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Inner Beauty?

I'm 18 and Ive suffered from really bad acne for 4 or 5 years now and feel like I have been on constant medication since then (some of which has had a bit of an effect-but not much)
Unsurprisingly I have never had a boyfriend and I kinda feel like I never will despite the fact that apparently beauty is on the inside!
What are other peoples views on this?

Reply 1

Tractor-girlie

The out side does count, do you eye guys up for there looks or personalty? However I believe inner beauty is more important to me, my bf must see mine as i have no beauty on the out side.
You will get a bf, at uni you meant loads of people and the non shallow ones will see you for what you are. :biggrin:

Reply 2

Chewwy

17

get an ugly boyfriend.

honestly, there's a whole subculture of nice-but-ugly guys who are desperate for a girlfriend.

Reply 3

kitsch_sarah

Tractor-girlie

You will get a bf, at uni you meant loads of people and the non shallow ones will see you for what you are. :biggrin:

i agree , bt having a bf isnt the most important thing in life u will get urs eventually dont rush it .

Reply 4

Ghetto_Princess12

Yeah I agree with Tractor Girlie inner beauty is more valued then outer beauty. It natural to feel like this, it's part of the growing up process. We can always hide our exteriour self but we cannnot do that with our interior. As you grow up you come to realise that outer beauty isn't important to make yourself good. I rememeber many of my friends who were so pretty but beneath that bautiful exterior they were very arrogrant and had very harsh personalities. But from that people do realise that inner beauty is more important then the outer beauty. People do change attitudes as they learn from these experiences. In todays society being beautful does bring alot of advanytages, make friends easily, socialise, get a job easily but do come to realise that this doesn't last forever.

Reply 5

generalebriety

16

georgiak

I'm 18 and Ive suffered from really bad acne for 4 or 5 years now and feel like I have been on constant medication since then (some of which has had a bit of an effect-but not much)
Unsurprisingly I have never had a boyfriend and I kinda feel like I never will despite the fact that apparently beauty is on the inside!
What are other peoples views on this?

Imagine two situations, and tell me which is the more likely.

1. "Look at that guy over there at the bar, he's got a really nice arse!"
2. "Look at that guy over there at the bar, he's got a really nice personality!"

Of course "inner beauty" counts for a lot in a relationship but no one originally judges people by their personality before they've got to know them, and psychologically you are inclined to talk to people you find physically attractive more than people you don't if you're looking for a relationship. You could be the nicest person in the world but if people aren't noticing you you're getting nowhere. Keep taking your medication, and (if possible) hide the acne cleverly with makeup (and this doesn't mean put on foundation an inch thick, just balance out your face tone), and dress up, and get noticed. Then people will find out what your personality is really like. :smile:

Reply 6

kinkajou

15

inner splugs

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

chewwy

get an ugly boyfriend.

honestly, there's a whole subculture of nice-but-ugly guys who are desperate for a girlfriend.

I actually disagree.

I think the good looking guys are also desperate for a girlfriend.

And why do you think nice guys are ugly?

Reply 8

latot

Like people have said, imagine the more appropriate scenario in a bar: eye someone up for their body, or their personality?

In my opinion looks do have a play in it, but different people have different standards of what good looking is - what appeals to one person may not appeal to another.

And for the longer relationships, then yeah, definitely, inner beauty over outer

Reply 9

Chumbaniya

17

Anonymous

And why do you think nice guys are ugly?

They need to be in order to find a partner - the goodlooking guys can act however they want and still get female attention.

Reply 10

MissHero

1

Try to work on your self confidence. If you don't feel good, then it comes across - think about standing in a bar, the girl who doesn't feel so happy about her appearance is flicking her hair across her face, pulling her skirt down, etc.

Slightly off topic, but I've always found I get approached more by men when I have a boyfriend (sods law!) and I'm sure it's because I don't look... desperate, for want of a better word.

So don't worry about it, be happy with yourself, and with any luck the rest will follow. :smile:

Reply 11

Chewwy

17

Anonymous

I actually disagree.

I think the good looking guys are also desperate for a girlfriend.

And why do you think nice guys are ugly?

wtf.

i never good-looking guys weren't desperate.

i never said that all nice guys are ugly.

can you not read!?!?

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