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About Hugging and Girls and Female Friends....

Hey I know this might come across as a peculiar question but I was wondering how good friends and at what point of friendship can boys/men hug their female friends and show affection like kissing on the cheek etc.? I know it depends on the person and stuff but I was just wondering about some general thoughts and personal preference on it, like I was wondering from a girls POV r there any guy friends that would freak u out or make u uncomfortable if they hugged u?

The reason why Im asking is that I have a good female friend that I also kind of like and I've known her for a while but I've only recently started hugging her like when I say good night and stuff. The thing is Im not sure if she likes me and she has a b/f (well a long distance one) and I dont think I want her catching onto the fact I like her. I guess the positive side is she seems to like hugging in saying goodbye I mean she put her arm round me as well and she seemed pretty ok and cool with it & didn't think much of it, and I did it the other night then met up with her the day after and she seemed perfectly good about everything, but I have a little paranoid doubt that she might mind, even though she doesn't overtly seemed to nd she's always pretty easy going about everything. Im not sure whether I shud continue hugging her even when saying goodbye. If u cud give me any advice or words of wisdom on this it wud be greatly appreciated, nd sorry if it seems like Im making a big deal out of nothing which I might well be doing lol?

Reply 1

Yahooey

The affectionate Yahooey doesn't really have a problem with hugging. Women tend to be comfortable hugging all their friends, and the affectionate Yahooey is a lot more comfortable showing affection for people physically than verbally, so hugging is something he tends to do a fair amount.

The affectionate Yahooey has spoken.

Reply 2

Redefined

13

In this instance I think you are being a bit underhanded. When I hug female friends there is no other agenda there, as they are simply friends. However, you are using this to fuel your secret attraction to this girl. Also add that to the fact that you know she has a b/f then I think your acting inappropriately.

Reply 3

Ron Stoppable

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Anonymous

Hey I know this might come across as a peculiar question but I was wondering how good friends and at what point of friendship can boys/men hug their female friends and show affection like kissing on the cheek etc.? I know it depends on the person and stuff but I was just wondering about some general thoughts and personal preference on it, like I was wondering from a girls POV r there any guy friends that would freak u out or make u uncomfortable if they hugged u?

The reason why Im asking is that I have a good female friend that I also kind of like and I've known her for a while but I've only recently started hugging her like when I say good night and stuff. The thing is Im not sure if she likes me and she has a b/f (well a long distance one) and I dont think I want her catching onto the fact I like her. I guess the positive side is she seems to like hugging in saying goodbye I mean she put her arm round me as well and she seemed pretty ok and cool with it & didn't think much of it, and I did it the other night then met up with her the day after and she seemed perfectly good about everything, but I have a little paranoid doubt that she might mind, even though she doesn't overtly seemed to nd she's always pretty easy going about everything. Im not sure whether I shud continue hugging her even when saying goodbye. If u cud give me any advice or words of wisdom on this it wud be greatly appreciated, nd sorry if it seems like Im making a big deal out of nothing which I might well be doing lol?

It's ONLY a hug - get over it! I hug people I don't even like sometimes; it doesn't mean a thing. :biggrin:

Reply 4

User69701

10

I find that girls/women are ok with me hugging them. I think they are far more comfortable with it. AS long as you ain't trying to cop a feel.

Reply 5

random_bloke

1

as long as your don't grope her buttocks at the same time you're fine.

Reply 6

Sazarina88

11

If she hasn't had any problems with you hugging her before, why should there be a problem now? You're just saying goodnight and giving her a hug, you're hardly asking her to marry you.

Reply 7

Charl

1

Yahooey

The affectionate Yahooey doesn't really have a problem with hugging. Women tend to be comfortable hugging all their friends, and the affectionate Yahooey is a lot more comfortable showing affection for people physically than verbally, so hugging is something he tends to do a fair amount.

The affectionate Yahooey has spoken.

<3

Reply 8

Wootty

It seems pretty obvious you're unsure about hugging due to the fact you like her, possibly more than you know. If you have feelings which swerve that way, it's best not to get that close, as you may interpret the hugs in a different manner to what she does. If you want to hug her to say goodnight, then go for it, I doubt she'll even think about it... If you want to hug her because you want her ass, I'd not bother, as it'll just mess your head up to a greater extent.

Reply 9

Enchanté

14

I usually hug my girl friends because, we're like a best friend grioup we've all known each other for a while but all have our seperate paths.

Reply 10

josh1988uk

1

Im always huggin friends. Dont see what the big deal is. Im not gonna shake their hand before I leave in some old school kinda way! Its just a friendly way of saying bye

Reply 11

swimminginwellies

hugs are alwayssss good :biggrin:

Reply 12

MissHero

1

As long as you keep it clear in your mind that it is only a hug, I don't see what the problem is. She wouldn't let you if it bothered her, after all.

Reply 13

User69701

10

Yes. If I *liked* the girl, I would avoid hugging her. It's just not morally right to do so.

Reply 14

Yahooey

JayB124

Yes. If I *liked* the girl, I would avoid hugging her. It's just not morally right to do so.

The awesome Yahooey wonders what particular wire in your head is loose.

The awesome Yahooey has spoken.

Reply 15

Ron Stoppable

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JayB124

Yes. If I *liked* the girl, I would avoid hugging her. It's just not morally right to do so.

Are you one of the ilk who consider the above to mean you pitch a tent as soon as you see anything in a skirt? Darren Day and Sven-Goran Eriksson share your pain. :rolleyes:

Reply 16

thegreatstupendo

2

I don't think anyone would have a problem with hugging. However, I do have a friend who is overly physical, constantly hugging and touching people, and I think it looks a bit dodgy, as do some girls I have spoken to.

Reply 17

bunnycatkid

JayB124

Yes. If I *liked* the girl, I would avoid hugging her. It's just not morally right to do so.

If I had been friends with a guy and then he stopped hugging me, I would wonder what I had done wrong. Hugging is great, as long as you don't grope her, theres no problem. If she had one she wouldn't hug you, but as your friends already I can't see why she would mind