Big People

Hey

Ive always been self-concious about my weight - but i put weight (size 18now) when i already had friends so it didnt bother me that much.

Now im starting Uni im worried that people wont want to be friends with me because i am big. (Im not on about relationships - not bothered so much about them)

What is the general thought of people on here about being friends with a *fat* person? Boy or Girl?

Please dont be sarcastic - im already worried about it enough. :smile:

Reply 1

latot

Seriously.. when it comes to plain friendships, weight isn't a factor (unless the person is a really shallow low person)...

I'm self-concious about my weight as well, but only affects me in the terms of relationships, when it comes to friends then I really don't think it matters

Reply 2

Citation

I don't look at a person a like "woah they're too big to talk to", thats just stupid, it doesnt matter what size you are. If people don't want to talk to you because of who you are you should be glad they're not as they're too dam shallow.

Reply 3

Plodman

1

Don't be silly, i'd never not want to be friends with someone due to their weight.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks to both of you, my minds a bit more at peace now. It just makes me so self-concious.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok, and you Plodman thanks :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Hey

Ive always been self-concious about my weight - but i put weight (size 18now) when i already had friends so it didnt bother me that much.

Now im starting Uni im worried that people wont want to be friends with me because i am big. (Im not on about relationships - not bothered so much about them)

What is the general thought of people on here about being friends with a *fat* person? Boy or Girl?

Please dont be sarcastic - im already worried about it enough. :smile:

im big too (size 24), i also thought being big would be a problem, but i realised it really didnt matter. my flatmate (who became my best friend) is the most gorgeous, perfect girl you'll ever meet. she made me feel 110% better about myself because she really made a point of being honest with me, and as far as i know her views was that she likes me for who i am, not what i look like. yeah sure it may bother some people, but thats generally those that you dont know, and if they are bothered, they just arent worth knowing.

why do you think you feel like this?

Reply 7

Chumbaniya

17

As long as you don't let your size affect your social confidence, I don't think it would be a problem at all. If a person comes across as likeable and interesting, that's all there is to it.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

im big too (size 24), i also thought being big would be a problem, but i realised it really didnt matter. my flatmate (who became my best friend) is the most gorgeous, perfect girl you'll ever meet. she made me feel 110% better about myself because she really made a point of being honest with me, and as far as i know her views was that she likes me for who i am, not what i look like. yeah sure it may bother some people, but thats generally those that you dont know, and if they are bothered, they just arent worth knowing.

why do you think you feel like this?

She sounds like a nice girl.
I really dont know, i dont think its anything to do with relationships coz all the guys ive been with, really werent bothered.
And no1 ever remarks - i just feel ugly i think, my brother used 2 tease me but not to the extent where it got really bad - just like normal family arguments.

Reply 9

bedbug

14

I don't see why it should be a factor at all. You don't pick friends by their looks, you choose people you get on with and have a good time with. Sure, weight may be a factor when it comes to finding a boyfriend as there has to be a degree of physical attraction, but most people don't even consider that when it's a friend they're making.

I have friends who are lots of different sizes and it really isn't an issue. I think the only time it would be an issue would be if someone's size affected their confidence and therefore their personality or if they were constantly moaning about their weight.

Reply 10

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Personally I don't see why weight should be a factor of why you would want to be friends with someone or not :confused:

like your friends with them for a reason and vice-versa :smile:

may it be because you make them laugh or you are good company it still doesn't matter :smile:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks people :smile:

Reply 12

supernova2

11

I think guys are less likely to want to be friends with a fat girl rather than thin one. Sorry :frown:

I know its shallow

Reply 13

beach surf babe

14

I don't think its usually a factor when being friends with someone...

Reply 14

joaney

In contrast to the above, most girls dont care how big their friends are, I have many friends who are larger than me and I dont even notice what their weight is. It's their personalities that count. In fact, and I know this also sounds really shallow, many girls actually prefer their friends to be bigger than they are so they feel better about themselves. So dont worry, you will probably be really popular!!!!

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Im hoping i will have quite a few friends yeah - its just making them lol

Reply 16

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

Aw hun of course it doesn't matter, I don't think anybody would see it like that and anyone who would (though i doubt their existance) are beneath you and not worth your time, never let anyone make you feel bad about yourself xxxxx