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2 year relationship over
I am a female, early 20s. My boyfriend dumped me last night as I am still a virgin, he couldn't wait any longer and that it was over. I admit the time has dragged a bit but he is so well hung (particularly girth) had put me off. I did want to lose it to him but was a bit worried about the pain. He said he will always love me and we even thought we could possibly marry. This was the one thing at fault in our relationship, we got on so great.
I just don't know what to do as he hasn't text or rang to see how I am vice versa, especially as I drove off from his house in tears. I really want him back and have realised I need to face my 'fear' or do you think I haven't got another chance. Really worried about telling my parents as its not something thats easy to tell, I would get upset and they would be nosy.
I just don't know what to do as he hasn't text or rang to see how I am vice versa, especially as I drove off from his house in tears. I really want him back and have realised I need to face my 'fear' or do you think I haven't got another chance. Really worried about telling my parents as its not something thats easy to tell, I would get upset and they would be nosy.
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The sympathetic Yahooey can see both your side and your ex-boyfriend's side of the situation.
Ultimately, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks that sooner or later you would've had to face your fear anyway, and if your ex was really patient and you kept putting it off and putting it off, maybe he was right to end it because you weren't on the same page.
The sympathetic Yahooey thinks it's likely he'd give you another chance, but also if you're not ready to lose your virginity you shouldn't do it just to hold onto a guy.
With that having been said, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks maybe your early 20s with a guy you love isn't such a bad time to do it, no?
The sympathetic Yahooey has spoken.
Ultimately, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks that sooner or later you would've had to face your fear anyway, and if your ex was really patient and you kept putting it off and putting it off, maybe he was right to end it because you weren't on the same page.
The sympathetic Yahooey thinks it's likely he'd give you another chance, but also if you're not ready to lose your virginity you shouldn't do it just to hold onto a guy.
With that having been said, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks maybe your early 20s with a guy you love isn't such a bad time to do it, no?
The sympathetic Yahooey has spoken.
Hey hun.
Is he still a virgin? If so then I guess I can sort of see why he left although if he loved you he would wait for you. Sex is so hyped up and the first time really isn't "all that". But I agree you should lose it to someone you love like I did. It is so much more special like that.
Ring him up, explain how you feel. You've been together 2 years and you say you were very happy together, why lose all that because of the "fear" of first time sex? Face your fear. It's not really that bad and it won't be because you're with someone you love and trust and who you feel comfortable with. He doesn't seem like the type of guy to leave you once you've had sex. Being with you for 2 years proves that.
Good Luck.
Let us know how you get on.
Karen x
Is he still a virgin? If so then I guess I can sort of see why he left although if he loved you he would wait for you. Sex is so hyped up and the first time really isn't "all that". But I agree you should lose it to someone you love like I did. It is so much more special like that.
Ring him up, explain how you feel. You've been together 2 years and you say you were very happy together, why lose all that because of the "fear" of first time sex? Face your fear. It's not really that bad and it won't be because you're with someone you love and trust and who you feel comfortable with. He doesn't seem like the type of guy to leave you once you've had sex. Being with you for 2 years proves that.
Good Luck.
Let us know how you get on.
Karen x
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The sympathetic Yahooey can see both your side and your ex-boyfriend's side of the situation.
Ultimately, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks that sooner or later you would've had to face your fear anyway, and if your ex was really patient and you kept putting it off and putting it off, maybe he was right to end it because you weren't on the same page.
The sympathetic Yahooey thinks it's likely he'd give you another chance, but also if you're not ready to lose your virginity you shouldn't do it just to hold onto a guy.
With that having been said, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks maybe your early 20s with a guy you love isn't such a bad time to do it, no?
The sympathetic Yahooey has spoken.
Ultimately, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks that sooner or later you would've had to face your fear anyway, and if your ex was really patient and you kept putting it off and putting it off, maybe he was right to end it because you weren't on the same page.
The sympathetic Yahooey thinks it's likely he'd give you another chance, but also if you're not ready to lose your virginity you shouldn't do it just to hold onto a guy.
With that having been said, the sympathetic Yahooey thinks maybe your early 20s with a guy you love isn't such a bad time to do it, no?
The sympathetic Yahooey has spoken.
Agreed.
If you dont want this, you're not prepared, than dont do it! If he would really love you he would wait! and there are no excuses...
He didnt text you or called.. he is giving you this kind of ultimatum:
SEX or IT'S OVER. - Ask yourself is this kind of person worth anything?
Your virginity is your treasure... and be 100% sure that you want it, with this or another person.. if not.. it's not worth it, and you will regret it.
In my opinion he's not worth a penny.. if you love him, try to kill this love, cuz he's not worth it.
He didnt text you or called.. he is giving you this kind of ultimatum:
SEX or IT'S OVER. - Ask yourself is this kind of person worth anything?
Your virginity is your treasure... and be 100% sure that you want it, with this or another person.. if not.. it's not worth it, and you will regret it.
In my opinion he's not worth a penny.. if you love him, try to kill this love, cuz he's not worth it.
Ulala
If you dont want this, you're not prepared, than dont do it! If he would really love you he would wait! and there are no excuses...
He didnt text you or called.. he is giving you this kind of ultimatum:
SEX or IT'S OVER. - Ask yourself is this kind of person worth anything?
Your virginity is your treasure... and be 100% sure that you want it, with this or another person.. if not.. it's not worth it, and you will regret it.
In my opinion he's not worth a penny.. if you love him, try to kill this love, cuz he's not worth it.
He didnt text you or called.. he is giving you this kind of ultimatum:
SEX or IT'S OVER. - Ask yourself is this kind of person worth anything?
Your virginity is your treasure... and be 100% sure that you want it, with this or another person.. if not.. it's not worth it, and you will regret it.
In my opinion he's not worth a penny.. if you love him, try to kill this love, cuz he's not worth it.
Hes waited two years?
Maybe hes had doubts about your feelings for him because of your resistance to sex?The fashionable Yahooey says exactly L0RA.
After 2 years if the fashionable Yahooey's girlfriend still didn't make any efforts to sleep with him despite claiming to want to, the fashionable Yahooey would wonder what the hell was going on and why she was stringing him along.
2 years shows remarkable patience, but nobody's patience can last forever.
The fashionable Yahooey has spoken.
After 2 years if the fashionable Yahooey's girlfriend still didn't make any efforts to sleep with him despite claiming to want to, the fashionable Yahooey would wonder what the hell was going on and why she was stringing him along.
2 years shows remarkable patience, but nobody's patience can last forever.
The fashionable Yahooey has spoken.
^^ Well from what she said I gathered that she's afraid to do it because she thinks he'll hurt her because of his size? If this is the case I completely understand and sympathise with you not wanting to do it but at the same time, your bf cannot wait forever and if you love him and want to stay with him, it was bound to happen sooner or late and maybe he's just getting frustrated. 2 years is a long time.
Ulala
BobMob, it depends on the girl, and I guess that to this girl which speaks in this thread, it is a treasure...
ALOT of people regret who/when/where they lost their virginity mostly because they dont love/like the person anymore. It doesnt play on their mind everyday at what a bad choice it is though.
As long as it felt right at the time, thats all that matters.
People who havent lost their viginity always have a different opinion to those that have, which is fine. But i think in this case the people who have had sex have a bit more experience in order to answer the question.
Yeah but she is not ready he cannot force her to do it even if it's 2 years, sorry but i think he was so cruel to dump her.
I think people are forgetting, I don't care about my virginity - this guy was the one I wanted to lose it too but my stupid fear has ruined the relationship. Have been crying a lot tonight, I just don't know what to do. If I call or text he may think I'm weak, then if I don't he may think I never cared. I do understand why he did it, it was a long wait and you can't wait forever.
well if he dumped you cos of that, then sounds like sex is the only thing you're relationship would have any relevance to. bit harsh dumping you afterf 2 years cos of that. sex should not be that important (personally that's what i think) and he obviously doesnt love you cos he would wait even if you are in your 20's. what if he had to wait until your married for religious reasons, would be the same problem....that would mean he would have dumped you as soon as he found out. he sounds like an idiot tbh. sorry just my opinion. good luck anyway with whatever you do.
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