Why does everyone I know, Use me for Emotional support & then Leave me?Watch
Everyone I know, whether its in real life or online friends etc, ALWAYS come to me when they need emotional support and advice.
I personally don't think I'm an expert at that since I'm only 22 and not even a therapist but everyone I know love the emotional support and advice I give to them because they like how I show that I care about them (even though they don't care about me) and I give them solutions or at least make them feel Happy and free-spirited again.
However as soon as they begin to flourish using the help I gave them, they quickly leave me and only return if they need help.
I'm a nice big-hearted person, although I'm naive/innocent I do have wisdom and the passion to help/care for others, and I know people like that about me, and want to take advantage of that and usually do.
However I feel so empty after they leave - like I just got used and not even appreciated enough to be held close by them. I never express this disappointment or else I will come across as demanding and I don't want that because I'm not demanding. I just like appreciation and reciprocation. Yet never receive it.
I guess this is a bit of a vent/rant rather than a question. However I do have two questions - why do people treat me like this? How do I improve my situation?
I cant talk for the people you help but most people will use you to get what they want, then go when they don't need you, your giving your time and effort to people who don't deserve it. You need to try and become better at being a judge of character because at the moment it seems you put your time and effort into selfish people too quickly.
It seems you are not allowing enough time for people to become emotionally involved in you, your concentrating too much on helping other people and not getting anything back from the friendship/ relationship. you've just become the agony aunt that people write to in the paper, how many people write into agony aunts asking how they are? I can guarantee it doesn't happen.
Take some time out for your self and think about what you want out of the people that you meet, bond with them and create a bit more of a foundation, and steer clear of the selfish people out there!
Hope this has helped!