My ex

Sorry i will try to keep this short.

I went out with a guy for 8 months about 2 years ago, feel head over heels with him. (not first love) We never had a fight or got angry at each other, I was soo happy in my life. However he had a family problem and moved flats, I had no address only a phone to contact him. He needed time to sort things and pushed me away and just stopped talking to me.

I rebounded and got another boyfriend which I do love greatly we have been together for about 1.5 years.
However I dream of my ex, I still love him and want nothing more but to talk to him. I have texted him a few times e.g birthdays and he has responded. However I just cant get over him, do you think he is my one true love?
We will never get back together I know that but it still hurts so bad after 2 years.

How can I get the pain to go away?

Reply 1

amywalters

1

I'd say that he sounds like your true love to me. Maybe he was your true love, but you want this current boyfriend to be your true love because you know you cant have your previous boyfriend So you're just convincing yourself that your ex doesn't love you anymore.

Tell your new boyfriend how you feel, its not fair to lead him on. Its clear that hes not the one you want, so let him live his life. Search for your ex, and tell him how you feel, if he doesn't want anything to do with you then perhaps you'll get over him - because he's just disappeared, i expect you never really got over him..

Reply 2

wipeandclean

ignore the girl above lol

if he doesnt live close to you then you have to have SOME fun, you cant just wait for him. Stay with the guy and have fun, but then arrange to meet this guy you love and see him when u can and see how u feel then. But seriously there is no point dumping ur bf for a guy who doesnt live newhere near u

Reply 3

theflcgal

wipeandclean

ignore the girl above lol

if he doesnt live close to you then you have to have SOME fun, you cant just wait for him. Stay with the guy and have fun, but then arrange to meet this guy you love and see him when u can and see how u feel then. But seriously there is no point dumping ur bf for a guy who doesnt live newhere near u

no way thats awful. you cant lead your current bf on. its not fair on him at all! how would you feel if someone went out with you and you loved them but then found out they still had strong feelings for someone else!

Reply 4

theflcgal

amywalters

I'd say that he sounds like your true love to me. Maybe he was your true love, but you want this current boyfriend to be your true love because you know you cant have your previous boyfriend So you're just convincing yourself that your ex doesn't love you anymore.

Tell your new boyfriend how you feel, its not fair to lead him on. Its clear that hes not the one you want, so let him live his life. Search for your ex, and tell him how you feel, if he doesn't want anything to do with you then perhaps you'll get over him - because he's just disappeared, i expect you never really got over him..

completely agree

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I know I will never get back with my ex, he doesnt want me. So I have moved on I cant spend my whole life living a dream which wont happen.
I love my bf and would never hurt him, but i just cant get rid of the pain.
(my ex lives in same town as me and I now know where he lives)

Reply 6

squigaletta

wipeandclean

ignore the girl above lol

if he doesnt live close to you then you have to have SOME fun, you cant just wait for him. Stay with the guy and have fun, but then arrange to meet this guy you love and see him when u can and see how u feel then. But seriously there is no point dumping ur bf for a guy who doesnt live newhere near u

yeh i think thats awful too. i mean even if your ex isnt your true love, this guy clearly isnt bcz you think about your ex so much. therefore you know your current bf isnt your soul mate and its unfair on both of you if you stay with him, you and he deserve to find your true loves, whoever they may be

Reply 7

amywalters

1

squigaletta

yeh i think thats awful too. i mean even if your ex isnt your true love, this guy clearly isnt bcz you think about your ex so much. therefore you know your current bf isnt your soul mate and its unfair on both of you if you stay with him, you and he deserve to find your true loves, whoever they may be

Yeah - who wrote that post, that was awful advice!

Reply 8

zav

14

amywalters

who wrote that post, that was awful advice!

wipeandclean i do believe.

I know I will never get back with my ex, he doesnt want me

Then there is no point going on some random love search i am afraid you will just have to get over him, harsh but true.

However I just cant get over him, do you think he is my one true love?

You will never know that if you keep thinking in this mentality. Personally i think you should speak to your bf if you cannot put him first. Then maybe have some single time? You might then find somebody else you like more than your ex. It may be hard to picture that now but really i am sure you will.

Think about it but i think while you are with your current bf you will find it hard to get over your ex as you rebounded so quick. You probably just need some time out.

Reply 9

username47781

20

Well if you do want your ex back, at least end it with your boyfriend first.

Reply 10

philippa03

3

1 and a half years is a long time to lust after your old boyfriend, he must mean quite alot to you or maybe it's cos the relationship didn't end of normal causes that you could control. Your current boyfriend does derserve to know, but i agree no point dumping him if there's no hope with the old one.

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