boyfriend/mother crisis!

HELP ME! iv been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and hes really really good to me.
My mother gets abit angry sometimes and we have fights. iv told him twice about these and he sorted out places for me to go if things get bad again. This morning he rung me (like he normally does) and my mum was really angry and was shouting at me. he told me to call the police. but i wont call the police on my own mother. its not in me to do this to my own mother! I told my boyfriend i couldnt do it and he went crazy at me, shouting that iv really hurt him with all this. i dont mean for him to get involved i just tell him what happens and he feels its his duty to tell me how to cope.
I understand his point of view but i simply cant do that to my mum and i dont want to pressured into anything. i dont know what to do. my boyfriend wont talk to me and i feel he'll finish things tomorrow. help! :frown:

Reply 1

guccilittlepiggy

well was is just a normal argument between you and your mum? or was your bf genuinely scared you were in danger and hence his reaction?

Reply 2

Fleece

If she was just shouting at you, then he's a moron for trying to get you to call the police.

If it was something more and you were in danger, then he maybe has a point and it doesn't matter if it's your mother or not.

Reply 3

egg_soup

it was a fairly big argument. but i didnt mean to get him involved i didnt want to but he rung me. i just dont know what to do

Reply 4

El Stevo

well, if you genuinely feel threatened - police is an option, but most domestic arguments, however large, arent like that. also the reaction of your boyfriend is well voer the top if tis just a family tiff.

Reply 5

*lucy_lou*

It seems that you do understand that he just wants to protect you and make sure your are ok.
If you are not worried about the fights then perhaps he does not need to get involved. However, if he sees the fights to be potentially violent from a new perspective, maybe you should hear him out.
I'm not suggesting you should call the police on your mum but at least consider the acknowledgement that the fighting is too much and try and talk to your mum.
The uneccessary involvement of your boyfriend may have detrimental affects on his relationship with your mother in the future but it seems clear that he just wants to ensure your safety and happiness.
*LOU*

Reply 6

egg_soup

I have spoken to my mum about it and each time after she apologizes. sometimes i just want a guy for me to cry to when im upset. i really dont wanna hurt him - and i feel guilty cos of it

Reply 7

*lucy_lou*

don't feel guilty for wanting some support. i'm sure he wants to be there for you but at the same time he will be forced into an uncomfortable situation. *LOU*

Reply 8

sunscreen

are you ME or something?! lol

i think you should just tell your boyfriend its your mother and thats the way it is... if he finishes with u because you have problems in ur life he's probs not all that much worth it...

my bf of 8 months is VERY supportive of me when me and my mother argue (most of the time lol) he looks after me when she throws me out for no reason, and he supports me when i go back home
he and my mother get on REALLY well
i do most of the time but she has a very stressful job and takes it out on me...

Reply 9

silverbolt

is your mother pyschically abusive to you. If so hit her back, its amazing how a relationship like that changes when a parent finally realises that your too big to be bullied around (worked wonders were my father was concerned).

Why do you have such explosive arguments btw?