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How 'couply' do you expect couples to be?

I was just wondering what most people expect from couples at social occasions. Today my boyfriend and I went to a barbeque with a group of people we didn't really know (friends of his friend). We sat next to each other and we talked to the same people but we didn't really hug or kiss or anything. I said that this wasn't very 'couply' and he got stressed and completely disagreed with me, saying that because we were together that was 'couply'. Just wondering what the general opinion is on this?

Reply 1

RachelBabyfrog

14

It depends on the occasion.

When we're with other people, if we're sat next to each other, one of us would usually have a hand on the other person's leg or something, but that would be it, really.

Reply 2

squigaletta

i hate sitting on knees eating face kinda thing, way 2 far, had a friend hu did it allll the time, its disgusting, but id say at an event like that holding hands nd pecks, with the odd hug thrown in, but no more

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

I expect them to be as couply as I tell them goddammit! :mad:

Reply 4

bedbug

14

I'm the type to get fed up with people being too couply in a social situation. If they've come to see other people then they shouldn't be acting as if they're alone. Sitting together, sure, but not constantly touching, hugging, kissing, etc - it gets a bit nauseating.

If it's a group of friends then I'd just expect them to act like friends and keep their couply stuff for when they're alone together. But maybe I'm just intolerant.

Reply 5

foxiroxi

10

Depends, when I went to a barbeque with my family and friends we just sat together, held hands, rest on one or others leg etc. In the house (his or mine) we will sit cuddled but won't kiss etc, just be together.

Reply 6

Ron Stoppable

14

As couply as they choose to be! Friends' reactions will give them ample feedback to re-calibrate their behaviour if need be.

Reply 7

Sazarina88

11

squirly

I'm the type to get fed up with people being too couply in a social situation. If they've come to see other people then they shouldn't be acting as if they're alone. Sitting together, sure, but not constantly touching, hugging, kissing, etc - it gets a bit nauseating.

If it's a group of friends then I'd just expect them to act like friends and keep their couply stuff for when they're alone together. But maybe I'm just intolerant.

I wouldn't say you're intolerant. I'd agree with what you've said.

They can be all lovey dovey when they're alone, I don't need to see them playing tonsil tennis thanks.

Reply 8

plainjayne

9

it depends on the situation, the relationship (seriousness of it, length) but most importantly your personalities, personally i am pretty shy so i go red just holding my boyfriends hand in public, but other people seem fine being all over each other in social situations

dont worry about it at all

Reply 9

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Anonymous

I was just wondering what most people expect from couples at social occasions. Today my boyfriend and I went to a barbeque with a group of people we didn't really know (friends of his friend). We sat next to each other and we talked to the same people but we didn't really hug or kiss or anything. I said that this wasn't very 'couply' and he got stressed and completely disagreed with me, saying that because we were together that was 'couply'. Just wondering what the general opinion is on this?

Well people have different perceptions of 'couply'. I know people who are all over each other in public, people who kiss and hold hands in public and other ones who just kinda just don't do nowt and are more like best friends than an exact couple. You just never know.

Reply 10

Josiejo31

lol, im quite intolerent i guess! i hate when a friend turns up with a boyfriend and then aftre that you never can speak to them again until they break up. I think if its a long term relationship if your out with your friends you should seperate for short period of time to speak to your friends. Your guy should be alright with your friends for ten minutes!!
Am im just really intolerent?

Reply 11

sssh

10

Anonymous

I was just wondering what most people expect from couples at social occasions. Today my boyfriend and I went to a barbeque with a group of people we didn't really know (friends of his friend). We sat next to each other and we talked to the same people but we didn't really hug or kiss or anything. I said that this wasn't very 'couply' and he got stressed and completely disagreed with me, saying that because we were together that was 'couply'. Just wondering what the general opinion is on this?

Hmmm...you shouldn't feel pressurised to be "couply" or think you ought to be a certain way. That sounds normal to be; I think you're overanalysing.

I guess it depends on where you are - if you're with a group of friends then you don't want them to feel uncomfortable (I know I hate it when couples are all over each other in public, so I try to remember that when I'm with my boyfriend)

Reply 12

Luize

13

Well I usually hold my bf's hand when just out walking about.
And there are small kisses and hugs or touches (IE on the arm/leg/back) But this is only when I'm with my friends who have lived in halls with us for the past year.
With people that either of us don't know too well we don't show much affection. I try not to alienate people or make them feel awkward we have private time to do stuff.

(Though I did find that as the relationship got more serious we acted less coupley around people)

Reply 13

lil_sweetie

1

I've got couply friends who act differently - one, for example, are always all over each other, kissing and more if they're not out in public....some barely stand next to each because they aren't open about their relationship. It depends on the people.

Reply 14

suga_fly_77

6

RachelBabyfrog

It depends on the occasion.

When we're with other people, if we're sat next to each other, one of us would usually have a hand on the other person's leg or something, but that would be it, really.

ahhh u showed me round on my nottingham open day! :biggrin:

Reply 15

Lush Law

15

squirly

I'm the type to get fed up with people being too couply in a social situation. If they've come to see other people then they shouldn't be acting as if they're alone. Sitting together, sure, but not constantly touching, hugging, kissing, etc - it gets a bit nauseating.

If it's a group of friends then I'd just expect them to act like friends and keep their couply stuff for when they're alone together. But maybe I'm just intolerant.

This is exactly right. In one of my friendship groups at uni there is a couple and they're basically obsessed with other, to the extent that they are oblivious to anyone else all the time. It gets extremely annoying and in the end we told them to go out on their own rather than making us feel sick.

Reply 16

Bob_

The fact that you use the word "couply" says that you want to do what other people would expect a "couple" to do, and not what you two want to do...Do what you want to do...

Reply 17

Lοve

To my mind; the closer, the better: saves on bullets.

Reply 18

FireDeuce

14

Luize

Well I usually hold my bf's hand when just out walking about.
And there are small kisses and hugs or touches (IE on the arm/leg/back) But this is only when I'm with my friends who have lived in halls with us for the past year.

How the hell does he kiss your leg when your walking about? That's some talent.

Reply 19

RachelBabyfrog

14

suga_fly_77

ahhh u showed me round on my nottingham open day! :biggrin:

Did you get sweets? :biggrin:

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