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    Okay so to some people this may sound ridiculous but a couple of months ago a friend told me that I wouldn't make any friends at uni because I am overweight and not how people 'should look like' or whatever and as stupid as it sounds the closer it gets to actually moving in to uni it's been playing on my mind a lot more recently and just making me extremely worried, so I was just wondering , is there any truth to what she was saying? Do people ACTUALLY think that way? Again if I'm being ridiculous I do apologise
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    I'm fat and made friends.

    People at uni aren't like people at school/college.
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    That's good to hear, until someone actually said it to me I never even thought of weight as a factor when it comes to meeting new people
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    I'd rather make friends with someone that's overweight with a personality, rather than someone who's 'average weight' and has no personality whatsoever.

    You'll be fine.
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    If people don't want to be friends with you because of your weight they're probably people you don't want to be friends with anyway
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    If your 'friend' told you that you wouldn't make friends because you're overweight, then what kind of friend are they? I'm sorry, but that's how it comes across. Any good friend would support you and your decisions. :/
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    Its really quite sad that is.

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    (Original post by AquaDuck)
    If your 'friend' told you that you wouldn't make friends because you're overweight, then what kind of friend are they? I'm sorry, but that's how it comes across. Any good friend would support you and your decisions. :/
    That's a good point, I'm kind of looking forward to going to uni and having a fresh start where there are people who hopefully don't think that way

    (Original post by Dana.)
    If people don't want to be friends with you because of your weight they're probably people you don't want to be friends with anyway
    True!


    (Original post by ItsRoryG)
    I'd rather make friends with someone that's overweight with a personality, rather than someone who's 'average weight' and has no personality whatsoever.

    You'll be fine.
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    (Original post by ItsRoryG)
    I'd rather make friends with someone that's overweight with a personality, rather than someone who's 'average weight' and has no personality whatsoever.

    You'll be fine.
    Thanks good to hear an opinion like that 😊
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    Not really a great friend there. Personally if you're fat or not will not make a difference to me regarding friendship
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    Yes, people at university aren't like people at school or college, and thank god because this girl must be very, very troubled indeed if this is her parting gift to a friend leaving for university. Believe me, weight does not factor into most people's thinking when it comes to forming friendships. This is a perverse attempt to scare you out of socialising before you even get through the front door. Far from being worried about uni, you should be over the moon about having a fresh start - away from toxic influences you could do without.
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    I don't think people will be *****y as in school/college your stuck with less than 200 people in your year group. your at uni now if you don't like some people then there are thousands of others who you can be friends with and I doubt you will ever chat with everyone on your course.
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    Trust me, your looks should be the last thing that ever comes into consideration when making friends. I've seen people in my school go through years of bullying because of how they look, and the moment they went to university, they suddenly made friends who are not only share their interests, but are not judgemental. It was such a happy thing to see, and it certainly gave me hope for when I start university next month. I went through life facing a similar issue as you - worried that my weight would deter people from me. But university is a diverse community, and it is nothing like school (based on what I've seen of it already) so please don't worry about making friends. It will be a fresh start for you, and soon your worries should melt away
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    (Original post by Eve Joy)
    Yes, people at university aren't like people at school or college, and thank god because this girl must be very, very troubled indeed if this is her parting gift to a friend leaving for university. Believe me, weight does not factor into most people's thinking when it comes to forming friendships. This is a perverse attempt to scare you out of socialising before you even get through the front door. Far from being worried about uni, you should be over the moon about having a fresh start - away from toxic influences you could do without.
    This was very reassuring thanks! I had just kind of accepted the fact that I look the way I look then this happened so I'm looking forward to my fresh start away from her 😊
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    (Original post by AquaDuck)
    Trust me, your looks should be the last thing that ever comes into consideration when making friends. I've seen people in my school go through years of bullying because of how they look, and the moment they went to university, they suddenly made friends who are not only share their interests, but are not judgemental. It was such a happy thing to see, and it certainly gave me hope for when I start university next month. I went through life facing a similar issue as you - worried that my weight would deter people from me. But university is a diverse community, and it is nothing like school (based on what I've seen of it already) so please don't worry about making friends. It will be a fresh start for you, and soon your worries should melt away
    That's why I was looking forward to uni as it just seemed so different to school/college then I got told this. Just need to start thinking how I was before this though and get excited at the prospect at going to uni again
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    After struggling with my weight and confidence for years, I've come to the conclusion that not many people actually give a damn! You think people look, but they don't- most people are oblivious to a lot.
    Look on the positives- you must have great skin, because it holds in all your organs real nicely, no leaking or anything. And you're covered in skin, so therefore you're ''skinny'' (though of course, like above users said, personality is much, much more important). People who think they're on the bigger side are almost always curvy in the right places but as we see skinny models in media it's seen as a bad way to be. I call **** on that- I'm certain you look great!
    Seriously, though- what I think you need is confidence and self-love. With confidence, people will automatically warm to you, and as Oscar Wilde once said ''to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance''. Make yourself feel good, and the rest will follow.
    Although, in all seriousness, if anyone butted in and said you had an ugly body, would it really matter? Well, yes and no. With low confidence, I felt like it was the end of the world- I'd sit and cry and fret. Now, I'd laugh. Because in the grand scheme of things, we live in a vast universe. I'm sure the moon doesn't know or care, nor does the sun or stars- so why should you?
    If you're still having trouble with confidence, I can point you to where you're going wrong- talking to much is a sign of low confidence. So it talking too little. And breathing. And just simply being a human. There's no ''Book of Life'' that we can buy to make everything perfect so, really, everyone is stumbling around being worried and unsure to some extent so the best thing you can do is just be yourself. (Unless you can be a unicorn. Then always be a unicorn.)
    Just chill and have fun- with fun will come confidence, and with confidence will come amazing things. Good luck!

    PS: I'd dump this ''friend''- life is too short to be giving negative people your time. I've had friends like your friends, and they're like putting on lead boots and jumping into a deep river- they just weigh you down. You'll make a tonne of awesome friends in uni but you must realise who is your friend and who is an enemy in disguise. You sound like an amazing friend, so I do hope with all my heart you get out there and make some of your level!
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    (Original post by KristaWinchester)
    After struggling with my weight and confidence for years, I've come to the conclusion that not many people actually give a damn! You think people look, but they don't- most people are oblivious to a lot.
    Look on the positives- you must have great skin, because it holds in all your organs real nicely, no leaking or anything. And you're covered in skin, so therefore you're ''skinny'' (though of course, like above users said, personality is much, much more important). People who think they're on the bigger side are almost always curvy in the right places but as we see skinny models in media it's seen as a bad way to be. I call **** on that- I'm certain you look great!
    Seriously, though- what I think you need is confidence and self-love. With confidence, people will automatically warm to you, and as Oscar Wilde once said ''to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance''. Make yourself feel good, and the rest will follow.
    Although, in all seriousness, if anyone butted in and said you had an ugly body, would it really matter? Well, yes and no. With low confidence, I felt like it was the end of the world- I'd sit and cry and fret. Now, I'd laugh. Because in the grand scheme of things, we live in a vast universe. I'm sure the moon doesn't know or care, nor does the sun or stars- so why should you?
    If you're still having trouble with confidence, I can point you to where you're going wrong- talking to much is a sign of low confidence. So it talking too little. And breathing. And just simply being a human. There's no ''Book of Life'' that we can buy to make everything perfect so, really, everyone is stumbling around being worried and unsure to some extent so the best thing you can do is just be yourself. (Unless you can be a unicorn. Then always be a unicorn.)
    Just chill and have fun- with fun will come confidence, and with confidence will come amazing things. Good luck!

    PS: I'd dump this ''friend''- life is too short to be giving negative people your time. I've had friends like your friends, and they're like putting on lead boots and jumping into a deep river- they just weigh you down. You'll make a tonne of awesome friends in uni but you must realise who is your friend and who is an enemy in disguise. You sound like an amazing friend, so I do hope with all my heart you get out there and make some of your level!
    Thanks for the advice, I'm hoping one day to have such a positive outlook on these kind of things in life! and perhaps the way to do that is to get this person out of my life
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    Most fat people are really funny, so you should be ok.
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    (Original post by AbigailLeigh)
    Okay so to some people this may sound ridiculous but a couple of months ago a friend told me that I wouldn't make any friends at uni because I am overweight and not how people 'should look like' or whatever and as stupid as it sounds the closer it gets to actually moving in to uni it's been playing on my mind a lot more recently and just making me extremely worried, so I was just wondering , is there any truth to what she was saying? Do people ACTUALLY think that way? Again if I'm being ridiculous I do apologise
    Wow that was harsh it really does not matter. If you really wan't to you could go to the gym or something . 10 mins on a rowing machean every day will do wonders in 4 weeks find a good effective diet. Many try swimming and watch the fat disappear.
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    (Original post by Eve Joy)
    Yes, people at university aren't like people at school or college, and thank god because this girl must be very, very troubled indeed if this is her parting gift to a friend leaving for university. Believe me, weight does not factor into most people's thinking when it comes to forming friendships. This is a perverse attempt to scare you out of socialising before you even get through the front door. Far from being worried about uni, you should be over the moon about having a fresh start - away from toxic influences you could do without.
    Of course she may just be scarred of leaving you I am shore you are not to fat as long as you can fit in to a aircraft seat you are fine
 
 
 
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