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Boy Trouble!
I really can't believe I've become this desperate, but here goes..
I've been seeing this guy for about 6 weeks, he's a couple of months younger than me, lives in a different city from me, but it's only an hour away by train, easy enough to get to and stuff. So anyway he's at college there atm so we only really get to see each other once a week, and I'm going up North to uni in a couple of weeks, so we won't be seeing much of each other at all. The main problem is he can be really inconsiderate, like when his mates are around he's the biggest goof, and especially unaware of me when they're around. He very rarely replies to my texts or returns my calls, because I'm on a contract and he's pay as you go, he expects me to do all the work. Like this weekend, I didn't speak to him for 3 days 'cause I sort of thought well lets see how you feel being ignored, and he did send me texts and stuff, but asking if I was annoyed with him, not if I was OK or anything. I was supposed to be staying with him tonight, so I phoned him earlier, asked how things was and stuff, turned out he was with his mates queueing for some club, seemed totally oblivious to the fact we were supposed to have plans this weekend, he's alllllways like this, always forgetting the important stuff. So I didn't mention he was supposed to be seeing me I just said fair enough and that I'd talk to him later.
I feel like I'm doing alllll the work alllll the time! Any advice on what he's playing at or what I should do would be ever so greatful!
I've been seeing this guy for about 6 weeks, he's a couple of months younger than me, lives in a different city from me, but it's only an hour away by train, easy enough to get to and stuff. So anyway he's at college there atm so we only really get to see each other once a week, and I'm going up North to uni in a couple of weeks, so we won't be seeing much of each other at all. The main problem is he can be really inconsiderate, like when his mates are around he's the biggest goof, and especially unaware of me when they're around. He very rarely replies to my texts or returns my calls, because I'm on a contract and he's pay as you go, he expects me to do all the work. Like this weekend, I didn't speak to him for 3 days 'cause I sort of thought well lets see how you feel being ignored, and he did send me texts and stuff, but asking if I was annoyed with him, not if I was OK or anything. I was supposed to be staying with him tonight, so I phoned him earlier, asked how things was and stuff, turned out he was with his mates queueing for some club, seemed totally oblivious to the fact we were supposed to have plans this weekend, he's alllllways like this, always forgetting the important stuff. So I didn't mention he was supposed to be seeing me I just said fair enough and that I'd talk to him later.
I feel like I'm doing alllll the work alllll the time! Any advice on what he's playing at or what I should do would be ever so greatful!
A relationship should not be one sided, spell it out to him that you expect him also to make an effort, and if he still ignores you dump him and find someone who will appreciate you better because so many can do better than he can.
The bottom line is it seems he simply cannot be bothered.
The bottom line is it seems he simply cannot be bothered.
wow..
that sounds heaps like what things were like between me and the man. but yeah, he started putting in lots of effort which was good because i felt like, yeeah i may have a chance.
mind you you're just going to have to tell him what hes doing and how its affecting you/other people. i had to tell my guy what he comes across, because at times he can be really intimidating and i dunno, annoying.. and i actually told it to him one time, and he was pretty surprised but yeah.. they do appreciate it, well if they understand that you're looking out for em.
that sounds heaps like what things were like between me and the man. but yeah, he started putting in lots of effort which was good because i felt like, yeeah i may have a chance.
mind you you're just going to have to tell him what hes doing and how its affecting you/other people. i had to tell my guy what he comes across, because at times he can be really intimidating and i dunno, annoying.. and i actually told it to him one time, and he was pretty surprised but yeah.. they do appreciate it, well if they understand that you're looking out for em.
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