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sorry so long but HELP

Ok this all started thursday night i was out in a club where i bumped into my ex who i still talk to as mates and hes got a gf and we were talking and he bought me a drink and had a dance all compleatly innocent, but then he got more drunk and asked me to come back to his he missed me and i look beautiful and all that but i refused and he went home alone but kept txtn me to come round and after the 6th txt i txt him back saying your drunk and u will regret this in the morn. I aint herd from him since. It was so hard me saying no cause i admit i still really into him. But this gets more colplicated and this is just gonna be a really long post! I went away camping this weekend for a sailing event where another of my exes was there we split up 3years ago now and i still see him cause he my bros mate, well he has a gf who has threatend to beat me up and cut all contact between us wich really upset me cause i miss his friendship, but then he told me theyd split up and he wants me back hes never stopped loving me and all that. He was compleatly sober and still ment it the sunday morn as this happend sat night. Then his parents and so called ex turned up sunday afternoon and he ignored me compleatly once they appeared and i aint seen him since!! And i txtn this boy who supposidly fancies me but goes back to uni in 2weeks but is only a hour away and comes back everyweekend.

i suppose the point of this is to get it off my chest! Im so confused i cried myself to sleep over this. I so want a relationship but this is just screwing my head up!! any advice apprecaited!

Reply 1

username47781

I would not waste time on either of your ex's you was right not to back to one of your ex's on the thursday because it's likely he wanted sex of you, same for the other guy if he really still loved you he would not ignore you like that.

Take your time finding a new guy there's no rush.

Reply 2

bunthulhu

Here's what I think :smile:

Guy 1: Might be your ex, but he still has a girlfriend and the way he acted towards you was totally inappropriate. Personally that's the sort of behaviour that puts me off a guy completely because it shows he is a cheater.

Guy 2: Not worth it, only wants you when it's convenient. You're basically just his second choice, his fallback option.

Guy 3: Don't know much about him, but I don't see a problem with seeing someone just every weekend! That's quite a lot, really :p:

Maybe find out if he does like you and take it from there? :smile:

Reply 3

theflcgal

your ex's both sound like they're very immature and are messing girls around. you deserve better.

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss. You did the right thing, if he's got a girlfriend then shame on him.

Reply 5

Chumbaniya

1st guy: Sounds like he just got drunk and said some stupid things. He probably did regret it in the morning.

2nd guy: Doesn't sound all that sincere, but then I don't know the guy. The whole "I've loved you all along, please take me back" thing is very cliche.

3rd guy: *shrugs*

Reply 6

Triplet1

Like everyone has said i really wouldnt bother with guy 1 and 2 as they both are messing you around and you shouldnt stand for that!
But guy 3 seems ok but do you like him? you said your still into one of your ex's?

Reply 7

Tinkers

Ok im sorted!! Went out last night with guy three and some mates for a few drinks, and he was knockin them back quicker than usual, so i said this aint like you slow down. He repilied i need the courage i said courage for what and he asked me out!! i sooooooo happy!!
Thanks for the replies everyone.