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    Hi everyone,

    I have the following dilemma, please let me know if I'm overreacting or not.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, we moved in together and all. Very happy, very in love (both of us) love of our lives.
    Now he's had a 2 year relationship with his ex before me.
    1 month ago I checked his internet history (I know it's very bad) and found that he looked through his ex's whole Photo Album! And some other girls as well. I confronted him about it and felt bad because I obviously shouldn't be doing that. He said he just like looking at pictures when he's bored.. no apparent reason he said. Btw, he doesn't text or chat with any girls.. so he is definitely not cheating. He isn't a cheater and never has cheated on someone. Now I have checked his history again yesterday and discovered that he did that again! This time I didn't ask him about it because I didn't want him to know I'm snooping around. I feel quiet sad and worried of why he looks at pictures of his ex?
    Am I over reacting? I know that he loves me more than any girl he's been with because he shows it.. but I'm just confused on why he looks at her pictures??

    Anyone have an answer?
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    Jeez woman stop stalking his history. He was honest with you before so accept it and move on.
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    I think what you've done is far worse than him looking at pics of his ex.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Hi everyone,

    I have the following dilemma, please let me know if I'm overreacting or not.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, we moved in together and all. Very happy, very in love (both of us) love of our lives.
    Now he's had a 2 year relationship with his ex before me.
    1 month ago I checked his internet history (I know it's very bad) and found that he looked through his ex's whole Photo Album! And some other girls as well. I confronted him about it and felt bad because I obviously shouldn't be doing that. He said he just like looking at pictures when he's bored.. no apparent reason he said. Btw, he doesn't text or chat with any girls.. so he is definitely not cheating. He isn't a cheater and never has cheated on someone. Now I have checked his history again yesterday and discovered that he did that again! This time I didn't ask him about it because I didn't want him to know I'm snooping around. I feel quiet sad and worried of why he looks at pictures of his ex?
    Am I over reacting? I know that he loves me more than any girl he's been with because he shows it.. but I'm just confused on why he looks at her pictures??

    Anyone have an answer?
    I think you're over-reacting if you're 'very much in love' and the 'love of each other's lives' then why are you doubting him? If you're insistent that he would never cheat and isn't talking to his ex then there isn't anything to worry about. Just relax. He is probably reminiscing over things or maybe he is just curious about how she is getting on since they had been in a 2 year relationship.
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    I know it's bad... I'm not a jealous type at all, really! It's because this is the first time I've truly been in love and I just wanted to check if he's faithful. I don't want to be lied to. I don't want to get hurt or not know when he is cheating on me It's a big mistake of me to do it. I've never ever been like this.. he just got me so hard!
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    Thank you for all the replies! I know what i've done is bad.. I just couldn't help myself I feel bad for doubting him. I just couldn't live with someone of I didn't know they were doing something behind my back..
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    I know it's bad... I'm not a jealous type at all, really! It's because this is the first time I've truly been in love and I just wanted to check if he's faithful. I don't want to be lied to. I don't want to get hurt or not know when he is cheating on me It's a big mistake of me to do it. I've never ever been like this.. he just got me so hard!
    ....he's faithful since he hasnt messaged anyone.
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    Yeah that's true I should never do that again! You're right. I'm a person that never fell so hard for someone that's why. I think I'm just not myself sometimes.. I'm a bit too jealous. I really don't wanna be like that. It's very unlike me.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Yeah that's true I should never do that again! You're right. I'm a person that never fell so hard for someone that's why. I think I'm just not myself sometimes.. I'm a bit too jealous. I really don't wanna be like that. It's very unlike me.
    Well, you have acknowledged what you've done is wrong and as long as you don't do it again, everything should be fine. A little jealousy can be flattering a lot can be seen as annoying. Don't beat yourself up about it too much what's done is done.
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    (Original post by Wonderer1)
    Well, you have acknowledged what you've done is wrong and as long as you don't do it again, everything should be fine. A little jealousy can be flattering a lot can be seen as annoying. Don't beat yourself up about it too much what's done is done.

    Yeah you're right! Thank you for your advice! Really needed it.. I just felt like ****
    I know he's a good guy.. No reason to do that. Thank you
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    He's probably just interested in someone's holiday photos - I've looked through friend's photo albums when I'm bored with nothing better to do. I'm definitely not thinking of sleeping with them, just jealous that they're having a great holiday! I think you're probably just overreacting, it's not as if he's actually chatting to her. Don't worry, it's understandable to react in this way if you love someone that much Just be happy he's not cheating on you or watching porn - he loves you, you love him, no need to stress
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    (Original post by dragonkeeper999)
    He's probably just interested in someone's holiday photos - I've looked through friend's photo albums when I'm bored with nothing better to do. I'm definitely not thinking of sleeping with them, just jealous that they're having a great holiday! I think you're probably just overreacting, it's not as if he's actually chatting to her. Don't worry, it's understandable to react in this way if you love someone that much Just be happy he's not cheating on you or watching porn - he loves you, you love him, no need to stress
    Thank you! Well they're just normal photos.. But you're probably right. I just don't want to be in a relationship with someone that still has feelings for his ex you know? But I am over reacting.. Thanks for your friendly advise. I'm sure most people have loved someone a lot.. you sometimes just do stupid things you know
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    Stop worrying about it. Work on changing your behaviour and stop trying to change his.

    He's allowed to look at pics of his ex. Why feel jealous? He has an ex, they had a connection. He will probably always feel a fondness towards her, but that doesn't mean that he wants to get back with her. Get over it.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Yeah you're right! Thank you for your advice! Really needed it.. I just felt like ****
    I know he's a good guy.. No reason to do that. Thank you
    No problem. You said that you've never fallen for someone so hard before so of course you may accidently go to an extreme on occasion because you don't want to lose your relationship, it just shows how much you love him. You seem like a really likeable person, especially since you realised your mistakes so will learn from them.
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    (Original post by Ranibizumab)
    Stop worrying about it. Work on changing your behaviour and stop trying to change his.

    He's allowed to look at pics of his ex. Why feel jealous? He has an ex, they had a connection. He will probably always feel a fondness towards her, but that doesn't mean that he wants to get back with her. Get over it.
    Yeah I know, you're right. It's because they broke up because she lives in Australia.. and they couldn't be together.. So they didn't break up for any reason really! So I guess that way it's harder to just get over someone.
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    (Original post by Wonderer1)
    No problem. You said that you've never fallen for someone so hard before so of course you may accidently go to an extreme on occasion because you don't want to lose your relationship, it just shows how much you love him. You seem like a really likeable person, especially since you realised your mistakes so will learn from them.
    Yes exactly! It's because I am so vulnerable! And I know he is as well.. but he isn't that jealous. I've just gotten a bit too crazy. I need to man up a bit.. and stop being so stupid! This love thing makes me too sensitive which I can't handle sometimes.. So hard you know.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Yes exactly! It's because I am so vulnerable! And I know he is as well.. but he isn't that jealous. I've just gotten a bit too crazy. I need to man up a bit.. and stop being so stupid! This love thing makes me too sensitive which I can't handle sometimes.. So hard you know.
    Well, you've been doing something right since you've been together for nine months! Chin up and keep going. Have more confidence in yourself.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Hi everyone,

    I have the following dilemma, please let me know if I'm overreacting or not.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, we moved in together and all. Very happy, very in love (both of us) love of our lives.
    Now he's had a 2 year relationship with his ex before me.
    1 month ago I checked his internet history (I know it's very bad) and found that he looked through his ex's whole Photo Album! And some other girls as well. I confronted him about it and felt bad because I obviously shouldn't be doing that. He said he just like looking at pictures when he's bored.. no apparent reason he said. Btw, he doesn't text or chat with any girls.. so he is definitely not cheating. He isn't a cheater and never has cheated on someone. Now I have checked his history again yesterday and discovered that he did that again! This time I didn't ask him about it because I didn't want him to know I'm snooping around. I feel quiet sad and worried of why he looks at pictures of his ex?
    Am I over reacting? I know that he loves me more than any girl he's been with because he shows it.. but I'm just confused on why he looks at her pictures??

    Anyone have an answer?
    As long as he does not act on it what is the problem? Men always look at pics, pornography, women's cleavage...and so on even in a relationship, this should be expected going into a long term relationship.
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    (Original post by anna.00)
    Thank you for all the replies! I know what i've done is bad.. I just couldn't help myself I feel bad for doubting him. I just couldn't live with someone of I didn't know they were doing something behind my back..
    You should apologise and give him some sweet lovin' IMO.
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    Yeah you're all right. I've apologised to him.
    It's not right to be like that and be sad around him. He doesn't deserve that. I really need to get more confident indeed.
    Thank you for all the kind responses.
 
 
 
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