how long do i wait????

so iv just started seeing and i was wondering how many dates until i should slept with him? i know everyones different but i wanted a general idea of how long people wait and do guys think less of you if you put out early? cheers guys

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Reply 1

User69701

Untill you feel comfortable.

It will depend on the situation. If you just give it up then yes. Some guys may think less of you. But iof there is a connection there, then they will understand.

Reply 2

username47781

Depends whenever your comfortable really, but take your time, step by step and don't let him pressure you, it normally works better that way.

Reply 3

Talon

Thats completely up to you. Personally I dont sleep with someone unless I really like them...im not a guy into 1 night stands.

Ofcourse there was one time when I slept with her after a week but...we were really into each other. Lol..

With my last gf i waited 6 months until she was ready, so if you get yourself a decent guy it shouldnt matter how soon or long you leave it.

Reply 4

u_cheeky_girl

yeh i will do but like some people i know like do not think one night stands could be girlfriends so i wanted a idea when people think is a normal time to wait?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I could've slept with my first boyfriend after about 5 months, but there were medical reasons and it took us almost 9! I have to say the tension is worth it. Makes sex ten times better in the end!

Reply 6

User69701

There isn't a set rule. You'll know when it's the right time. If you're not sure, wait.

Reply 7

Glory

really depends could be 6 days or 6 months, i waited almost 6 months to sleep with my boyfriend, was definately worth waiting. Rushing in before a good level of trust was built would of been a big mistake.

Reply 8

username39618

Follow the rule of thumb(s):

Total the number of thumbs that you and your boyfriend have between you, and wait that number of months. Eg 3; You should wait 3 months...

Reply 9

Azzle

so technically that's just two months???

Reply 10

Glory

Makky_Legend

Follow the rule of thumb(s):

Total the number of thumbs that you and your boyfriend have between you, and wait that number of months. Eg 3; You should wait 3 months...

thats utter rubbish, its all about when it feels right, not when people expect you to have slept together.

Reply 11

foxiroxi

I first slept with my boyfriend just after two months of being together. It was my first time although not his but I felt ready and I knew that I wanted to be with him :smile:

I know some people who go to sex straight away, and other's you wait along time till they are ready. the above is just what I was like personally. He was my first (and we are still together)

Reply 12

norelle

Azzle

so technically that's just two months???

Yeah, if they only have one thumb each...

Reply 13

Alexander

Glory

thats utter rubbish, its all about when it feels right, not when people expect you to have slept together.

erm...I think that was his point: he was giving a deliberately stupid answer as a way of showing that it was a stupid question.

Reply 14

Glory

i got neg rep for my reply, i dont care whoever did it... So what if ive had a "sense of humour failure", some people are niave enough to beleive what they read. Id rather point out how stupid it was and get neg repped for it than ignore it.

Reply 15

username47781

seems ridculious that glory got neg repped her advice sounds good enough.

Reply 16

MickeyG

75 days, 6 hours and 22 seconds. Not before or after otherwise his left testicly will implode.

Reply 17

username39618

Would like to state that I did NOT neg rep you Glory. I couldn't care less whether you thought my 'rule of thumb' wrong or not.
I am not responsible for any 'Rule of Thumb' miscalculations...

Reply 18

coloursonthetv

Glory

Rushing in before a good level of trust was built would of been a big mistake.

I don't think it'd be all that good if you did it straight away without giving it chance for it to feel right. It's an emotional thing with me as well as physical, which makes it better =)