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Ebony and Ivory
I just wanted somewhere to offload some stuff. I am a 20 year old female and recently can't stop thinking about this guy (also 20). I don't want to come across as desperate but I really enjoy talking to him and miss talking to him wen I'm not. Would it scare him away if I just went right up and told him straight up how I feel. Or should I play it cool. I have no idea how he feels about me either. And another issue is our backgrounds....me being the ebony and him the ivory (so to speak). This should not be an issue but I can't help but wonder.....
Sorry if I am being too vague..... Any words of advice?
Sorry if I am being too vague..... Any words of advice?
Don't go up to him and say "I love you", just ask him out or something. If he says he likes playing pool, suggest meeting up for a game, or if he says he likes live music, then suggest a gig or something. Use your imagination.
Is the interracial thing a problem with him? Or with you?
Otherwise this is just a typical "should I tell him I like him" situation.
I'd say play it cool but drop some hints.
BTW I'm a black girl, I've dated interracially and it doesn't have to be a big deal, as long as the two of you are OK with it and your families won't disown you or anything.
Otherwise this is just a typical "should I tell him I like him" situation.
I'd say play it cool but drop some hints.
BTW I'm a black girl, I've dated interracially and it doesn't have to be a big deal, as long as the two of you are OK with it and your families won't disown you or anything.
shady lane
Is the interracial thing a problem with him? Or with you?
Otherwise this is just a typical "should I tell him I like him" situation.
I'd say play it cool but drop some hints.
BTW I'm a black girl, I've dated interracially and it doesn't have to be a big deal, as long as the two of you are OK with it and your families won't disown you or anything.
Otherwise this is just a typical "should I tell him I like him" situation.
I'd say play it cool but drop some hints.
BTW I'm a black girl, I've dated interracially and it doesn't have to be a big deal, as long as the two of you are OK with it and your families won't disown you or anything.
Hey, the interracial thing isn't so much a 'problem' but a factor which cannot be ignored. I don't really think its about the colour but more about the cultural differences. I don't really have an issue with the colour thing and neither does he....its his family I'm more worried about. But then again you can't really do much on that front can you?........
What's your take on the family thing Shady Lane?
Being of mixed race myself, I don't think that skin colour is really the immediate problem, as there are many mixed race relationships these days, even though I do realise that a small minority may still see them as odd or wrong or whatever.
Basically, if you like this person, just talk to him more. Try and discover whether he has feelings for you. As a general rule, I wouldn't think that telling him you fancy him, just out of the blue, would be a good idea, because if he didn't like in that way it could be quite an embarrasing experience for you.
Just go out with him sometimes, flirt with him a bit, and if you still can't workout whether he likes you, then tell him. There is no point bottling up feelings for a long time; it'll only make you ill!
Hope this helped a bit.
Basically, if you like this person, just talk to him more. Try and discover whether he has feelings for you. As a general rule, I wouldn't think that telling him you fancy him, just out of the blue, would be a good idea, because if he didn't like in that way it could be quite an embarrasing experience for you.
Just go out with him sometimes, flirt with him a bit, and if you still can't workout whether he likes you, then tell him. There is no point bottling up feelings for a long time; it'll only make you ill!
Hope this helped a bit.
In my own world
Being of mixed race myself, I don't think that skin colour is really the immediate problem, as there are many mixed race relationships these days, even though I do realise that a small minority may still see them as odd or wrong or whatever.
Basically, if you like this person, just talk to him more. Try and discover whether he has feelings for you. As a general rule, I wouldn't think that telling him you fancy him, just out of the blue, would be a good idea, because if he didn't like in that way it could be quite an embarrasing experience for you.
Just go out with him sometimes, flirt with him a bit, and if you still can't workout whether he likes you, then tell him. There is no point bottling up feelings for a long time; it'll only make you ill!
Hope this helped a bit.
Basically, if you like this person, just talk to him more. Try and discover whether he has feelings for you. As a general rule, I wouldn't think that telling him you fancy him, just out of the blue, would be a good idea, because if he didn't like in that way it could be quite an embarrasing experience for you.
Just go out with him sometimes, flirt with him a bit, and if you still can't workout whether he likes you, then tell him. There is no point bottling up feelings for a long time; it'll only make you ill!
Hope this helped a bit.
A bit?! The fact that you have taken time to reply is helpful in itself so thanks
As for the flirting thing, we have recently been flirting like MAD but I still can't tell whether this is friendly banter or whether it means anything. I don't have a problem with colour....I find people of all races attractive and I don't have a 'type'. But again, its his family I'm wondering about.Bottling up feelings really does make you ill
lol (btw I'm not referring to this situation)Anonymous
Hey, the interracial thing isn't so much a 'problem' but a factor which cannot be ignored. I don't really think its about the colour but more about the cultural differences. I don't really have an issue with the colour thing and neither does he....its his family I'm more worried about. But then again you can't really do much on that front can you?........
What's your take on the family thing Shady Lane?
What's your take on the family thing Shady Lane?
Hmm well it just depends how extreme it is.
My younger brother has a white gf, her parents told her that dating a black guy is as bad as if she were gay (they are Catholic!) and that the family will never accept it. So they don't really have much long-term future unless she cuts off ties with her family!
However the guys I dated were at university, so parents weren't really that involved. I assumed their families didn't care much. My parents don't care but my grandparents would hate it if I ended up with a white guy.
shady lane
Hmm well it just depends how extreme it is.
My younger brother has a white gf, her parents told her that dating a black guy is as bad as if she were gay (they are Catholic!) and that the family will never accept it. So they don't really have much long-term future unless she cuts off ties with her family!
However the guys I dated were at university, so parents weren't really that involved. I assumed their families didn't care much. My parents don't care but my grandparents would hate it if I ended up with a white guy.
My younger brother has a white gf, her parents told her that dating a black guy is as bad as if she were gay (they are Catholic!) and that the family will never accept it. So they don't really have much long-term future unless she cuts off ties with her family!
However the guys I dated were at university, so parents weren't really that involved. I assumed their families didn't care much. My parents don't care but my grandparents would hate it if I ended up with a white guy.
Don't know if it makes a difference to say that he's Asian. I don't think his folks are THAT extreme since he has said that if he ever had to date a girl and she just happened to be black then his folks would accept it because she was the one he loved. I don't know if i'm using this as an excuse for not grabbing this with both hands. I guess I'm scared and excited at the same time
I love Asian guys hehe (Indian/Pakistani/etc)
Go for it!!! Good luck
Go for it!!! Good luck
shady lane
I love Asian guys hehe (Indian/Pakistani/etc)
Go for it!!! Good luck
Go for it!!! Good luck
Thanks Girl!
I will!!!dr octagon
you have good taste
Do you like asian guys too?
xyz2k6
Do you like asian guys too?
dr octagon
oh yeah, love em. why?? you asian?? if so, you must be one hunk of a man
There was an element of sarcasm involved. Nevermind.
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