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Do guys actually like intelligent girls?

Well, my last boyfriend dumped me for being too much of a nerd!

So what do you think? Should you always date someone of a similar intelligence to yourself? Did he just have a vendetta against clever people? Do guys secretly love women that can't tell apart chicken and tuna and should I "play dumb" to attract more guys?

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Reply 1

mortderire

i wouldnt go out with a dumb girl- i like me cleva gals
however, id neva go out with a gal whos cleverer than me (if there is such a girl)

Reply 2

Triplet1

No you shouldn't play dumb to attract more guys just be yourself!

Reply 3

E-mi-ri

Lol, I ticked the anon box first, but now it's posted twice...how embarrasing :s-smilie:

Reply 4

thefin

Intelligent gals are nice.

Reply 5

mortderire

lol- now we know the identity of the geek girl

Reply 6

E-mi-ri

Ahh I see, would you elaborate on that? What's so wrong with a girlfriend being cleverer that you?

Reply 7

in_vogue

Can I ask how old you are?
There's a difference between being intelligent and being geeky. You can be intelligent without being precocious about it. Did he mention anything specific? Was it like most of the time he'd invite you out for a drink you'd be all ''Sorry, I have to study''? When you guys went to the cinema, did you always bring up current affairs? I think that can be off putting to younger guys.

If neither of the above, maybe he's just a bit of a 'durrr'. Having said that, the fact that you say you felt like you were ''making the compromise'' suggests that maybe you looked down on him a bit and he felt it.

Reply 8

mortderire

its the male superiority complex
one HAS to feel superior (which i obviously am)

men like to feel theyre supporting girls- in woteva way
they want girls to be in awe of them
if the girls more intelligent, well, it kinda makes em feel not as good

Reply 9

Sezkin

E-mi-ri

I have been previously described as being pretty as well as being very intelligent. You'd think these are good qualities right? Well, my last boyfriend dumped me for being too much of a nerd!

When I met him I was attracted to him because he was so kind and nice, he's probably of average intelligence, but that didn't matter to me. I found out from one of his friends after he dumped me that he said, allthough he found me attractive, I was simply too geeky.

Pretty much the only reason he broke up with me was because I was "too much of a nerd" but I'm not really that nerdy, I was just more intelligent than him and so enjoyed talking about more highbrow things. I never noticed anything wrong when I was going out with him and I'd always thought intelligence was a good thing and if anything, I was making the compromise.

So what do you think? Should you always date someone of a similar intelligence to yourself? Did he just have a vendetta against clever people? Do guys secretly love women that can't tell apart chicken and tuna and should I "play dumb" to attract more guys?

RANDOM: Am I the only person that notice theres two threads on this he he :p:

Anyway, don't change the way you are; be unique and proud to be intelligent as well as pretty. I'm sure there would be other guys out there who would like you for who you are.

Personally, I think it's better to go out with someone on the same wavelength as you, it would be better to communicate and discuss topics related to you both.

Be the clever girl you are! That guy is clearly not worth it.

:suith:

Sezkin

Reply 10

mortderire

its nt a great explanation... (my one i mean)

Reply 11

high priestess fnord

dont play dumb for ment thats just silly. yes alot of men love a woman that they can look after because she too hopelessly blond to do anthing for herself but lets not pander to them (unless they have something you want :wink:

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you and your ex probably just didnt have enough in common. if he didnt share your sense of humour etc it probably made him feel uncomfortable and stupid. you just need to find someone who you can share these things with.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Like mortderire, I wouldn't go out with a girl who was cleverer than me, though in saying that I've never met a girl whose cleverer than me yet can still hold together a normal life....

Reply 13

Tractor-girlie

I like clever guys but not geeks you have to have a life, im guessing same goes with girls.

Reply 14

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

If he dumped you for as stupid a reason as that then you're better off without him love, he sounds really immature and if he would break up with someone for that then i'd suggest he is ridiculously insecure, his problem not yours-you can do better. I proudly admit to being a big nerd.

Reply 15

5150

There's a difference between "being a nerd" and "being intelligent". You say you liked "talking about high-brow topics" - look, if all you want to discuss with your boyfriend is Cartesian philosophy and political theory, that's not particularly attractive.

Reply 16

jpowell

Clever girls are hot.

Reply 17

E-mi-ri

The irony.. that's pretty embarrasing, oh well...

Yeah I guess intelligence =/= geekiness
I guess I did spend rather a bit too much on the computer and maybe I did come off as arrogant sometimes. Still, interesting replies people, thanks

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