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Dilemma - as per =] - a long read!

Gonna give a brief history before I get to the point...
Was up at Hyde Park (Leeds, not London) 3 weeks ago. Saw this guy, hot. Smiled at one another lotssss. Couldn't stop looking at him, something about this guy. Was too shy to get his number. Gutted! Alas! I tracked his friend down on myspace and she gave me his number. So we texted each other and we met up the following Saturday. Went really well, talked a lot. Kissed. Then the next week ened he came to my house party, stayed over...ahem :wink:

And then this saturday we went to the cinema and he paid for me, which was very gentlemanly of him! Walk back to the bus stop, and decided I'd go to his house - well he asked me to, didn't want to leave me in the middle of town at 11.30pm. I missed the last bus anyway. So, all his housemates were at Leeds Fest. Had a really nice night and again :wink:

Through all this we've been texting each other every day, can feel myself falling for him.

But (and there's always a but when it comes to this stuff!) yesterday we were chilling in his room, as you do and I could tell from the face he had on that he had something to spit out. So out it came. Said something along the lines of "I like you a lot, but I'm struggling to find something that we both really connect on or have in common...we don't talk - you don't tell me about yourself..maybe I will find something, but right now I can't find anything that we both care about deeply...I don't know where this is going. I really like you..blah blah" Then he said summat about how he feels bad, gave me a really long hug...then came that awkward silence :frown:

I stuttered out some stuff about being afraid of opening up, how I have so much to say to him that I have no idea where to start, how I'm nervous, etc.

He's the sorta guy who's into Hardcore/Punk/Prog/Underground music, has dreadlocks, is vegan, smokes "herbal substances", drinks, in a band, etc. Actually music is his life. I'm not too different from him though, at least I thought so :confused:

I'm a bit of a metal head, I play bass, I'm no stranger to "herbal substances", I'm vegetarian, I enjoy drinking and partying with my friends. But for some reason it seems we find it hard to conversate when we're around each other - or rather I do. I'm such a shy girl and because I like him so much, when I'm around him I'm a bag of nerves and go very quiet, I don't really talk unless he "prompts it".

So I can see why he's feeling this way - I must seem like a complete air head. He has no idea of what my true self is like - which is a bubbly, hyper, talkative, funny, opinionated, tough girl. Imho :p:

He also mentioned something about music and how the bands I like are ones he hates. So although we're both v.passionate abut music - we're coming from opposite ends of the spectrum. I'm very open minded and actually enjoyed listening to the music he had on. I have no problem with opening up to new music, I like to find new bands.. Maybe I should make that clear? Heh..I mean all day I've been looking at the bands he loves on myspace, downloading some tracks and I like them. Am even buying a demo from one band. Anyone think he'd see this as a good/bad thing?

But anyway, he took me back into Leeds, waited with me 'til my bus came. We hugged, kissed - and it was a weird kiss, a really long locked one - I was feeling really upset at this point and hadn't said a word on the bus ride into town, so when I pulled away I couldn't look at him. I was sucking it up, so to speak. He said he'd text me..

Anyway I came home, had a bit of a cry and did some thinking. I sent him a 3 page long text explaining why I've been so quiet, how I must seem like I have nothing to offer, how I'm an open minded girl who's passionate about so many things, but that hasn't come across.. How I've acted like a kn*b and made a pretty bad first impression...etc. He text me back saying "I don't think you're a kn*b at all. I like you a lot. But the conversation really isn't there. Maybe we should meet up one day and just try and chat loads? Xx"
I think this is a good idea (I text him back saying so) and have spoke to my friends who have told me to get a grip and let the real Katie come through - show him who I am and if he doesn't like it - then at least I know and at least I tried. I do respect him from being honest with me and also for actually showing he's interested by giving me a chance "to come outta my shell". That make sense? Shows he isn't playing me..

So that's the story morning glory! Must say that felt good to get it out. Have no idea what I'm expecting from you guys, but I'm hoping for some positive responses to help me. Advice on how to relax around this guy and open up and just chat away would be helpful! :smile:

I think that him and I could have something good. I mean the fact I managed to "track down" this random guy from the prak must mean something? And he seems to genuinely wanna try..
Anyway, thanks for actually reading my teenage angsty tripe! :p:

Reply 1

Harv616

Well how about you meet up, and actualy talk to him about yourself?

Its not hard, just say what you feel, but women seem to find it impossible.

Reply 2

Katia

BhArJ

Well how about you meet up, and actualy talk to him about yourself?

Its not hard, just say what you feel, but women seem to find it impossible.

I just don't know where to start. I don't wanna show myself up..God, I am such a woman! Lol

Reply 3

Harv616

Katia

I just don't know where to start. I don't wanna show myself up..God, I am such a woman! Lol

You wont show yourself up, HE CARES ABOUT YOU!!!! he wont care, he is there to listen, if he ignores you/runs off when you do tell him hes not woth the time.

Stop putting up so many walls to protect yourself, let him in. Just tell him how you feel, whats bothering you, what you have been through etc

Reply 4

hippieglitter

Start talking about one of the bands that you like and you know he likes , if you start on common ground it should flow from there. I did that 9 months and we haven't shut up since.

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