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23 years old...how do I meet girls?

So I'm a relatively shy/reserved guy but meeting people hasn't really been my problem as I've been given good opportunities e.g. school, uni, work...

However a couple of years into working, I seem to have lost many of my earlier friends (which is perfectly natural) and I'm not really sure how to meet girls anymore.

I've never had a girlfriend, or ever had a really close relationship with a girl, even though I've had many girl friends - partly down to looks, but mainly down to not knowing how to make the next step/confidence

I guess I have 2 questions:
1) What's the best way to put myself out there and meet girls who I could possible date?
2) Once I do know them, how do I open myself up to potentially entering a relationship?
Reply 1
Aww I will be your gf op
Reply 2
Original post by Sheena1
Aww I will be your gf op


Cheers for biting the bullet.
Original post by Sheena1
Aww I will be your gf op


Well that was easy. :biggrin:


:tongue:

Problem solved. Next!
same problem mate.
1: focus on yourself. Get to the gym and get into shape, which not only makes you feel good and positive for your health but as much as you want something from them - they will want something from you and as the idea of reproduction is done by the magic of sexual attraction then best have a go at making yourself sexually attractive!

Finding a relationship for the long-term is about you and if you want that and usually if you do then it is because you feel ready to.

I would say I am older than the average on TSR and I think about that next stage of my life a lot more now than when I was 18.

Focus on making sure you have a good social circle of the people that mean a lot to you and your potential girlfriend will see that you have a life with socialising and fun time and all those events in life such as parties and birthdays, stag dos and weddings etc..
You'll get one only when you don't think about having one
Reply 7
Original post by shawn_o1
You'll get one only when you don't think about having one


I think I've had this attitude for a few years...didn't end up helping me in any way
Reply 8
Original post by Protagoras
1: focus on yourself. Get to the gym and get into shape, which not only makes you feel good and positive for your health but as much as you want something from them - they will want something from you and as the idea of reproduction is done by the magic of sexual attraction then best have a go at making yourself sexually attractive!

Finding a relationship for the long-term is about you and if you want that and usually if you do then it is because you feel ready to.

I would say I am older than the average on TSR and I think about that next stage of my life a lot more now than when I was 18.

Focus on making sure you have a good social circle of the people that mean a lot to you and your potential girlfriend will see that you have a life with socialising and fun time and all those events in life such as parties and birthdays, stag dos and weddings etc..


Thanks for the advice - I do already go to the gym, play a lot of sports and am relatively physically fit (i.e. I do take care of myself)

I feel like I do have a good social circle in terms of the friends I have now, and tend to do a lot more 'social' things now than before I have more time and earnings

I still feel like I'm already doing those things, and already trying to improve those things
Reply 9
Sorry to bump but was wondering if there were any more suggestions?

Thanks!
Message some on TSR, it's sure to work.

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