sleepless in singledom

t minus 11 days until im off to uni, me and my girlfriend have split up. (queue the violins)........

its been coming for a few months now. ive been thinking that i wanted to break up for uni - let her know that i was thinking about it. as it happens she'd been having the same thoughts and broke up with me last week. i've since come round to the position that it's worth giving the relationship a go... and then at least you'd know one way or the other for sure....

she says she's fallen out of love with me (though were still good friends) and i can't help thinking i've led her down that path in taking her and the relationship for granted. (arrogance?).

anyway.... i still love her. is it too late to get her back? can i change her mind - i guess would be the crunch question. and how might also be useful.

suggestions are welcome.............

Reply 1

Dragon24

17

Go for it, don't live your life in unhappiness. I have just been dumped and the best thing to do is just talk to her :smile:

Probably just a bad patch, hope you work things out.

Reply 2

wainwright

you always regret the things you dont do way more than you regret the things you do, so I'd say talk to her, the worst that can happen is that things stay the same, but you may be able to sort things out :smile:

Reply 3

Sezkin

11

Anonymous

t minus 11 days until im off to uni, me and my girlfriend have split up. (queue the violins)........

its been coming for a few months now. ive been thinking that i wanted to break up for uni - let her know that i was thinking about it. as it happens she'd been having the same thoughts and broke up with me last week. i've since come round to the position that it's worth giving the relationship a go... and then at least you'd know one way or the other for sure....

she says she's fallen out of love with me (though were still good friends) and i can't help thinking i've led her down that path in taking her and the relationship for granted. (arrogance?).

anyway.... i still love her. is it too late to get her back? can i change her mind - i guess would be the crunch question. and how might also be useful.

suggestions are welcome.............

I had a very similar situation except, he's already at university near where I live, and I'm in my last year of 6th form.

I had been thinking about breaking up with him because of education and thought I wouldn't be able to cope with both as this is my crucial stage of 6th form. I told him that... and yeah, I broke up it. We were both upset and totally gutted.

The next day, I wasn't really sure whether to tell him but I did...i told him that I have realised how much he meant to me and that I really like him, but unfortunately, he thought about what I had said about university/education/ambitions and that he needed to 'concentrate' on education as well. He didn't want me to regret and he wanted me to do put my education first. Were still best of friends. But at least I know now about how he feels and it does put my mind to rest.

So why don't you tell her how you feel, you'll never know how she feels once you try. it's likely that she might come round to it and give it another try.

Hope that helped.

:suith:

Sezkin

Reply 4

philippa03

3

god this couldn't be more my problem at the moment too. Everyone seems to have good points though ------'s is quite scarily realistic. I do agree though to wait a few weeks when you go to uni, if it's meant to be if you meet up after your first term if it's meant to be you'll get back together. By boyfriend is going away this year, I'm having a gap year so he's trying to decide whether we should break up or not. It's going to be hard either way! Stupid uni x

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Reply 5

username47781

20

If you love her that much tell her how much you miss her and still care about her. It's not too late to save it.

Reply 6

andy_c

7

wainwright

you always regret the things you dont do way more than you regret the things you do, so I'd say talk to her, the worst that can happen is that things stay the same, but you may be able to sort things out :smile:

Reply 7

NickNack

1

those i know who went to uni with relationships (mostly) seemed to make them stronger. but as wainwright said, you only live once so give it a go - regret is a terrible thing