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SEXXXXX-xxx you're hurting me!

Ok basically i understand there have probably been many threads on this sort of thing, this problem is similar to the "Large Penis" thread but i didnt think i'd get much response posting as a reply to that so I'm trying a new thread.

Recently i had sex with my boyfriend who is rather large...and it HURTS a lot. I'm not a virgin and we have used lube which makes the entry ok, but when he's inside me I can feel him pressing against something which feels quite uncomfortable! Almost like a constant pressure on my bladder! This makes sex with me on top really painful because he cant thrust too much as it increases the pressure inside me! Do you think the more we have sex the more I'll adjust to the size, or do I have serious issues here...? What can I do to get used to this pain, or get rid of it entirely!? And has anyone else had a similar problem? xx

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Have you tried different positions? You might find it easier if you try different ones, to see which creates the less pressure!

You might find that as you have more sex with him you get used to the size, but by all means dont do anything which is painful or uncomfortable for you!

I guess its just a matter of trying different things and finding something which works for both of you!

You on top is not a great idea either, save that for when you're more used to it.

Also a lot depends on angles, because there's an area past the cervix which he can get to if you're turned on enough.

In sort, you need to practice a bit to find the right positions and angle.

OP

Yeah i was thinking different positions might be a good idea. I dont think he's hitting my cervix tho because i've had that pain before and this type of pain is more discomfort than anything. I can just feel him inside me, i think the pressure is on my bladder! Anyway, I tried on top but sort of leaning forward and that seemed better, but I guess like you say, practise will make perfect! Thanks xx

Convince him to get a penis reduction!

BobMob

Also a lot depends on angles, because there's an area past the cervix which he can get to if you're turned on enough.

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:confused:

BobMob

Also a lot depends on angles, because there's an area past the cervix which he can get to if you're turned on enough.

you're talking about the womb. that's not cool.

Try different positions - some allow the penis further in than others (eg. woman's legs up) so those are the ones that will hurt, you might want to avoid them.

adverse_reaction

Have you tried different positions? You might find it easier if you try different ones, to see which creates the less pressure!

You might find that as you have more sex with him you get used to the size, but by all means dont do anything which is painful or uncomfortable for you!

I guess its just a matter of trying different things and finding something which works for both of you!

totally agree thats great advice. :smile:

:smile:

BobMob

Also a lot depends on angles, because there's an area past the cervix which he can get to if you're turned on enough...

Why does this line remind me of snooker? Lol. Of course, you could continue it...

(in John Virgo's voice) "...and if you then pot the pink, you can screw back for the brown..."

Quite a double entendre there, I think.

silence

you're talking about the womb. that's not cool.

No, there are the vaginal fornices which in some women are positioned deeper within the vagina, it'd be physically impossible to force a penis into the uterus!

ah ha. i always pictured the cervix to be the very top, with an opening only small enough for sperm cells to 'swim' through. so how do you actually get past the cervix with a penis?!

silence

ah ha. i always pictured the cervix to be the very top, with an opening only small enough for sperm cells to 'swim' through. so how do you actually get past the cervix with a penis?!

It's sort of at the top but the uterus faces forwards so the cervix is on the front face of the top of the vagina (normally!) Above and behind is a blind-ending pocket called the posterior fornix. There are also lateral and anterior fornices. Unfortunately I can't find a very good diagram at the moment.

Edit: ah, here you are - I've even labelled it!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v223/Helenia/repro.jpg

Sorry it's so small, can't seem to make it bigger on photobucket. The bit with the red line pointing to it is the fornix.

Sounds like his girth (or simply technique combined with size) could be putting excess pressure on your urethral sponge/G-spot and since your arousal isn't heightening enough you're not experiencing the pleasurable effects - just the 'bladder pressure'. Just a suggestion, not sure exactly how you could solve it if I was correct. Perhaps a position and movement that don't put so much pressure on the upper wall of your vagina would work. It could explain why leaning forward whilst on top helped.

everylittleting

I think I know what you're talking about, I've had the same thing, but it doesn't happen very often. And yeah it's different to what hitting the cervix feels like. When it's happened I've gone to the toilet and then we tried again but it didn't really help, so we just stopped instead. And I didn't really find any positions that really helped apart from missionary. However, like I said it doesn't happen very often so my advice would be to keep trying and make sure you go to the toilet before maybe?

Sorry if I haven't been too much help, but I do know the thing you mean.

lessthanthree

he's hitting your cervix. he needs to go more gently!

Agreed i mean im not bragging here or anything but im rather large to, and i find going alot more gently for longer than a smaller sized person does will help.
Also like everyone else says try different positions which allow for better entry and oral sex will help aswell maybe he rushes into things to much without taking size into consideration
Plenty of websites around that will help also

DrNick2006

Why does this line remind me of snooker? Lol. Of course, you could continue it...

(in John Virgo's voice) "...and if you then pot the pink, you can screw back for the brown..."

Quite a double entendre there, I think.

Perhaps, but very poor snooker play. Hitting the brown after the pink would earn oneself a four-point penalty for failing to pot a red first. Perhaps you meant that through this positional play an easy red would be set up which would then allow for perfect position on the brown, but in such a situation, I can't imagine there being greater colours not being easily available, especially to players of the calibre over which Virgo is usually left to commentate.

For this reason, I recommend the penis reduction.

Pelvic Floor Exercises!!!

Helenia

It's sort of at the top but the uterus faces forwards so the cervix is on the front face of the top of the vagina (normally!) Above and behind is a blind-ending pocket called the posterior fornix. There are also lateral and anterior fornices. Unfortunately I can't find a very good diagram at the moment.

Edit: ah, here you are - I've even labelled it!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v223/Helenia/repro.jpg

Sorry it's so small, can't seem to make it bigger on photobucket. The bit with the red line pointing to it is the fornix.

beautiful, thank you. my decision to revisit this thread just before breakfast wasn't the wisest though.

Be thankful I didn't show you the dissection pictures instead. :p:

:p:

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