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Reply 20

theflcgal

Crazster

The one time he let her use his phone she got this suspicious over an A. 0_o. Maybe he had some justification?

isnt that what i just said in the first paragraph? :confused:

i think hes quite likely not doing anything actually wrong. but his behavior of hiding his phone is making it hard for his gf.

Reply 21

Anonymous #1

Crazster

Ask him, but if he doesn't trust you and gets upset then you opened up this can of worms yourself. Why did you snoop in his text messages in the first place?

So its ok to send dirty text messages then behind your partners back? I had my doubts which were confirmed and he obviously still liked her.

Reply 22

theflcgal

Anonymous

So its ok to send dirty text messages then behind your partners back? I had my doubts which were confirmed and he obviously still liked her.

he shoudlnt be doing that for sure. but it doesnt necessaily mean he still liked her. hes probably just a bit of a flirt and enjoys talking like that with girls! not right while he was going out with you, but doesnt mean he still liked his ex.

Reply 23

HereFishyFishy

Anonymous

When I first dated my fella little did I realise he was still sending his ex dirty messages, to be fair she didn't respond back sexually. He cut contact with her and agreed he was wrong at the time, then said I shouldn't snoop through his things. Now he takes his phone everywhere with him, even to the toilet.

Recently he told me to ring his parents in the car, when I scrolled down he had added some new numbers and one was lettered 'A', he never had any numbers who started with 'A' before and its really bugging me why he wouldn't give that number a name. :frown:

I didn't want to ask as he would probably say I didn't trust him.

Jeez, it was off to a bad start from the beginning wasn't it? Even if she wasn't responding, he was the one in the relationship and he was the one sending smutty texts only suitable for a girlfriend.

Personally, I think it's proper dodgy. Taking it to the toliet indicates he really thinks about what he does with his phone and it's quite clear he doesn't want you to see it in any capacity. I've learned that it ain't good - from past experience.

You have a reason not to trust him, I think.

Reply 24

Charl

A from TSR? :eek:

Reply 25

Anonymous #1

I wouldn't be allowed to flirt with a male friend as he gets jealous - typical!

Reply 26

Mangaroo

what you should have done is Kick HIS ASS

now its a bit late, but you dont seem to trust him which is fair enough, and him being secretive doesnt help, i wouldnt get hung up on this "A" business on the phone though. Just ask him why he is so secretive. He'll say i like my privacy, so get a good comeback :P

Reply 27

theflcgal

Anonymous

I wouldn't be allowed to flirt with a male friend as he gets jealous - typical!

well he shoudlnt either. but its a different issue if its just flirting or if its cheating. if hes cheating then dump him. if its just flirting, then thats something you need to talk through and come to something thats fair for both of you. if he wont let you flirt, then he shoudlnt flirt himself. but if hes only flirting, then dont go accusing him of cheating or it'll just make him cross! although of course they may be more to it than flirting.

Reply 28

HereFishyFishy

Anonymous

I wouldn't be allowed to flirt with a male friend as he gets jealous - typical!

Well you don't actually KNOW that he's flirting for sure. Bloody likely though. Even if he does think it's harmless, it's disrespectful and upsetting for the other party.

Reply 29

lolly83

beach surf babe

Just casually ask him. I'm that nosy if I saw something like that I'd say, "oh who's A?" simple as that... :biggrin:

:dito:

little_red_sox

Do yourself a favour and be happy with somebody worth your trust

also :dito:

life is to short sugar,
trust him and talk to him, if he's worth your affection he'll want to sort it out.
if he doesn't, or gets angry etc then get rid sweetheart!

Reply 30

bunthulhu

ciara

He's being unfair. Trust is something that has to be earned, not something that he can just demand of you when he's already betrayed you in the past. By being like that with his ex and then just giving you more reasons to be suspicious, how are you meant to trust him? I suggest you sit him down and tell him this, and if his reaction is an aggressive one you know that he's really not worth it.

I completely agree with this :smile:

By the way OP I am in a similar situation and have been for a while!

Reply 31

username47781

I am not sure why he feels the need to hide his phone while adding numbers, if he truely had nothing to hide then he wouldn't need to do that,

Reply 32

Chrism

Anonymous

So its ok to send dirty text messages then behind your partners back? I had my doubts which were confirmed and he obviously still liked her.

No its not ok, but neither is snooping through somebody else's text messages.

Reply 33

Triplet1

If you ask him if he is texting his ex-girlfriend or someone else "dirty texts" and he isnt then that shows you dont trust him, which would be a problem in your relationship. He probably wouldnt be very happy either that you didnt trust him. If i was in your position i would be wondering whose number this was but wouldn probably at the time have asked him who 'A' is rather than approaching it in a more serious way.
As he has done this before and admitted he was wrong to do it hopefully it wouldnt be doing it again!
On the other hand if he is texting someone then you have a right to no as if they are dirty text he is effectively cheating on you!
I dont think you should do any of the behind his back texting him as some people have suggested because you wouldnt want him to find out you had done it so better just not to in the first place.
I agree with beach surf babe you should just casually ask him.
Or you should just leave it and trust you boyfriend not to be sending any texts.
Its up to you
Do you trust him?

Reply 34

matt@internet

bunthulhu

I completely agree with this :smile:

By the way OP I am in a similar situation and have been for a while!

I thought you were happy in your relationship?

Reply 35

Biffy Clyro

I have A stored on my phone, to prevent me from accidently calling the 1st person on my phonebook (which happens sometimes)...

...it could be anything. I wouldn't think he'd mind if you asked him what the A was for, as long as you wern't acting suspicious.

Reply 36

bunthulhu

matt@internet

I thought you were happy in your relationship?

Hmm yes that came out wrong, I am now, but I had a problem with this not too long ago. That's what I meant :smile:

Reply 37

Charl

You could hide his phone. :p:

Reply 38

Anonymous #2

i no how u feel hun but i asked my bf why he wldnt ever let me see his phone and now he wont even talk to me. we had a big fight and he told i was being stupid and went on about me not trusting him.
i feel like crap but now i just hid my phone from him so he can see how it feels.
just asking him about it im sure it will b fine.
i do trust my bf btw but its hard. i aggree with the dude above trust has to b earned and ur bf not going the right way to earn ur trust.
be strong!!!

Reply 39

foxiroxi

My voicemail is stored as A :biggrin:

Do hope my boyfriend doesn't get jelous of it! :biggrin:

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