Tick Tock

I've had open heart surgery a few times which has ultimately resulted in a massive scar down my chest and also you are able to hear one of valves closing on each heartbeat, much like a ticking clock, if it is quiet enough.

I've managed to get through secondary school, only telling my closest friends, not because I'm embarressed but just so it was easier than having to answer endless questions that young teens would probably ask. I'm quite self-conscious though when doing things like swimming etc.

I'm starting uni in september and realise that I'll be spending so much more time living with people that they will undoubtedly find out one way or another.

I'm just wondering how any of you would react to it. Would you immediately think I'm some kind of freak, and particularly for girls... would it put you off dating? It hasn't proved a problem in the past but then I suppose I've only told people who were close to me.

Thanks

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Reply 1

makecake

I think you are worrying about nothing! If anything it is an advantage because you have experienced something difficult and overcome it which is very endearing in a person.

and chicks dig scars...

Reply 2

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

Aw no of course not it wouldn't make any difference to me at all and I doubt it would to any other girl out there.

Reply 3

Kyle_S-C

I'd be very surprised if anybody really thought it was much of an issue. It's just a distinctive feature if anything. Just enjoy uni and don't worry. :smile:

Reply 4

KinkayGema

Aww not at all!! If they ask, explain. Nobody will think any less of you! If anything they will think more of you because you overcame something difficult!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

thanks for that guys. that's just what i needed to hear! :smile:

Reply 6

pingu_the_penguin

Of course it won't be a problem :smile:

stop worrying.

Reply 7

username47781

i think if anyone ever made fun of that then they probably got their own insecurities

Reply 8

Astaroth

I would find that interesting more than anything else, in a good way, and I'd probably ask you to tell me about it if it didn't bother you. I would also expect most intellectual people to react likewise..

Reply 9

Ronaldo VII

I cant see anyone being bothered by it at all, it wont be a problem :smile:

Reply 10

Dez

I can say with absolute truth that all I would want to know, had you not explained it in detail already, is how you ended up with such a scar.

Reply 11

emsy88

Honestly? I might wonder how you got it, but probably would not ask. And definitely would give no negative reaction what so ever. 100% sure nobody will say anything bad about it!

Dont worry, just enjoy your time at uni! :smile:

Reply 12

Scipio

I can guarantee you no one will think you're a 'freak'. ********s may on occasion pick on you about it as it's an insecurity, but I doubt even that would happen at university.

Na man, scars rock!

it really wouldn't bother me at all and i'm sure most girls would agree :smile:

Reply 15

Lοve

Inevitably, people will notice it. Indulge their curiosity in a witty and light-hearted fashion: if you manifestly don't care, neither will they.

Reply 16

KinkayGema

Totally, if anything people will be interested and maybe ask more about it. There not going to say 'Ohhhhh you tick!! You've got coodies!!!'

Reply 17

JamieInPompey

To be fair uni is a lot different from the pettiness of high school, sure at first there will be a few people trying to reclaim their high school ultimate popularity days but then they will realise they will have to grow up and most people will get on with most people

Reply 18

Tyler Durden

I'm not a girl, but seriously - as everyone else has said - I don't see how it could possibly be even the slightest of problems.

Reply 19

daydreaming

anyone who thinks your a freak because you have a scar from a serious operation is stupid and immature, and it's not worth thinking about these people.
the vast majority of people won't think of you any different because of the scar and the ticking.