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Terrified about uni

I'm in tears now writing this because I feel my life's a mess. I'm off to university in 3 weeks and I'm so scared about it. For years I've been waiting for this moment but now it's come I'm just so worried while everyone else seems to be excited. I really messed my choices up and ended up getting a place through clearing, so everything's been rushed and I'm really uncertain about whether I really want to go or not. As each day goes on and on I feel more and more depressed and anxious and I just don't know what to do because I don't feel I can back out now.

What does everyone else think? Do I give it a chance and see if I like it or relax a bit for a year and reapply? I just don't know, I don't know if I can really enjoy myself properly and loosen up if I'm this scared about it all. :frown:

Reply 1

mc_hamster

1

If you don't want to go you don't have to. Although loads of people feel this way before they go.

Reply 2

afcwill

11

Anonymous

I'm in tears now writing this because I feel my life's a mess. I'm off to university in 3 weeks and I'm so scared about it. For years I've been waiting for this moment but now it's come I'm just so worried while everyone else seems to be excited. I really messed my choices up and ended up getting a place through clearing, so everything's been rushed and I'm really uncertain about whether I really want to go or not. As each day goes on and on I feel more and more depressed and anxious and I just don't know what to do because I don't feel I can back out now.

What does everyone else think? Do I give it a chance and see if I like it or relax a bit for a year and reapply? I just don't know, I don't know if I can really enjoy myself properly and loosen up if I'm this scared about it all. :frown:

Im nervous about going to uni too but what is comforting is that there are thousands of other people like us feeling exactly the same. My advice to you would be to stop worrying first because there is no point in worrying about things that haven't even happened yet. you may loosen up a little when you go to uni, i would say dont back out of it, because if you were to take a year out what would you do? yo may end up worrying about it more whereas in a few weeks you'll know whether you like it or not.
Good luck, I know how you feel :smile:

Reply 3

LinziP123

i'm debating whether to take a gap year because i'm not excited about it all too like most my friends are, and i think i will be next year as i will have grown up more and be more sure it's what i want to do. Also the money situation is something that worries me and this time next year with a 9 to 5 job i could be £9,500 better off!!

Reply 4

Navajo

14

just give it a go. I was a little like that and (check my sig) you know how I feel now!

Just make it a new start in your life.

So if you go and if you hate it (btw I've been in Uni for a while and I don't know a single person who really hates it) who cares? It's your life do what you want.

In my opinion you'll love it and you'll think how the hell did I get through life without Uni!

But if you do decide to do it then throw yourself into it 100%, don't go thinking "well maybe if I keep my head down I'll...." just go and love it for what it is :biggrin:

And have some fun when your there, and Uni isn't that hard really :smile:

EDIT: also if you take a gap year then you'll probab;y be bored and you wont want to work academically after doing 'normal' work for a year, I've seen it happen :/

Reply 5

plainjayne

9

i felt exactly the same as you this time last here, so dont worry theres alot of change going on in your life at the moment as well as uncertanty. But its all part of growing up, i can tell you from experience i am a totally different person i was to this time last year, all because of the experiences i had from moving away to uni, studying, and most importantly meeting new people. I am sure if you give uni a chance you will find a new life and a new you, that you will love!!

just go for it!!

Reply 6

Navajo

14

LinziP123

this time next year with a 9 to 5 job i could be £9,500 better off!!

Yeah but if you have a "proper" degree, and by that I mean a degree with some job offers at the end, then your earning potential would be a lot higher compared to just working a 9-5. So in the long run of life, it's better to get into debt to secure a higher paid job in the future.

It's easy to think, "oh I could earn loads in the next 3 years instead of getting into debt" but if you earn min wage at about £14k compared with a £35k start with a degree, no prizes for working out which one will be better off.

Reply 7

Elusive

Ultimately, it is your decision. But I'd advise you to at least give it a go.

I'm worried/nervous about starting uni too, but so are the thousands of other students who are starting uni/college this Sept. We're all in the same boat, even if some don't show it as much as others. :]

& I agree 100% with Navajo's posts. Especially the fact that ALOT of people that take gap years never actually go to uni. I've seen it happen too. =/

Reply 8

Hana_1987

1

i took a gap year..i dont think i'll be bored in education but i feel ive grown up a lot, so things that people im at uni with might find funny, i won't and i'll think god they're so immature! when they probably not! also i'm so used to working rather than doing academic work, but i do miss doing academic work so i'm sure it'll be fine.i just ned to get back into the routine of reading and writing etc.
i know people who went to uni and hated it because they dont think they did the right course, or it's not the right uni for them..and they tried to stick it out because that's what they've been told to do, to give it a chance, but they feel that's hindered them a bit and they wished they switched in the first place.

Reply 9

Hana_1987

1

however everyone's different, so you may find you go there and love it so much and forget all your fears. good luck :smile:

Reply 10

khil

15

You've looked forward to this all your life - don't let a little irrational fear stand in your way. Most people are worried and nervous just before going, but if you back out every time you're scared then you'll never get anywhere. I understand things seem uncertain cus it's through Clearing - but what exactly is the difference? It's still a degree, a course you want to do and make it your career. Uni is what you make of it and as long as you make a group of good friends, you'll love it. What uni and course are you off to do anyway?

Give it a go. Give it a term and see if you enjoy yourself. If you hate the course and the uni you can always either transfer or just quit altogether. You don't have to go through the year - loads of people drop out all the time. On the other hand if you find that you love it, then you'll have lost nothing and would only have regretted it if you'd backed out now. Why are you so scared?

Don't worry hun :hugs:

Reply 11

Navajo

14

Yeah if you don't like it then screw it and go back home, no big deal really :smile:

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Give it ago. If you don't like it, then you can always drop out and reapply.

Unless, that is, you want to improve on your grades. In which case you need to last minute beg somewhere to help you resit.

Reply 13

Sithius

16

Time for the unsympathetic view guys.

People out there are dying daily, losing family members, going through some serious emotional abuse.......

And you are complaining about going to Uni. How does that mean your life is in a mess?

I am genuinly interested.

Reply 14

Strictly Business

14

Sithius

Time for the unsympathetic view guys.

People out there are dying daily, losing family members, going through some serious emotional abuse.......

And you are complaining about going to Uni. How does that mean your life is in a mess?

I am genuinly interested.

Real talk.

At the end of the day, it was your fault you didn't get good enough grades for the course you wanted. It's time for you to start growing up and facing such situations instead of crying about them. Its a harsh life, nothing is garuanteed and you need to work hard for everything.

But... Seriously, stop worrying. Many people feel the same way, thinking that they won't fit in or make any new friends and etc. You'll get over it... I've never talked to anyone at Uni or who'se graduated who said it was a waste of time/money. Trust me, you'll be okay.

Reply 15

LinziP123

Navajo

Yeah but if you have a "proper" degree, and by that I mean a degree with some job offers at the end, then your earning potential would be a lot higher compared to just working a 9-5. So in the long run of life, it's better to get into debt to secure a higher paid job in the future.

It's easy to think, "oh I could earn loads in the next 3 years instead of getting into debt" but if you earn min wage at about £14k compared with a £35k start with a degree, no prizes for working out which one will be better off.

No you've got it all wrong, i meant just for one year. Most people have under a £1,000 in their account and will struggle if they go straight away but if you take a year out to work you can start with an extra £9,000!! No way do i not want to ever go!

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Sithius

Time for the unsympathetic view guys.

People out there are dying daily, losing family members, going through some serious emotional abuse.......

And you are complaining about going to Uni. How does that mean your life is in a mess?

I am genuinly interested.

I have lost my mother in the last few years to cancer and my dad now has cancer, therefore things are difficult and I feel alone and scared because of it...uni just seems like another difficult hurdle to overcome and I'm already exhausted. I hate having to justify the ****tiness of my life by telling people this all the time. I don't see why that should matter, even after being through what I've been through I don't begrudge people having their own troubles, however insignificant they may seem.

Anyway, thanks for all the supportive replies everyone. I do feel better after reading what you've all written and I'm coming closer to the mindset of just being able to give it a go and see what happens. I do get really over-anxious about things and always convince myself that something will go wrong, so maybe this is something I really have to start addressing.

Reply 17

Wonderboy Blue

1

Anonymous

I'm in tears now writing this because I feel my life's a mess. I'm off to university in 3 weeks and I'm so scared about it. For years I've been waiting for this moment but now it's come I'm just so worried while everyone else seems to be excited. I really messed my choices up and ended up getting a place through clearing, so everything's been rushed and I'm really uncertain about whether I really want to go or not. As each day goes on and on I feel more and more depressed and anxious and I just don't know what to do because I don't feel I can back out now.

What does everyone else think? Do I give it a chance and see if I like it or relax a bit for a year and reapply? I just don't know, I don't know if I can really enjoy myself properly and loosen up if I'm this scared about it all. :frown:

Mine was like that. You can transfer if you ask the uni people as soon as term starts, maybe even before. Or even withdraw/temporarily withdraw if you want to go to uni next year.

Don't worry. Transferrring or withdrawing is better than going on with something your heart isn't into just for the sake of it. Perhaps a uni closer to home would be good for you, then you can commute. Then transfer and do another course at a different uni if it suits.

You have so many choices, people will accept your decision whatever you choose.

Reply 18

cookie-monster

I'm petrified too. I changed my mind about unis and still second guessing myself. Just give it a go, if you don't like it then come home / transfer. That's my plan anyway =)

Reply 19

LinziP123

but if you've paid your fees do you get them back if you decide to quit?

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