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Reply 20

"sex should not be that important (personally that's what i think) and he obviously doesnt love you cos he would wait even if you are in your 20's"

first point, your virginity isnt a "treasure". secondly, sex IS important. its how you build intamacy in a relationship and differentiates it from a relationship you would have with just your mates. why this guy has to wait 2 years because hes well hung (this really confused me!) obviously this guy isnt that important to you, because otherwise youd of had sex with him to keep him. (which is hardly too much to ask in a 2 year relationship ffs, plus you should enjoy it!) so get over it or say goodbye to your potential fiance and get a new boyfreind with a small dick.

"and he obviously doesnt love you cos he would wait even if you are in your 20's"

you obviously dont love this guy enough to make an effort to cater for his needs, even though he has respected your weird issue for 2 years!!!! christ.

Reply 21

Electric

Some harsh replies, gets worse. I think Yahooey and Sparkle86 have given some good advice. If the guy's ulterior motive was sex I doubt he would have even waited a few months let alone a few years. You should contact him ask for another chance and don't let your fear ruin your life if it makes you unhappy. Sex is fun and secures a relationship.

Reply 22

amywalters

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Anonymous

I am a female, early 20s. My boyfriend dumped me last night as I am still a virgin, he couldn't wait any longer and that it was over. I admit the time has dragged a bit but he is so well hung (particularly girth) had put me off. I did want to lose it to him but was a bit worried about the pain. He said he will always love me and we even thought we could possibly marry. This was the one thing at fault in our relationship, we got on so great.

I just don't know what to do as he hasn't text or rang to see how I am vice versa, especially as I drove off from his house in tears. I really want him back and have realised I need to face my 'fear' or do you think I haven't got another chance. Really worried about telling my parents as its not something thats easy to tell, I would get upset and they would be nosy.

I definately can understand how hard it is - you just sit there and want to scream because you don't know what to do with yourself - someone who you are used to talking to when you are this mad isnt there anymore.

If i was you, i'd give it every shot. I understand its hard to think that he left you because you didnt have sex, but if he waited along time he clearly did love you, but think about it this way - perhaps sex meant alot to him, and you rejecting him (for perfectly good reasons) hurt him too.

If you get on very well, and you were planning to marry, then you should take this risk and tell him you'd do anything to be with him again. Arrange something special for him to come over, and really go all out, give him the one thing that means a hell of a lot to the both of you, and then he'll really see your commitment.

Obviously, only have sex with him if you are ready - but he doesn't want to hurt you, and there are things you can do to be relaxed and chill yourself down. But if you think that you are the one that could do something for him, then go all out girl!! To make love with him would put your relationship up a step, and you never know, you could really enjoy yourself :smile:

Its always best with someone you love.

Reply 23

Talon

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amywalters

I definately can understand how hard it is - you just sit there and want to scream because you don't know what to do with yourself - someone who you are used to talking to when you are this mad isnt there anymore.

I know that feeling. Ofcourse there is a punch bag in my garage so screaming isnt necessary.

TBH The guy sounds like a half decent one. He did wait two years. You need to stop thinking about the pain (there might not be much, if any), and think about what you two would be sharing.

Reply 24

Roberto Tomato

2 years? This guy sounds perfect if he was willing to wait 2 years for you.

Reply 25

EnglishNut

Thought i'd add my two cents.

If you've been with the guy for 2 years, im sure that the topic of sex has come up...and your feelings and concerns have been voiced? There are certain positions etc that you can both take to try and make it as comfortable as possible, so there is no need for this blokes harshness. Hes being a childish and selfish brat imo - and if your communication was good (which im sure it was) then there was absolutely no need for the break up.

I would ring him personally, or even better, see him in person. If you've not voiced concerns over having sex with him, it may be worth bringing it to his attention now.

Reply 26

lorna18

have you tried speaking to him about being afraid? because if you do then maybe you can sort it out like this or something, if you love eachother an are comfy around eachother why not let him go really slow an try an relax and just let it happen but slowly and you are in control by telling him to stop if it hurts you. he did wait a long time, maybe you should call him an talk to him an tell him whats up if you havent already

Reply 27

Electric

I think the last couple of posts are really useful, hope everything works out for you :smile:

Reply 28

Anonymous #1

OP

Still not heard off him so am having my doubts and wondering what he is thinking, its hard to try and contact him as he did dump me.

Reply 29

totally_unique

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If it's what you want. It's worth fighting for it. Text him or something....He may be having the same feelings as you...Just take a deep breath and do what you feel you want.
Surely it's gotta be worth it, for such a long relationship it's a real shame for it to have ended in this way. Surely you've got the best basis now for a truely great relationship as you must know each other inside out.

2 year relationship over

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