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Asking For Workmates Number

I was going to ask a certain girl for her number but there are a few problems. 1. She doesn't fancy me (I think), 2. We don't have too great a chemistry, and 3. We work together so after being rejected I'll have to see her again, and again, and again. But still, she's stuck in my mind and I'm absolutely fascinated by her. I figure I should ask because the only thing worst than being rejected is having the question "what IF" in your mind. So I'm pretty certain I want to ask her, but then there are times I definitely don't want to because of all the doubts in my mind. I suppose it's a question of courage and confidence but with her I seem to lack both.

My mind is split in two, one side is saying go for it, the other side is saying don't it's a stupid idea. Can anyone offer advice? Perhaps I should wait longer and get to know her more before I ask her? But then I don't want to leave it too long! Is there any certain way I should go about asking?

I hate having to ask for advice like this but hopefully it will help. TIA!!

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Are you friends with her?

Reply 2

Tractor-girlie

By points 1 and 2 I would say no then you wont be rejected.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Are you friends with her?

I'd say so, yes. But not great friends.

Reply 4

KaramelRose

13

I have the same problem! There's a guy I really like at work, and I'd love to ask him for his number...

We get on really well, he's lovely but I just don't know if he likes me in "that way".

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I have the same problem! There's a guy I really like at work, and I'd love to ask him for his number...

We get on really well, he's lovely but I just don't know if he likes me in "that way".

Well what are you going to do about it? I'd really love to know. Maybe our same problem holds the same solution.

Reply 6

Triplet1

13

You should just ask her! She will most probably not say no to your face its just a mobile number. Your friends so they is nothing wrong with you having it.
:biggrin:

Reply 7

mortderire

10

exactly, no-one says no if someone asks em for their moby number (well none that ive known)

Reply 8

KaramelRose

13

Anonymous

Well what are you going to do about it? I'd really love to know. Maybe our same problem holds the same solution.

I think I'm going to hold out for another week or two - I've only known this guy for a couple of weeks and will just judge the situation a little better before I make a move, as it were.

It sounds like you've known your girl longer than I've known my guy though!

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

It sounds like you've known your girl longer than I've known my guy though!

No, I've only known her for a couple of weeks and in that time I've worked with her on a few occasions. When I say me and her are friends I mean we get along well, but we're not like buddies or anything.

Reply 10

pink_lucie

14

'hey me and my friends are gonna go out this weekend, wondering if you wanna come? '
she says yes/maybe
'give me your number so i can give you all the details cos they arnt all sorted yet'

its not that hard :rolleyes:

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

hello
I would say you should go for it.. im in the same(ish) situation as you but as a girl i don't think i'd ask for this boys number.You don't know that she does not fancy you for sure..people give of mixed signals when they like someone, she may act differently around you or act like she doesn't fancy you because she wants you not to know. So for all you know , she proabably likes you like crazy too.
I'd say go for it, otherwise the what if is niggling at the back of your mind all the time
:0

Reply 12

username47781

20

Well you only know her two weeks thats not really long enough to determine whether you are good friends or not, get to know her more, take her out for a drink or something.

Reply 13

xxxoldyxxx

best thing to do is give her your number. that way if she is interested in you she will txt you. and if not you havent made a fool of yourself!

DO IT!

Reply 14

Gman1617

whats so good about her figure

Reply 15

.:fluff:.

1

Does your rota at work show everyones hours? If so just see what she is working, see what you are working and ask her if she'd mind swapping shifts, if she says ok, then a simple "I'm not sure whats happening yet so if you want I'll text you later when i know for definate..." Viola...

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

don't even go there with a girl from work. I work with my ex and im still really into her and it kills me to see her everytime i work. Also it didnt help that one of my mates paid another member off staff to ask her if "she would go back out with me cos I lover her loads and thinks she is the best gf i hve ever had." So don't do it man!!

Reply 17

Triplet1

13

.:fluff:.

Does your rota at work show everyones hours? If so just see what she is working, see what you are working and ask her if she'd mind swapping shifts, if she says ok, then a simple "I'm not sure whats happening yet so if you want I'll text you later when i know for definate..." Viola...

I like this idea!!
:biggrin:

Reply 18

Ron Stoppable

14

Anonymous

I was going to ask a certain girl for her number but there are a few problems. 1. She doesn't fancy me (I think), 2. We don't have too great a chemistry, and 3. We work together so after being rejected I'll have to see her again, and again, and again. But still, she's stuck in my mind and I'm absolutely fascinated by her.

KaramelRose

I have the same problem! There's a guy I really like at work, and I'd love to ask him for his number...

We get on really well, he's lovely but I just don't know if he likes me in "that way".

^ Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

OP: Be a man of action - first get the date, then ask her to give you her number. If you haven't a clue what to say, tell her you want someone to entertain you while you go to get something to eat/drink during a break or at the end of the day, and that you think she's interesting enough to come along.

Reply 19

Ron Stoppable

14

.:fluff:.

Does your rota at work show everyones hours? If so just see what she is working, see what you are working and ask her if she'd mind swapping shifts, if she says ok, then a simple "I'm not sure whats happening yet so if you want I'll text you later when i know for definate..." Viola...

Too underhand a method - achieves the goal but misses the point. She won't care about whether he has her number or not if he hasn't got her interested.

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