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Speech therapy, any1 ever tried it?
hey all,
im gonna be going to uni soon and hopefully will get some interviews..I basically have very low confidence when speaking, mainly bcos my voice is easily drowned out and doesnt stand out. add to that, i speak fairly quickly and stammer alot too, esp when starting sentences with vowels, e.g. I. Yep a major prob...
What i want to know, is there any organisation that can help people who can speak normally but give sessions on speaking with clarity and confidence. I know theres tons of free advice such as, take deep breaths, dont rush things but ive found they dont really work as you've always gotta be thinking about it and when ur in a convo, i cant remember to do all those things.
does any1 else have this prob, and will it get better? so many ppl say oh you'll grow out of it, or put urself in more conversing situations but ive tried them and i feel like im stuck ?!
advice would be appreciated.
im gonna be going to uni soon and hopefully will get some interviews..I basically have very low confidence when speaking, mainly bcos my voice is easily drowned out and doesnt stand out. add to that, i speak fairly quickly and stammer alot too, esp when starting sentences with vowels, e.g. I. Yep a major prob...
What i want to know, is there any organisation that can help people who can speak normally but give sessions on speaking with clarity and confidence. I know theres tons of free advice such as, take deep breaths, dont rush things but ive found they dont really work as you've always gotta be thinking about it and when ur in a convo, i cant remember to do all those things.
does any1 else have this prob, and will it get better? so many ppl say oh you'll grow out of it, or put urself in more conversing situations but ive tried them and i feel like im stuck ?!
advice would be appreciated.
Reply 1
I bought this book called voice power, its no miracle but does help you speak more clearly, it does work.
If you go to a voice coach, well its going to cost you £500. Will be much better thne a book, but do you really want to spend £500? if its that bad that you can justify £500 then you could probably get it on the NHS.
If you go to a voice coach, well its going to cost you £500. Will be much better thne a book, but do you really want to spend £500? if its that bad that you can justify £500 then you could probably get it on the NHS.
Having a stammer is an extremely common speech impediment and many people have it in varying degrees. How bad is yours? Is it just once in a while, does it happen over every vowel word you say, and how long does it take for you to eventually get the word out? However bad it is, generally people are tolerant of it - they understand it's a speech difficulty, and will have the understanding and patience to let you finish what you're saying. I think it's more than half of people who have some sort of speech difficulty, so people will be patient. When you're going into an interview, tell yourself that these people are interested in what you have to say and will wait as long as you need for you to say it. This would hopefully enable you to relax, so that you can speak with less stammering.
Don't worry about your voice being drowned out or not standing out - in an interview, when you're talking, you'll be the only one talking! No-one's going to make a judgement on you based on your voice or the way you talk, so don't worry about it, try to relax, and you'll find that your confidence grows.
You also asked for information about organisations helping with this problem. "Mind" is a great organisation which specifically helps people with anxiety and offers ways to counter this - if your stammer and difficulty in speaking is a result of anxiety, you could look at this: http://www.mind.org.uk/
"AFASIC" is a brilliant UK charity which helps young people with communication disorders: http://www.afasic.org.uk/
You could also try the British Stammering Organisation, though I'm afraid I don't know much about this: http://www.stammering.org/
You could also try these websites:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/healthy_living/health_at_work/emotional_confidence1.shtml#confidence_in_interviews
http://www.wittcom.com/Build_Confidence_Speaking.htm
Finally, please don't worry - many people do grow out of their speech difficulties as their confidence increases. Worrying about it may make it worse, so relax - there are loads of people who have dedicated themselves to helping you and the many other people worldwide who share your difficulties.
Hope this helps, and the very best of luck to you in your interviews!
xxx
Don't worry about your voice being drowned out or not standing out - in an interview, when you're talking, you'll be the only one talking! No-one's going to make a judgement on you based on your voice or the way you talk, so don't worry about it, try to relax, and you'll find that your confidence grows.
You also asked for information about organisations helping with this problem. "Mind" is a great organisation which specifically helps people with anxiety and offers ways to counter this - if your stammer and difficulty in speaking is a result of anxiety, you could look at this: http://www.mind.org.uk/
"AFASIC" is a brilliant UK charity which helps young people with communication disorders: http://www.afasic.org.uk/
You could also try the British Stammering Organisation, though I'm afraid I don't know much about this: http://www.stammering.org/
You could also try these websites:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/healthy_living/health_at_work/emotional_confidence1.shtml#confidence_in_interviews
http://www.wittcom.com/Build_Confidence_Speaking.htm
Finally, please don't worry - many people do grow out of their speech difficulties as their confidence increases. Worrying about it may make it worse, so relax - there are loads of people who have dedicated themselves to helping you and the many other people worldwide who share your difficulties.
Hope this helps, and the very best of luck to you in your interviews!
xxx
Reply 3
I use to stammer all the time and I had speach therapy at the hospital when I was about 8 or 9 it helped a lot and i only do it now when i'm nervous about something.
Reply 4
Ywiss
No-one's going to make a judgement on you based on your voice or the way you talk,
You would be suprised how important speech is. When you are trying to get a job, yes htye are looking for someone with good work experince and the relivant qualifcations, but they will also be hiring the person that makes the best impression on them.
The way you talk, is AT LEAST as important as how you look when determining how others percive you. Asume you look average, your voice will make all the diffrence, in interveiws and in day to day occurances.
Reply 5
I used to stammer pretty badly, and had speech therapy for a couple of years when i was about 11. Like a couple of other people have already said, i found it incredibly helpful- the therapist was able to show me countless exercises and practices (some of which i still use now when im nervous or on the phone, i hate talking on the phone:P).
The main thing she found however, and im sure she said this was the case with alot of people who stammer, was that i was talking incredibly fast(something like 2.5 times the normal rate
). This then exacerbated any stammering problems i was having. It also meant i found my own, not always helpful, ways of coping. I'm not saying you're talking too fast, but it could be part of the problem maybe??
There's an organisation for speech therapists too (i forget the exact name but im sure a google search will yield results) and your GP can always refer you to an NHS speech therapist.
Good luck with whatever happens; I know stammering can really bring you down but keep at it.....it will get better
The main thing she found however, and im sure she said this was the case with alot of people who stammer, was that i was talking incredibly fast(something like 2.5 times the normal rate
). This then exacerbated any stammering problems i was having. It also meant i found my own, not always helpful, ways of coping. I'm not saying you're talking too fast, but it could be part of the problem maybe??There's an organisation for speech therapists too (i forget the exact name but im sure a google search will yield results) and your GP can always refer you to an NHS speech therapist.
Good luck with whatever happens; I know stammering can really bring you down but keep at it.....it will get better
*titanium*
You would be suprised how important speech is. When you are trying to get a job, yes htye are looking for someone with good work experince and the relivant qualifcations, but they will also be hiring the person that makes the best impression on them.
The way you talk, is AT LEAST as important as how you look when determining how others percive you. Asume you look average, your voice will make all the diffrence, in interveiws and in day to day occurances.
The way you talk, is AT LEAST as important as how you look when determining how others percive you. Asume you look average, your voice will make all the diffrence, in interveiws and in day to day occurances.
Okay, thanks, titanium for your opinion - you're right, the way you speak will create an impression. I was merely attempting to reassure the OP that having a speech difficulty isn't as important as all that - people won't just be looking at the way he/she speaks. Basically, I was trying to reassure him/her that their uni applications won't be jeopardised by his/her speech difficulties. But thanks for raising the opposite view.
Reply 7
I had speech therapy when i was about 4 years old, according to my parents they were so unhelpful and rude, then again if you went for it, it might be different.
Reply 8
untill the age of about 5 i didnt talk very much, everyone at school thought it was because i was shy, but it was actually because i had a really bad stammer and couldnt get any of my words out, so I just didn't talk! at the age of 5 my parents took me to the doctors to see if there was anything they could do, and they referred me to a specialist, and I had speech therapy for just under 2 years. Im 19 now and I still sometimes find myself stuttering when im scared or nervous, and also when im on the phone! but its quite common, a lot of people struggle with it. I would def suggest you go to the docs tho - it did so much for my confidence! my parents said that when i began to talk was when i actualy became who i was!... they couldnt shut me up!! and stil cant
Reply 9
I dont think I have a stammer..but every now and again my jaw twitches and I mess up my words. It annoys the **** out of me
Reply 10
thnx for the responses
ywiss those sites were very helpful and im grateful. i think, as some of you suggested, i may goto my GP and ask about what the NHS has to offer in terms of speech therapy.
ywiss those sites were very helpful and im grateful. i think, as some of you suggested, i may goto my GP and ask about what the NHS has to offer in terms of speech therapy.
Reply 11
Ywiss
Okay, thanks, titanium for your opinion - you're right, the way you speak will create an impression. I was merely attempting to reassure the OP that having a speech difficulty isn't as important as all that - people won't just be looking at the way he/she speaks. Basically, I was trying to reassure him/her that their uni applications won't be jeopardised by his/her speech difficulties. But thanks for raising the opposite view.
Sometimes theres no point of feeding someone a false image, it will only give them further to fall. However its true so many people get nervous that it may not be as much of a problem, and of course what you say also counts for a lot. You can impress then with your life experinces, or your knowledge or witt.
Reply 12
I tried it on the nhs but it was crap, waste of time and all the exercises were aimed at under 8's. I'm just going to live with it instead. Used to have confidence issues, but I figured that I speak fine, if people don't want to listen then they won't whether I speak like the queen or not.
*titanium*
Sometimes theres no point of feeding someone a false image, it will only give them further to fall. However its true so many people get nervous that it may not be as much of a problem, and of course what you say also counts for a lot. You can impress then with your life experinces, or your knowledge or witt.
I don't agree that reassuring someone that their speech difficulty will not hinder them very much in the interviewers' eyes is "feeding [them] a false image"; people tend to be aware of speech impediments, and interviewers will understand them and be patient with candidates with stutters. Though, as I said in my last response, the way you speak will play some part, it is not vitally important.
And to the OP, glad the websites help
Reply 14
Well i just remembered its a uni interveiw, speech will probably be less important here then in a job interveiw.
Reply 15
n..n..n...n.. no. Practice infront of a mirror.
Reply 16
fragreaper
n..n..n...n.. no.
maybe not the best joke to make in this thread
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