i hate being ugly

i really hate my appearance, i cant stand friends/family making fun of what i look like, ok i wasnt given the best face in the world.. just give me a break ok? Its really gotten to me, sometimes i cant stop crying because i feel this way, yes i am male, and everytime i pass a mirror i almost feel like crying and . I am really really depressed, that im going to live another 40-60 years with this face, perhaps alone. I avoid going outdoors because i dont want people to see such an ugly creature on their streets. I have horrible features, eyes eugh, big nose, small lips etc.. I cant stand myself, sometimes consider killing myself and whether people would care. My parents love me, like all parents do, but thats not the point. Im scared that im gona go to uni and no-one will want to be friends because they dont want to be seen hanging out with me. Im scared that no-one will want to employ me. I cant stand myself, im sorry if this sounds vain but its just how i feel and i needed to tell someone. :frown:

Is there anyone out there that feels the same way?

Reply 1

username47781

20

Well i think most people hate certain parts of themselves and if they had the chance they could change it, i mean those people who make fun of you probably have insecurities themselves, but at University more people will make an effort to be friends with you regardless of your appearance.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

i really hate my appearance, i cant stand friends/family making fun of what i look like, ok i wasnt given the best face in the world.. just give me a break ok? Its really gotten to me, sometimes i cant stop crying because i feel this way, yes i am male, and everytime i pass a mirror i almost feel like crying and . I am really really depressed, that im going to live another 40-60 years with this face, perhaps alone. I avoid going outdoors because i dont want people to see such an ugly creature on their streets. I have horrible features, eyes eugh, big nose, small lips etc.. I cant stand myself, sometimes consider killing myself and whether people would care. My parents love me, like all parents do, but thats not the point. Im scared that im gona go to uni and no-one will want to be friends because they dont want to be seen hanging out with me. Im scared that no-one will want to employ me. I cant stand myself, im sorry if this sounds vain but its just how i feel and i needed to tell someone. :frown:

Is there anyone out there that feels the same way?

That is exactly how I feel, and I'm female, I have a big bent nose and big ears, ugly boggly eyes and uneven lips. :hugs:

Reply 3

Sithius

16

Sorry that you feel this way mate. But a lot of people are insecure about themselves but they learn to get over it. This might be worth a read:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1854877038/202-3354750-7416611?v=glance&n=266239&v=glance

Reply 4

graveyarddreams

13

Just do what i do and not look in the mirror.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

That is exactly how I feel, and I'm female, I have a big bent nose and big ears, ugly boggly eyes and uneven lips. :hugs:

good to know someone feels like this, but i bet youve had a few bf's and are actually not ugly.

Sorry that you feel this way mate. But a lot of people are insecure about themselves but they learn to get over it. This might be worth a read:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1...66239&v=glance

im insecure because people make me insecure.. their comments, their stares, and i dont blame them because id probably be the same. :frown:

Ill look into that book

Just do what i do and not look in the mirror.

there are so many around.. in my house.. the car window, the pc screen, lots of reflections, that i really dont want to see, but have to anyway.

Reply 6

Sithius

16

graveyarddreams

Just do what i do and not look in the mirror.

That is awful advice. (As usual expects negative rep :rolleyes:

). You are just avoiding the issue not solving it. Ignore this if I were you, OP.

Reply 7

Lofty

13

I used to be really self conscious once upon a time (Guess i still am a little), but i think you have to teach yourself to just let go and not care! I know its not quite as easy as that, but its the truth!

Confidence and personality (imo) are far more attractive than looks anyway.

Reply 8

Sithius

16

Lofty

I used to be really self conscious once upon a time (Guess i still am a little), but i think you have to teach yourself to just let go and not care! I know its not quite as easy as that, but its the truth!

Confidence and personality (imo) are far more attractive than looks anyway.

Very true mate. If you see a really good looking girl but they act in a horrible manner. Eg, slag off people, insult everyone, genuinly act disgustingly. Then they are ugly in my eyes. But get the average girl (if they are good looking its just a bonus IMO) that acts just as you want, then you got a winner and the most beautiful girl.

Reply 9

rawkingpunkster

Yeah dont worry. Be confident about yourself no matter wat. Everyone is attractive in their own sense

Reply 10

AT82

Everybody is ugly and beautiful to different people. As many people out there will find you very good looking as they find you ugly. Don't worry about it.

Reply 11

Sithius

16

AT82

Everybody is ugly and beautiful to different people. As many people out there will find you very good looking as they find you ugly. Don't worry about it.

Yup. As I posted a while ago, some even find Brad Pitt ugly. :redface:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

AT82

Everybody is ugly and beautiful to different people. As many people out there will find you very good looking as they find you ugly. Don't worry about it.

thats the case for average looking people sure. But nobody has ever said i was good looking, because its not the case whatsoever. Being ugly, you are never going to be good looking to anyone, and especially if you are male :frown:

Reply 13

Lofty

13

Anonymous

thats the case for average looking people sure. But nobody has ever said i was good looking, because its not the case whatsoever. Being ugly, you are never going to be good looking to anyone, and especially if you are male :frown:

Stop putting yourself down! There's nothing you can do about how you look, you just have to learn to accept it :smile:

If you aren't confortable with yourself, then nobody will be.

Reply 14

Sithius

16

Is it possible for you to post a picture? I really doubt you are bad as you make it sound. (Entirely up to you to post a picture, I will not judge any response).

Reply 15

flipflop2

Anonymous

i really hate my appearance, i cant stand friends/family making fun of what i look like, ok i wasnt given the best face in the world.. just give me a break ok? Its really gotten to me, sometimes i cant stop crying because i feel this way, yes i am male, and everytime i pass a mirror i almost feel like crying and . I am really really depressed, that im going to live another 40-60 years with this face, perhaps alone. I avoid going outdoors because i dont want people to see such an ugly creature on their streets. I have horrible features, eyes eugh, big nose, small lips etc.. I cant stand myself, sometimes consider killing myself and whether people would care. My parents love me, like all parents do, but thats not the point. Im scared that im gona go to uni and no-one will want to be friends because they dont want to be seen hanging out with me. Im scared that no-one will want to employ me. I cant stand myself, im sorry if this sounds vain but its just how i feel and i needed to tell someone. :frown:

Is there anyone out there that feels the same way?

EVERYONE hates some features about themselves, and would love to change them. Even people you would consider to be 'good looking' would like to change some things about themselves. I think you should go to a beautician and find out how to work with your face, not against it. You'd look and feel great after it!

Reply 16

Ywiss

15

Oh dear

I'm sorry you're feeling so down and depressed about yourself. But you know, you're so not alone - every single person will have looked in the mirror or looked at a photo of themselves and at least once will have thought, "Yuck, do I really look like that?" And yes, you can demur and protest and explain that these other people are actually really good-looking and that they're just kidding themselves and that you are the only person among them who is really ugly, but it wouldn't be true. Remember that ugliness is a perception. It's not a fact. You are as ugly or as good-looking as you think you are. Have you ever considered the idea that you just have really high standards for yourself? Of course you're not going to be perfect - give yourself a bit of slack!

What's good about you physically? Are you slim or well-built/muscular? Are you tall? Do you have shiny hair and clean nails? Control the things you can control - if you have problems with your complexion, get drinking loads of water and eat fruit. Find an anti-dandruff shampoo, and make sure you always smell nice. These are the things which are often physically attractive to other people, rather than your actual features.

What's good about you personally? Are you funny? Can you express yourself well? Are you reliable, hard-working, nice to be with? Can you understand other people's feelings? These are all great qualities which will again make you attractive and will make people want to know you.

And as for no-one wanting to employ you, that's absolute rubbish! They're going to look at your qualifications and the way you come across - if you're articulate and show that you're organised and determined, they won't give a damn what you look like. People at uni will want to be with you if you're nice to be with - if you listen, contribute, etc. They're going to want to be with you if you're able to step outside your own feelings and your own worries about what you look like and just enjoy being with them.

Good luck - have confidence in yourself!
xxx

Reply 17

Talya

16

Anon1, when I was younger, bullies at my school used to tell me I was ugly, hairy, disgusting... yeah, it made me feel crap!

But as you get older and get the chance to go to uni and choose your friends, you can just ignore the idiots who think you are ugly.

Don't listen to what people say about your appearance, especially if they aren't your friends.

Reply 18

Eurasian

2

Sithius

Very true mate. If you see a really good looking girl but they act in a horrible manner. Eg, slag off people, insult everyone, genuinly act disgustingly. Then they are ugly in my eyes. But get the average girl (if they are good looking its just a bonus IMO) that acts just as you want, then you got a winner and the most beautiful girl.

I'm not so sure that I agree. You claim that it's all about ones personality, however thats not entirely true. Maybe it is after establishing a relationship with someone but during the "pulling stage" it's the physical attributes that gets you the glances.

Physical = The initial pull.
Personality = What keeps the R/S going.

OP --- The way I see it, you should be comfortable with who you are and how you look. There is no point feeling depressed over it as:

1. You had no choice over what you would look like

2. It's not as if it's something you can change. (Without going to the extremes of course, plastic surgery and what not)

Basically, just feel comfortable in your own skin and see how it goes in University. Best of luck to you bro'.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

good advice, i shud be confortable in my own skin but in not ,tbh i always knew how i looked, but all this depression was only triggered a few days ago while i was walking through birmingham, and a couple of chavvy girls walked past, and they shouted something like "whos an ugly b*tard??" after i walked past and it was obviously directed at me. I felt like complete ****. :frown:

Appreciate all the advice so far :biggrin:

i hate being ugly

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