worried about a friend

she's 18, and seeing this guy who's 27. He's her first boyfriend, and she lost her virginity to him. She claims she knows what she's doing, and isn't going to get hurt, but she genuinly cares for him, and I think he's using her for sex. Why else would he claim to "love" her after their first date.

she was at his the other day, in bed, and she asked him to stop, but he didn't. She's making excuses for him, saying he was "just being a bloke", but it seems really off to me.

I really just don't know what to do, its all going to end in tears, she's already had a pregnancy scare.
Maybe I'm just a bitter cynic, but I think she should get out now, but she's in deeper than she wants to admit

Reply 1

username47781

20

Sometimes its best to let her find out the hard way all you can do is be there for her, but yeah warn her to at least be careful because it seems she is not using protection if shes had a pregnancy scare, and yeah the fact he got her into bed on the first date seems he on;ly wanted to get in her underwear.

Technically he raped her when she said stop, she can't make excuses i think she does need to get away before her life is completely ruined.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

That's what I said, but she claims he's "not the sort of guy to rape someone", when, techinically, he did..

She's on the pill, but missed three days. They used condoms instead, but she was a few days late, which was what caused the scare

Reply 3

username47781

20

I think shes showing her immaturity there, what he did was rape, but then she basically let him get on with it with the lame excuse that he's a guy, seriously a loving caring guy would not do that, he's an ******* who gives guys a bad name.

She really needs a wake up call and also she needs to stop being so naive, this guy does not love her.

Reply 4

Talon

18

Anonymous

That's what I said, but she claims he's "not the sort of guy to rape someone", when, techinically, he did..

She's on the pill, but missed three days. They used condoms instead, but she was a few days late, which was what caused the scare

There are many other ways to screw someone over.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

wat that guy must be a freak, an ugly one at that, what the hell try and set ur friend up with some1 else lol

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I've never met him, but she wants me to. I don't like him already, so I'm worried I'll end up smacking the idiot!

Reply 7

username47781

20

I would advise not to meet him even if you risk losing your friend, he sounds a nasty type of guy, it's not worth the risk, especially with your feelings of wanting to smack him which is a good idea in theory but in reality get's you in trouble. But yes all guys like that should be given a smack around the face.

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