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    The person I've liked for many years now is moving away to uni soon, do I tell them I like them? Or?


    I'm 95% sure they don't like me back
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    I think you should,n you'll regret it later on. No harm in trying, you have a good 5% hope this helps x

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    with me I've never been good at all at having attractive female friends as just friends, even if the "friendship" extended to a year or more
    if you tell her and things become awkward, just ask yourself - if she did say no, would you really be that sad? I mean, would it be the absolute end of the world? do you actually see her as a friend that might be lost or do you see her simply as a girl that is rejecting you like many other girls might in your life? if it's the latter and the friendship, upon you falling for her, is doomed, then ask her out and roll the dice
    I mean, I got rejected by a very good female friend 3 weeks ago (and I was absolutely miserable for days and days) and I loved her with all my heart, but about 2 weeks later I moved on and I already have plans with another girl (yeah, maybe I'm lucky)

    so my advice - never aim to just be friends with attractive girls (or of the gender you're attracted to, unless you're bisexual where it gets complicated) - always be dead-straight and clear, and make your intentions known from the soonest possible moment, and if she says no - move right on and say "there are a million other girls just like you out there, I'll have to find another"
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The person I've liked for many years now is moving away to uni soon, do I tell them I like them? Or?


    I'm 95% sure they don't like me back
    I wouldn't bother. I had this situation last time, and it turned out they didn't like me (but their best friend apparently did). It wasn't necessarily awkward but it was embarrassing and I regret it now, since it was pretty pointless.

    Even if it goes well, this person is going away and you cannot really do anything about it sadly.

    If it goes badly, you'll ruin your friendship and they probably won't want much to do with you.

    Sorry to be blunt OP, but it's probably best you follow your head instead of your heart on this one.
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    Nothing to lose, everything to gain.
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