dirty dancing- how appropriate is it?

if you were in a relationship and you found out that your bf/gf was dirty dancing against their ex, friend, random person

how would you feel?

for me i wouldn't appreciate it, but id be more hurtful if it was against his/her ex. and i guess id be jealous as well :frown:

Reply 1

fez

its ok for guys to do it

not for girls though

Reply 2

Ross_j

9

i'd go mad to be honest, if she's dancing with a friend it's no big deal, but with an ex is wayyyyyyyyyy too far.

Reply 3

wirbelsturm

2

Ross_j

i'd go mad to be honest, if she's dancing with a friend it's no big deal, but with an ex is wayyyyyyyyyy too far.

agree

Reply 4

supernova2

11

Er I dont think id like my gf dirty dancing with anyone other than me. Same sex is ok though! :biggrin:

Reply 5

generalebriety

16

Bah... to be honest, if I trusted the person, and I knew the other person was a friend of some sort, I wouldn't care. Unconditional trust is a fairly important part of a relationship...

Reply 6

Lοve

generalebriety

Bah... to be honest, if I trusted the person, and I knew the other person was a friend of some sort, I wouldn't care. Unconditional trust is a fairly important part of a relationship...

Absolutely.

Reply 7

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

if you were in a relationship and you found out that your bf/gf was dirty dancing against their ex, friend, random person

how would you feel?

for me i wouldn't appreciate it, but id be more hurtful if it was against his/her ex. and i guess id be jealous as well :frown:

I thought this was a question about the film for a minute. of which I can't stand. IF i go out with one more girl who likes that film I dont even know what I'm gonna do.

and personally, I'd get rid If my girlfriend was dirtydancing with anyone else apart from me.

I find it weird that one of my girl/mates likes to dirty dance with me when shes got a boyfriend. It makes me wonder what to think sometimes, as shes pretty and things, But I dont think of her like that, yet its hard not to get turned on when she tries it :eek:

Reply 8

In my own world

I personally don't see anything wrong with it. As long as I know that my boyfriend is 100% commited to me, then 'dirty' dancing with someone else isn't that big a deal. Its dancing, fun and occasionally flirtatious dancing, but its just dancing all the same. I also know that he has the same leniency with me - its a two way thing, as are most things in a relationship. There are limits, but as long as there isn't any wayward groping, I see no problem with it at all!

Reply 9

squigaletta

the only situation id have a problem with is dirty dancing with the ex, its just a bit too close to opening up old wounds, i mean if its a serious ex, if it was someone you dated for a week in year 9 i wouldnt be too fussed tbh!

Reply 10

friendsfreak88

Hmm I know that for some people it wouldn't mean anything and wouldn't be seen as a big deal I wouldn't like it. I think that the random person may get the wrong idea and then things could get difficult.

Reply 11

foxiroxi

10

I wouldn't do it whist in a relationship and I would be annoyed if my boyfriend did however I wouldn't dump them over it, just tell them how I feel about it :smile:

Reply 12

Princess_Charley

4

fez

its ok for guys to do it

not for girls though

Wait, you think its ok for guys to grind up against someone else when they have a girlfriend but not for girls to do it when they have a boyfriend?

Sorry if i didnt understand your answer, but double standards?

Reply 13

silverbolt

19

generalebriety

Bah... to be honest, if I trusted the person, and I knew the other person was a friend of some sort, I wouldn't care. Unconditional trust is a fairly important part of a relationship...

exactly

Reply 14

Creepy

14

generalebriety

Bah... to be honest, if I trusted the person, and I knew the other person was a friend of some sort, I wouldn't care. Unconditional trust is a fairly important part of a relationship...

Exactly my opinion.

Reply 15

Jelkin

17

generalebriety

Bah... to be honest, if I trusted the person, and I knew the other person was a friend of some sort, I wouldn't care. Unconditional trust is a fairly important part of a relationship...

For me it's not an issue of trust, it's an issue of what's appropriate. And I wouldn't feel particularly valued or respected if my boyfriend were rubbing up against some other girl under the guise of "dancing"...

EDIT: The film is crap!

Reply 16

Ron Stoppable

14

Anonymous

if you were in a relationship and you found out that your bf/gf was dirty dancing against their ex, friend, random person

how would you feel?

for me i wouldn't appreciate it, but id be more hurtful if it was against his/her ex. and i guess id be jealous as well :frown:

I prefer solving real-life situations to treading the "yea, but..." minefield of made-up ones. And your answer: I would feel happy, as long as they did NOT have the Time of Their Life. :rolleyes:

Reply 17

generalebriety

16

Jelkin

For me it's not an issue of trust, it's an issue of what's appropriate. And I wouldn't feel particularly valued or respected if my boyfriend were rubbing up against some other girl under the guise of "dancing"...

EDIT: The film is crap!

Clearly, in this case, "appropriateness" is something you and your boyfriend would differ on in opinion... appropriate for what, anyway? Maybe not appropriate for a business meeting but if you and your boyfriend are going the sort of places where dirty dancing is at all appropriate and you don't approve of it, you shouldn't be going in the first place.

I wish people would stop throwing the word "appropriate" round like it's universal. "Appropriate" implies for a certain situation.