, nothing much.
It's the same what you boys do with porn movies etc.. - it's just the example. When you do it, you don't betray anybody.
It's just one of your 'spare time activities'.... that all msn thing or yahoo.... there's nothing bad in it and it has nothing to do with having a boyfriend or with a real relationship. She's just having 'fun' and I think that it's better doing it online than in real life...

Reply 16

ledge

Ulala

You all people say: "talk about with her" etc... While I'll answer his question - is it normal that girls do it? It is normal!
No matter if you have bf or no... it's just harmless flirt, nothing much.
It's the same what you boys do with porn movies etc.. - it's just the example. When you do it, you don't betray anybody.
It's just one of your 'spare time activities'.... that all msn thing or yahoo.... there's nothing bad in it and it has nothing to do with having a boyfriend or with a real relationship. She's just having 'fun' and I think that it's better doing it online than in real life...

Sorry could you repeat that?

I understand not

Reply 17

toffee2

1

ledge that doesnt even NEED repeating i can understand it fine

Reply 18

username68316

3

You've not got too much to worry about mate. On myspace people i know often act like different people, and dont show their true personality as a front. Its nowhere near as meaningful as in real life, but if you're genuinely concerned, the do as others have said, and talk to the gal

Reply 19

khil

15

Ulala

You all people say: "talk about with her" etc... While I'll answer his question - is it normal that girls do it? It is normal!
No matter if you have bf or no... it's just harmless flirt, nothing much.
It's the same what you boys do with porn movies etc.. - it's just the example. When you do it, you don't betray anybody.
It's just one of your 'spare time activities'.... that all msn thing or yahoo.... there's nothing bad in it and it has nothing to do with having a boyfriend or with a real relationship. She's just having 'fun' and I think that it's better doing it online than in real life...

If you're commited to a person then you should not be trying to seduce other guys "for fun". That's playing with people's feelings and I have no respect for anyone who does that, male or female.

And I also think you should not watch porn, period, let alone have my bf watch it. If I'm meant to be the girl you love, why do you have to drool over other women's bodies? Am I not good enough? If I'm not - then screw you, let's break up. (not you specifically - just my train of thought)

Need advice on gf v.talking to other guys

Related discussions

Articles for you