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Should i go for it?

Hi everyone,

There's this girl who i went out with for a few months, but then she broke up with me. I still really like her though. Recently I've been thinking she wants to get back together. I'm not sure if I should go for it, as it could ruin our friendship.

A month ago, we were talking once a week, but now we talk every night online. She's also started to text me occasionally, calling me once or twice too. I've seen her a few times, and she definitely acted a lot flirtier. I dunno if this change means anything at all, but I was hoping someone might be able to give any advice they have.

Thanks

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Reply 1

As harsh as this sounds, it could be that you are reading into this too much... if you like her, you will be looking for signs that she feels the same way.

Before you rush in, be sure it isn't just wishful thinking?

On the other hand, if you are sure, nothing ventured nothing gained... talk to her!

Reply 2

Anonymous
Hi everyone,

There's this girl who i went out with for a few months, but then she broke up with me. I still really like her though. Recently I've been thinking she wants to get back together. I'm not sure if I should go for it, as it could ruin our friendship.

A month ago, we were talking once a week, but now we talk every night online. She's also started to text me occasionally, calling me once or twice too. I've seen her a few times, and she definitely acted a lot flirtier. I dunno if this change means anything at all, but I was hoping someone might be able to give any advice they have.

Thanks


:eek: Your not talking about me are you, I did exactly the same things with my ex.

Well from my situation, I broke up with my bf recently,been together for a few months....I used to text him every night, call and go online... I very much miss him and regret it badly...

You should give it time, you could try and talk to her face to face telling how you feel about her and ask if she's prepared to give you another chance. I would with my ex...

Reply 3

May I ask, why did you break up?...

Reply 4

I'm actually not sure why we broke up. She never gave me a reason..... One day when I saw her, she was just fairly distant with me, and the next day it was over. All she said was "she felt it had come to an end".

I've considered it may be wishful thinking, and it probably is. Yet each day theres a new, more concrete, sign that she still likes me. Its probably just me thinking things.....but I hope it isnt.

Thanks for the replies so far! :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous
I'm actually not sure why we broke up. She never gave me a reason..... One day when I saw her, she was just fairly distant with me, and the next day it was over. All she said was "she felt it had come to an end".

I've considered it may be wishful thinking, and it probably is. Yet each day theres a new, more concrete, sign that she still likes me. Its probably just me thinking things.....but I hope it isnt.

Thanks for the replies so far! :smile:


Yeah, you could talk to her and maybe she'll get come round to it.If it was me, I would take him back...

I'm not sure if you are actually my ex :confused:... cos I was fairly distant with him one day and the day after, I told him how I felt and that I wanted it to end... which I regret. I went to the park with him alone when I was abit distant.... I very much doubt it's you. I'm just surprised that someone has exactly similar situation to me haha. :eek:

Reply 6

If you're prepared to hear a possible downside then you should go for it, because there's nothing for you to lose!

Good Luck!!

Reply 7

Anonymous
Yeah, you could talk to her and maybe she'll get come round to it.If it was me, I would take him back...

I'm not sure if you are actually my ex :confused:... cos I was fairly distant with him one day and the day after, I told him how I felt and that I wanted it to end... which I regret. I went to the park with him alone when I was abit distant.... I very much doubt it's you. I'm just surprised that someone has exactly similar situation to me haha. :eek:


That's strange.....my ex took me to the park and was distant.....

Although this may all be wishful thinking, you've shown me that she may actually want me back, as it is very much possible she could be in your situation right now.

In reply as to what i have to lose, I would say that our friendship is probably at stake here. If she said no, it would most likely mean that we wouldnt be friends in the near future.

Reply 8

Reveal yourselves. If you both use TSR it may well be the two of you. I don't know but could this be a TSR first?

Reply 9

Anonymous

I've considered it may be wishful thinking, and it probably is. Yet each day theres a new, more concrete, sign that she still likes me.


I agree with what the person said earlier that it might be you looking for signs.

I once had a pregnancy scare, and all of a sudden i notice loads of adverts of the telly that involved pregnacy or babies, then in loads of soaps and telly programmes people were finding out they were pregnant and it made me worry even more.

I know theyr completely different situations, but the sign thing's kind of similar.

I think you should hang in there and let her make the first move, after all she was the one who broke things off, and she may still hold the same opinion.

She may just have realised that after breaking up with you she missed your freindship, and this is her way of trying to get close to you as a freind again.

I hope it works out for you both, freindship or relationship :smile:

Reply 10

Why is it always called a pregnancy scare? Sure it may be nerveracking to think you may be prenant at a young age, but life is a wonderful thing, and it shouldn't be considered scary to be possibly creating life.

Reply 11

matt@internet
Reveal yourselves. If you both use TSR it may well be the two of you. I don't know but could this be a TSR first?


um yes it is strange! reveal yourselves!

Reply 12

matt@internet
Why is it always called a pregnancy scare? Sure it may be nerveracking to think you may be prenant at a young age, but life is a wonderful thing, and it shouldn't be considered scary to be possibly creating life.


I refered to it as a scare because i am in no way ready to have children, and although i agree that creating life would be amazing if ready for it, at the moment i couldnt think of anything worse. This is another thing that many people havne many different opinions on :smile:

Reply 13

Anonymous
That's strange.....my ex took me to the park and was distant.....

Although this may all be wishful thinking, you've shown me that she may actually want me back, as it is very much possible she could be in your situation right now.

In reply as to what i have to lose, I would say that our friendship is probably at stake here. If she said no, it would most likely mean that we wouldnt be friends in the near future.


This is freaky lol :p: So how old are you?

Reply 14

Its strange how when youre thinking about something, everything you see is somehow linked to it! I admit, I used to read into things way more than this. But there are just some things I've noticed her doing which I dont think it's possible to read into.

It might be scary having a pregnancy scare because theyre not ready to have children yet. But I can see where youre coming from. still, a pregnancy scare can be scary for anyone who hasnt had children yet.

Reply 15

Anonymous
This is freaky lol :p: So how old are you?


Judging from the date you joined TSR, I'd say that I might be a little too young. Unless that date is wrong of course....?

Reply 16

So you're in your sixties or seventies anon 1?

Reply 17

Anonymous
Judging from the date you joined TSR, I'd say that I might be a little too young. Unless that date is wrong of course....?


Thats not my real date :p: It's the anonymous system. Ah well, it would be such a consequence,but I very much doubt it.:p:

Well are you at University?

Reply 18

Nope, I'm on my last year in 6th form...

It's a shame... I guess it's not you lol.

Reply 19

Yeah that is a shame! I hope u get what you really want though, as I know how hard it is to deal with.

Can i ask if he knows you still like him? have you been doing anything to try to let him know?