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Sounds Pathetic, But Never Fails To Annoy!
Ok, I understand that this will encourage replies of "don't be so pathetic", but anyway. I'm at University, as is my best friend. As we're at separate Uni's, we rarely see each other but speak on the phone weekly and text regularly. Now, I absolutely adore her and I'm not the type of person to have flimsy friendships.
There's just one thing that bugs me about her which she does every time, and repeated last niht when I saw her. I've recently started modeling and am signed managed by Storm, a London based agency. They represent Kate and Eva Herzigiva. I went to a party recently where both were present. I told er tis and she launched into a uge discussion on he=ow ugly Kate Moss is and how unsexy she must be to men. Now, my friend is about a size 14 and thus has enormous boobs, which she proudly displays in low-cut tops every day. It embarrasses my dad who claims he 'never knows where to look'!!, and men always seem to make sly and suggestive comments to her.
I did a show for Dior and had to lose about hald a stone for. I had the picture in my portfolio which is kept in my room. After a few drinks se exclaims: "I know you like it, but I think you look awful". She says it in a way as if to sound as though she isnt trying to be nasty.
Also, she gets compared to Abby Titmus and Kerry Katona, which she is plaesed about because she says that, although they're criticised, they have great figures.
I know this sounds childish, but I find her comments hurtful. She later went on to say that, "I know you like it but I honestly would never be attracted to a model and I just think that there are so many more worthwhile things you can do". I tried to explain that her chosen career path, Psyhology is often discredited and that the same could apply.
I just find it hard dealing with her negativity. I'm not the type of person to boast, but I've done a lot of exciting work lately, and I'd love to be able to show her, but wouldnt. Being brunette, its very irritating hearing her obssession with blondes!
Not sure there is a solution, because our friendship is otherwise perfect, just wondering if anyone else has had similar problems?
There's just one thing that bugs me about her which she does every time, and repeated last niht when I saw her. I've recently started modeling and am signed managed by Storm, a London based agency. They represent Kate and Eva Herzigiva. I went to a party recently where both were present. I told er tis and she launched into a uge discussion on he=ow ugly Kate Moss is and how unsexy she must be to men. Now, my friend is about a size 14 and thus has enormous boobs, which she proudly displays in low-cut tops every day. It embarrasses my dad who claims he 'never knows where to look'!!, and men always seem to make sly and suggestive comments to her.
I did a show for Dior and had to lose about hald a stone for. I had the picture in my portfolio which is kept in my room. After a few drinks se exclaims: "I know you like it, but I think you look awful". She says it in a way as if to sound as though she isnt trying to be nasty.
Also, she gets compared to Abby Titmus and Kerry Katona, which she is plaesed about because she says that, although they're criticised, they have great figures.
I know this sounds childish, but I find her comments hurtful. She later went on to say that, "I know you like it but I honestly would never be attracted to a model and I just think that there are so many more worthwhile things you can do". I tried to explain that her chosen career path, Psyhology is often discredited and that the same could apply.
I just find it hard dealing with her negativity. I'm not the type of person to boast, but I've done a lot of exciting work lately, and I'd love to be able to show her, but wouldnt. Being brunette, its very irritating hearing her obssession with blondes!
Not sure there is a solution, because our friendship is otherwise perfect, just wondering if anyone else has had similar problems?
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The Green Eyed Monster has devoured her: tits and all.
She sounds sooo jealous. How awful for you...i know you want to keep your friend but i think you should say something, be assertive but friendly. Just tell her its irritating for a friend to be so negative about your chosen career, and that youd prefer if you could both find good things to talk about regarding each others lifestyles?
Maybe she feels left out...if you dont think it would make her bitter, and your invite includes a guest, perhaps you could bring her to the next swish party you go to?
Christ, id far rather be model slim than like kerry katona any day!! cannot stand that woman
Maybe she feels left out...if you dont think it would make her bitter, and your invite includes a guest, perhaps you could bring her to the next swish party you go to?
Christ, id far rather be model slim than like kerry katona any day!! cannot stand that woman
OP, are you a guy?
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She sounds sooo jealous. How awful for you...i know you want to keep your friend but i think you should say something, be assertive but friendly. Just tell her its irritating for a friend to be so negative about your chosen career, and that youd prefer if you could both find good things to talk about regarding each others lifestyles?
Maybe she feels left out...if you dont think it would make her bitter, and your invite includes a guest, perhaps you could bring her to the next swish party you go to?
Maybe she feels left out...if you dont think it would make her bitter, and your invite includes a guest, perhaps you could bring her to the next swish party you go to?
She sounds like a bitch! How would she like it if you went up to her and said 'Ooh, that Kerry Katona has a crap figure', which is going to hurt her, like she has done to you.
Do you have any other close friends that you can show your work to, that would appreciate it?
And just so you don't think everyone out there is like her, I think Kate Moss is stunning (i'm obsessed with models ha!)
Do you have any other close friends that you can show your work to, that would appreciate it?
And just so you don't think everyone out there is like her, I think Kate Moss is stunning (i'm obsessed with models ha!)
No offence, as I agree with most of the above posters, but you refer to modelling as a "career path"? It's really not. You'll be dead in the water before you're 30. In that sense, she makes a good point.
Still, she's a bitch for insulting you.
Still, she's a bitch for insulting you.
Kittennffc
Do you have any other close friends that you can show your work to, that would appreciate it?
So if someone doesn't like your "work", you don't accept their criticism, you find someone that does like it and pat yourself on the back?
i wouldnt say your freind has been hit by jelously, more like struck across the face repeatidly by it. 
She sounds very jealous and perhaps she just feels inadequate because you're getting a lot of attention, congrats on your success though
But it's not just someone-it's her friend and friends should be supportive.
So if someone doesn't like your "work", you don't accept their criticism, you find someone that does like it and pat yourself on the back?
But it's not just someone-it's her friend and friends should be supportive.
Tried killing her with kindness? ie. you're going out, she's dressed up-tell her she looks pretty, kinda hard to do when she's being a bit of a cow but might be worth a try. I'm not saying it'll definitely work-just a thought, i mean if somebody said I looked nice there's no way i'd turn round and say they looked bad.
Just tell her to quit being jealous, you sound like you're both beautiful in different ways
I have a mate who pretends she isnt jealous of our other mate all the time. She is a size 16 and has massive 38 E boobs, our other mate is a size 10 and quite flat chested. I was once saying how envious I was and would much rather have a tiny waist and give up my boobs, she went on a rant about how boobs are better in every circumstance and screw having a tiny waist, she'd keep her boobs and be big anyday
Then on another night, same mate got really pissed and cried about how fat she was!!
I dont know what to make of it. sure I get jealous but to make your own mate feel on a downer due to it is mean, maybe big her up and tell her how beautiful she is with her curves, she will do the same for you when she realises what a good mate you're being
I have a mate who pretends she isnt jealous of our other mate all the time. She is a size 16 and has massive 38 E boobs, our other mate is a size 10 and quite flat chested. I was once saying how envious I was and would much rather have a tiny waist and give up my boobs, she went on a rant about how boobs are better in every circumstance and screw having a tiny waist, she'd keep her boobs and be big anyday
Then on another night, same mate got really pissed and cried about how fat she was!!
I dont know what to make of it. sure I get jealous but to make your own mate feel on a downer due to it is mean, maybe big her up and tell her how beautiful she is with her curves, she will do the same for you when she realises what a good mate you're being
What is it about women these days? There's a huge number of them wandering about with this sort of attitude. Total lack of self-respect - leads to all manner of things (eg jealousy), none of them pleasant or attractive.
I tell you, if men were picky, about 90% of women would be virgins.
I tell you, if men were picky, about 90% of women would be virgins.
Hmm maybe make sure that you are showing an interest in what she is doing. I know that it probably is not how you want to be with her right now but if you treat her really nicely then she may feel bad for the way she has been treating you and be more encouraging and supportive like ASprinkleOfPixieDust suggested.
I know that it is tempting when someone is mean to be 'well right back at ya' but this kind of attitude doesn't really help in the long run (although I know it can make you feel better at the time!)
Alternatively next time that she comes out with a comment like that you could directly say to her 'It is a shame that you can't be supportive of me at the moment, it would be nice for you to be there for me'.
Hopefully her feelings will subside soon and she can learn to be happy for you and your success. It might take her time but if she is your friend I am sure that it will happen.
I know that it is tempting when someone is mean to be 'well right back at ya' but this kind of attitude doesn't really help in the long run (although I know it can make you feel better at the time!)
Alternatively next time that she comes out with a comment like that you could directly say to her 'It is a shame that you can't be supportive of me at the moment, it would be nice for you to be there for me'.
Hopefully her feelings will subside soon and she can learn to be happy for you and your success. It might take her time but if she is your friend I am sure that it will happen.
I hardly think she's jealous seeing as she's the one getting the suggestive comments from men, it sounds like she's confident in her appearance with the way she dresses.
But maybe she's got a point? Waif thin models are disgusting, they have no femininity to the shape of their bodies and they look like men. I'd give Abby Titmus one before I would Kate Moss, and I'd have more respect for a girl who was in a career in Psychology than modelling.
But maybe she's got a point? Waif thin models are disgusting, they have no femininity to the shape of their bodies and they look like men. I'd give Abby Titmus one before I would Kate Moss, and I'd have more respect for a girl who was in a career in Psychology than modelling.
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