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Should I get plastic surgery to improve confidence?

I am a female in my early 20s, and have a wide, fleshy nose with a large tip, that becomes even wider when I smile. Tried contouring but it hardly makes a difference.
I have quite a gummy smile, a big gap in between my two front teeth, and a completely crooked row of bottom teeth, but braces are ridiculously expensive.

I have a slight lisp, and I was born with the tip of my tongue attached to my bottom gum by an extra piece of skin; meaning that I cannot stick my tongue out or kiss properly. As a child my parents went to the doctor to see if I could have it removed, but I was told I 'didn't need it', and now as an adult, the price I was quoted to have it removed was in triple figures.

I used to have terrible acne, which has thankfully cleared, but I still have several marks on my face, very uneven skin, and a lot of lines around my eyes, even though I wear suncream, moisturiser, and don't smoke or anything like that. I am using Bio Oil which does help, but it cannot perform magic.

I have a slightly curved spine; not enough to warrant surgery, but it means my posture is awful, and people do notice; I was once told to 'walk properly' by a random guy. My thighs are covered in bright purple veins. I exercise every day, do lunges, squats etc. but depsite this,I still have a saggy, flat, cellulite covered spotty arse.

I am 5'7, but my torso is very long and I have short legs. I also have battered, ugly wide feet with too much skin. I am also very hairy, which people have commented on.
Some people have said stuff like my Mum must have been taking drugs before I was born, and I have been called 'minger' 'really ugly' and 'hideous'.

I have been called pretty etc. quite a few times, and I have a boyfriend who tells me I am gorgeous and loves me. Some days I feel fine with how I look, but some days I feel disgusting and like I could never be consdered beautiful.

I cannot even look people in the eye when I am talking to them. I'd love to have plastic surgery, but there is no way I could afford most of the procedures, unless I saved for years.

I am thinking of taking out a loan from the bank to cover it. I just think it will transform my life, and people say that personality counts more, but I am too shy and boring, so I don't have a lot.

I find that the beautiful girls are treated like royalty purely based on how they look, and it's wrong. It doesn't help that my boyfriend is going on about the really hot girl at work he has to train.

I know people will try and talk me out of it, but I feel like a freakshow. Has anyone else had surgery before? If so, did it change you for the better? Thanks in advance.

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Reply 1
I have been told that I would be 'really pretty if I got my teeth fixed', even my own Mum said that it's 'a shame I have my Dad's teeth', and someone posted a picture of somebody with very bad teeth which was obviously aimed at me....
The way I see it, if your boyfriend is happy with you being like that, then there's nothing to worry about as IMO you don't have to 'look good' in anyone else's eyes bar him
Reply 3
Yeah, you are right, I know he loves me and he is with me, I just get scared too much about what others think. I bet they think I am not good enough, and they probably think that when we are out together. I feel like I have so many physical problems, I have never known anyone with as many as me.....
Plastic surgery won't improve anything unless you have a positive mindset. Do you really want to take out a loan for this? Why can't you just be happy with what you already have?

We don't survive on compliments and if I were you, I would stop thinking about all your imperfections because everyone has them. Yes, even that 'hot' girl whose walking down the street, she has imperfections too. As they say, we are our worst critics.

Focus on what matters. Being a pretty airhead with no substance won't get you anywhere. :smile:
Reply 5
Original post by littlejellybird
Plastic surgery won't improve anything unless you have a positive mindset. Do you really want to take out a loan for this? Why can't you just be happy with what you already have?

We don't survive on compliments and if I were you, I would stop thinking about all your imperfections because everyone has them. Yes, even that 'hot' girl whose walking down the street, she has imperfections too. As they say, we are our worst critics.

Focus on what matters. Being a pretty airhead with no substance won't get you anywhere. :smile:



I do have some features I like, such as my eyes, but it's the stuff like my tongue and back problems that just make me feel so awkward really. The tongue surgery was quoted at nearly 1,000 pounds (to cut a tiny piece of skin, and I doubt the NHS will do it) and I cannot even kiss properly :frown:


I do agree with you; we see things that others don't, it's just that I look at some girls, and I feel like they literally have no flaws. I know there are also 'hot' girls with awesome personalities... but thanks so much for your words, I appreciate them :smile:
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah, you are right, I know he loves me and he is with me, I just get scared too much about what others think. I bet they think I am not good enough, and they probably think that when we are out together. I feel like I have so many physical problems, I have never known anyone with as many as me.....


You want confidence, I totally understand that tbh.
If you are in a strong financial position, where you can pay off the loan in time, then I would advise you to go for it.
Honestly, people won't understand this and say stuff like ''but you're boyfriend finds you attractive blah blah'', but at the end of the day, if you don't feel good about YOURSELF, if you don't find YOURSELF attractive, then it will always make you insecure and your self-confidence will always stay low. Always think about yourself first, do what makes you comfortable.
Reply 7
Original post by AnharM
You want confidence, I totally understand that tbh.
If you are in a strong financial position, where you can pay off the loan in time, then I would advise you to go for it.
Honestly, people won't understand this and say stuff like ''but you're boyfriend finds you attractive blah blah'', but at the end of the day, if you don't feel good about YOURSELF, if you don't find YOURSELF attractive, then it will always make you insecure and your self-confidence will always stay low. Always think about yourself first, do what makes you comfortable.


I only earn the minimum wage, I have some savings but less than £2,000 and I'll surely need that for other stuff.... I'm not sure I could even pay back the loan and I don't want sharks hounding me... but I'm going to have a look into it
thanks for your advice :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
I do have some features I like, such as my eyes, but it's the stuff like my tongue and back problems that just make me feel so awkward really. The tongue surgery was quoted at nearly 1,000 pounds (to cut a tiny piece of skin, and I doubt the NHS will do it) and I cannot even kiss properly :frown:


I do agree with you; we see things that others don't, it's just that I look at some girls, and I feel like they literally have no flaws. I know there are also 'hot' girls with awesome personalities... but thanks so much for your words, I appreciate them :smile:


I can understand why you're unhappy about your tongue and back problems but I'll be honest and say I can't relate to you. Personally, I'm all for getting surgery to improve health etc. so if you can get your tongue op through the NHS, go for it! I wouldn't go for cosmetic surgery though. Again, this is my opinion.

I didn't want to sugar coat anything so I was worried I was being a little blunt but I'm glad I didn't come across as rude. :tongue:
Original post by Anonymous
I am a female in my early 20s, and have a wide, fleshy nose with a large tip, that becomes even wider when I smile. Tried contouring but it hardly makes a difference.
I have quite a gummy smile, a big gap in between my two front teeth, and a completely crooked row of bottom teeth, but braces are ridiculously expensive.

I have a slight lisp, and I was born with the tip of my tongue attached to my bottom gum by an extra piece of skin; meaning that I cannot stick my tongue out or kiss properly. As a child my parents went to the doctor to see if I could have it removed, but I was told I 'didn't need it', and now as an adult, the price I was quoted to have it removed was in triple figures.

I used to have terrible acne, which has thankfully cleared, but I still have several marks on my face, very uneven skin, and a lot of lines around my eyes, even though I wear suncream, moisturiser, and don't smoke or anything like that. I am using Bio Oil which does help, but it cannot perform magic.

I have a slightly curved spine; not enough to warrant surgery, but it means my posture is awful, and people do notice; I was once told to 'walk properly' by a random guy. My thighs are covered in bright purple veins. I exercise every day, do lunges, squats etc. but depsite this,I still have a saggy, flat, cellulite covered spotty arse.

I am 5'7, but my torso is very long and I have short legs. I also have battered, ugly wide feet with too much skin. I am also very hairy, which people have commented on.
Some people have said stuff like my Mum must have been taking drugs before I was born, and I have been called 'minger' 'really ugly' and 'hideous'.

I have been called pretty etc. quite a few times, and I have a boyfriend who tells me I am gorgeous and loves me. Some days I feel fine with how I look, but some days I feel disgusting and like I could never be consdered beautiful.

I cannot even look people in the eye when I am talking to them. I'd love to have plastic surgery, but there is no way I could afford most of the procedures, unless I saved for years.

I am thinking of taking out a loan from the bank to cover it. I just think it will transform my life, and people say that personality counts more, but I am too shy and boring, so I don't have a lot.

I find that the beautiful girls are treated like royalty purely based on how they look, and it's wrong. It doesn't help that my boyfriend is going on about the really hot girl at work he has to train.

I know people will try and talk me out of it, but I feel like a freakshow. Has anyone else had surgery before? If so, did it change you for the better? Thanks in advance.






Short answer: Yes you should!
If you don't feel confident in yourself and have body imperfection that you know can be fixed, fix it!
I'm planning by the end of summer 2015 (hopefully even earlier), I will have my imperfection fixed, I've grown up being so insecure about my smile, fortunately my teeth are straight problem lies my smile (a bit gummy,going to have laser treatment to remove some gum tissues to expose my teeth so they don't appear small) the idea of getting this done was completely out of my reach (price) and I thought it could only be done for famous people. Now that I'm starting uni, I've worked out if I save and budget I will have more than enough to pay for the treatment using the student finance loan/job. I know for a fact when I get this treatment I will be more confident in myself and I won't have to cover my mouth every time I laugh in case people see my mouth. I have alot research and planned to get my teeth whitened and have gum pigmentation to my gums more pink/lighter. All this should take about a month and a half. After that month and a half, I won't be embarrassed to smile in group photos, or when someone says smile. I cant wait to get it done.

I say go for it. Goodluck :smile:
Please make sure you don't run into debt improving yourself, all that sounds expensive. In the process try to love yourself aswell.


- When I was about 9/10, I have surgery to remove and fix my umbilical hernia (bigger than a outie belly button) Now I have an outie belly button and I am completely fine with it. Since that was about 8 years ago, I do remember I felt so confident in myself after having it done, no longer having to hide myself during P.E lesson in case the other kids saw it
You are your biggest critic and that will always be true. We criticise ourselves in ways that nobody else would. Nobody will see your flaws in as much detail as you do and therefore you will convince yourself it's worse than it is. I can almost guarantee for every 'flaw' you mentioned, you have at least 2 positive attributes to counteract.

Just embrace what you've got, there will always be someone worse off, and if you've got a boyfriend then what are you worrying about? Fair enough if you were completely depressed and lonely and nobody wanted to be seen with you, but that simply isn't the case.
Original post by AnharM
You want confidence, I totally understand that tbh.
If you are in a strong financial position, where you can pay off the loan in time, then I would advise you to go for it.
Honestly, people won't understand this and say stuff like ''but you're boyfriend finds you attractive blah blah'', but at the end of the day, if you don't feel good about YOURSELF, if you don't find YOURSELF attractive, then it will always make you insecure and your self-confidence will always stay low. Always think about yourself first, do what makes you comfortable.


PRSOM Very well said!
Aww hey honey, that broke my heart to read!!
I know nothing anyone here can say will make you love you...but we are stuck in our bodies for quite a long time, and it makes it much easier if you can like the skin you're in! :frown:
I would never ever ever suggest getting in debt for the sake of surgery. Please speak to your doctor and tell them how depressed you are, hopefully they can refer you!
As for the dentist, I would consider maybe getting a pay monthly option. This way you can avoid a loan and it's more manageable.
Don't listen to what anyone says or anything you read on TSR. The most important thing is that you are beautiful on the inside. Looks fade (especially the ones that you have to pay for).

Take care
xxx
Hey sorry for how you're feeling, I have mild BDD and I think it would help to read this and see if it relates to you http://www.ocduk.org/bdd I don't think plastic surgery on everything is going to make you feel any better usually when people have plastic surgery they have it on one place I've thought at times I need plastic surgery especially after having a baby my stomach isnt as flat as it used to be but I've learnt to accept it, Your self esteem is at an all time low if I can ask do you think you're unhappiness with your appearance is taking over your life?
Personally, i don't think plastic surgery in order to get bigger boobs is a good idea. You look at porn and see some hotties with some pretty bad boob jobs, and they'd have looked so much better had they left alone and kept smaller size knockers.
Reply 15
If you have te money, and don't think you'll one day go OTT with enhancements, then sure why not

So long as you're aware there's a possibility such surgeries won't make a drastic change in regards to your general appearance or confidence.
Original post by Anonymous
I am a female in my early 20s, and have a wide, fleshy nose with a large tip, that becomes even wider when I smile. Tried contouring but it hardly makes a difference.
I have quite a gummy smile, a big gap in between my two front teeth, and a completely crooked row of bottom teeth, but braces are ridiculously expensive.

I have a slight lisp, and I was born with the tip of my tongue attached to my bottom gum by an extra piece of skin; meaning that I cannot stick my tongue out or kiss properly. As a child my parents went to the doctor to see if I could have it removed, but I was told I 'didn't need it', and now as an adult, the price I was quoted to have it removed was in triple figures.

I used to have terrible acne, which has thankfully cleared, but I still have several marks on my face, very uneven skin, and a lot of lines around my eyes, even though I wear suncream, moisturiser, and don't smoke or anything like that. I am using Bio Oil which does help, but it cannot perform magic.

I have a slightly curved spine; not enough to warrant surgery, but it means my posture is awful, and people do notice; I was once told to 'walk properly' by a random guy. My thighs are covered in bright purple veins. I exercise every day, do lunges, squats etc. but depsite this,I still have a saggy, flat, cellulite covered spotty arse.

I am 5'7, but my torso is very long and I have short legs. I also have battered, ugly wide feet with too much skin. I am also very hairy, which people have commented on.
Some people have said stuff like my Mum must have been taking drugs before I was born, and I have been called 'minger' 'really ugly' and 'hideous'.

I have been called pretty etc. quite a few times, and I have a boyfriend who tells me I am gorgeous and loves me. Some days I feel fine with how I look, but some days I feel disgusting and like I could never be consdered beautiful.

I cannot even look people in the eye when I am talking to them. I'd love to have plastic surgery, but there is no way I could afford most of the procedures, unless I saved for years.

I am thinking of taking out a loan from the bank to cover it. I just think it will transform my life, and people say that personality counts more, but I am too shy and boring, so I don't have a lot.

I find that the beautiful girls are treated like royalty purely based on how they look, and it's wrong. It doesn't help that my boyfriend is going on about the really hot girl at work he has to train.

I know people will try and talk me out of it, but I feel like a freakshow. Has anyone else had surgery before? If so, did it change you for the better? Thanks in advance.


PM me a picture, and I'll let you know if you should or not.
Reply 17
Original post by iEatMuFFiNS
Personally, i don't think plastic surgery in order to get bigger boobs is a good idea. You look at porn and see some hotties with some pretty bad boob jobs, and they'd have looked so much better had they left alone and kept smaller size knockers.


This isn't about a boob job, did you even read what OP wrote?
Original post by AnharM
This isn't about a boob job, did you even read what OP wrote?

Women + plastic surgery + improve confidence = huge fake knockers?

Tl;dr for the most part, but if she needs all the improvements she claims i'm sure big tits will come into it somewhere...
Reply 19
Original post by iEatMuFFiNS
Women + plastic surgery + improve confidence = huge fake knockers?

Tl;dr for the most part, but if she needs all the improvements she claims i'm sure tits will come into it somewhere...


No, it's nothing to do with her boobs. It's her back, her teeth and nose.

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