Jealousy?

Well, with everyone here doing so well, I was wondering if any of you had to deal with jealous people.. or even friends?

Unfortunately, whilst most of my friends were happy about my grades and the grades they themselves got, one was annoyed about her grade in History and lashed out at me.

Now I could kind of understand if it was a complete surprise result (i.e English) but I've always worked hard in History. I've consistently done well in practise exams as well as real ones, as well as doing a little bit better than her, so I can't understand why her attitude is 'How did SHE get one and I never?!' As one of my best friends, I thought she would have been happy for me, whilst being disappointed with her own grade as it was not what she expected. I deserve this grade, and now I feel bad about it because she didn't get what she wanted.

Anyone else experience similar situations?

Reply 1

PoisonDonna

14

Last year for my AS results, I got ABC and was very happy. Pretty much all of my friends did awfully though and I wasn't able to be happy for myself at my grades. I spent the whole day gloomy with them unable to enjoy my own success. I didn't let that happen for A2 this year though, nothing could stop me!

Reply 2

lamenter

12

You mean when people insinuate you did "favors" or cheated on your exam to get a good mark?

Nope. When ever a i get a good mark. People praise me and my head gets big.

Reply 3

Happyness

14

Erm, probably yes. There was loads of people that stopped talking to me on results day, and others who were like "shut up, you cheated". And there was this one guy who said "you are the chief examiner" and went away. what a weirdo...lol

Reply 4

Faraday

Triad

Erm, probably yes. There was loads of people that stopped talking to me on results day, and others who were like "shut up, you cheated". And there was this one guy who said "you are the chief examiner" and went away. what a weirdo...lol

my god jealous s***heads they need a slap...they should've worked harder if they wanted higher grades...at the end of the day its their fault and putting you down only makes them feel better...ignore these people who refuse to talk to you they can't posibly be your friends...real friends would celebrate your results and would be happy for you.

Reply 5

loopylouise

hehe, I've never been that good but I'm also not jelous of people who do better than me. I just don't understand how people would blame someone else for their own failure :confused:

Reply 6

Happyness

14

Faraday

my god jealous s***heads they need a slap...they should've worked harder if they wanted higher grades...at the end of the day its their fault and putting you down only makes them feel better...ignore these people who refuse to talk to you they can't posibly be your friends...real friends would celebrate your results and would be happy for you.

I have left the **** hole anyways. It was really quite a bad school; full of chavs and other scummy people. I didnt have any "real" friends there. People made friends with those that they thought were more "cool", and because i was quite a studious lad, they didnt really like me much. But i dont give a crap as to what they thought; i got the results that i wanted, and im extremely happy for that.

Reply 7

Happyness

14

loopylouise

hehe, I've never been that good but I'm also not jelous of people who do better than me. I just don't understand how people would blame someone else for their own failure :confused:

im confused too. Its weird why people become jealous just because someone else has done better than them; i mean if they had tried their best and gave it their all, then im sure their is nothing to be jealous about, then just to accept that someone else is more academic then them.

Its probably due to low self-esteem.

Reply 8

Faraday

Triad

I have left the **** hole anyways. It was really quite a bad school; full of chavs and other scummy people. I didnt have any "real" friends there. People made friends with those that they thought were more "cool", and because i was quite a studious lad, they didnt really like me much. But i dont give a crap as to what they thought; i got the results that i wanted, and im extremely happy for that.

...that sounds like hell. make sure you make some real friends this year

Reply 9

Victime de la mode

2

Me and all my friends are always really happy for each other when we do well. But it reminds of one of my friends who got full marks in her science GCSE and all the lads were like "you only got that A* coz you slept with the examiner". Not in a jealous way though.

Reply 10

Happyness

14

Faraday

...that sounds like hell. make sure you make some real friends this year

I'd think so. The sixth form that im going to sounds like a good place, and they have a 100% pass rate, so i think everyone studies there, so i wouldnt be the only one.. :biggrin:

Reply 11

Master621

Victime de la mode

Me and all my friends are always really happy for each other when we do well. But it reminds of one of my friends who got full marks in her science GCSE and all the lads were like "you only got that A* coz you slept with the examiner". Not in a jealous way though.

Same with my school.

Reply 12

brimstone

7

Of all the people I've spoken to outside of TSR, I've got a higher grade than them. Although it's not jealousy as such, I don't like to say my grades around them for fear of being offensive or summat. That's why I like TSR; I'm only average here :biggrin:

Reply 13

Naranoc

13

^ Same here! I avoided speaking to my friends about results, because I knew that they'd gotten lower, and would feel gutted if I told them,particularly since one of them failed her English exam and isn't sure she'll get into college :frown:

Reply 14

mousy

14

People were okay with me on results day for GCSE, but when we had the award evening a few months later people (including my best friend) got annoyed because I got quite a few awards. I got annoyed because I worked really hard for my GCSEs and I got the best that my high school had ever had so they wanted to make a big deal out of it, its not like i asked to be given all the awards.

Reply 15

davidjones90

12

Well I did make some jokes to people who did like REALLY well (9A*+) but never mean't it in a truthful way. YOu sure there not being sarcastic or messing with you?

IF so, they need a good slap themselves.

Reply 16

packupthemoon

9

Everybody was wonderful about my GCSE results, but when AS came around...

A lot of my friends didn't get what they wanted (mostly due to not working hard enough) and I got blanked, told to f off and that I was the last person they wanted to see...all before they even knew what I had got! I wasn't even smiling or anything, I knew everybody was having a bad day and didn't need me going about grinning. It was really upsetting, because it wasn't exactly my fault they hadn't done as well as they should have/were predicted.

Luckily not everybody was like that, but it was interesting and frankly surprising to see who they were.

Reply 17

Happyness

14

LouisaG

Everybody was wonderful about my GCSE results, but when AS came around...

A lot of my friends didn't get what they wanted (mostly due to not working hard enough) and I got blanked, told to f off and that I was the last person they wanted to see...all before they even knew what I had got! I wasn't even smiling or anything, I knew everybody was having a bad day and didn't need me going about grinning. It was really upsetting, because it wasn't exactly my fault they hadn't done as well as they should have/were predicted.

Luckily not everybody was like that, but it was interesting and frankly surprising to see who they were.

They realised regreat is a very bad and demolishing emotion.

Reply 18

kellywood_5

17

On GCSE results day, I did better than most of my friends, but they were fine about it. On AS results day, one of my friends was slightly annoyed that I was a bit disappointed with my grades despite doing better than him, but I think he was only joking. On A2 results day, all my friends were lovely about making me feel better and didn't get jealous or tell me to stop being silly or anything because they knew I'd worked really hard and had expected to do better. My best friend got pretty much the same results as me, but she got into her firm uni and I didn't. Another friend got better results than me and also got into his firm. I was genuinely happy for both of them because they'd also worked hard and deserved their results.

LouisaG, that is seriously harsh!! :frown:

They can't be your real friends; real friends would have been happy for you, especialy as you were being nice about it instead of rubbing it in their faces. If I were you, I would have told them not to blame me for the fact that I'm a hard worker and they're all slackers :p:

Reply 19

Cataclysm

2

Couldxbe

Well, with everyone here doing so well, I was wondering if any of you had to deal with jealous people.. or even friends?

-SNIP-

Anyone else experience similar situations?

No personal experience, I was genuinely happy for other people and likewise people shared similar emotions. Now some people will always be jealous, it is a natural human emotion, you're not exactly going to ask for a bad mark so that your friend feels good. You worked, you deserve it and that is all that matters. You didn't do it to impress your family/friends, you did it for you. Be proud of the result and don't worry about it. Chillax! :p:

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