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Hi Guys.

I've just come out of an adventurous relationship. I've been treated very badly, I supose I let my self because I were in love. None of my friends have been there for me. I'm very lonely and they all treat nicely as though nothing has gone wrong but me on the other hand, they're just OK with.

He has locked me outside his house twice where I had to sleep outside as I had no money for taxi and it was too far to walk. He's tried to give me an overdose. His mates are horrible to me, one tried to split us up, another hit me and ripped my shirt and another one tried to hit me. He did nothing to condem their actions. My friends haven't either for his actions on me.

It has been extremely hard for me. I've been very tearful, I've been on depression tablets which I had made me a lot worse. I'm off them now.

I've been to tell and back.

I'm going university in a few weeks and I just want to be strong when I go there. I want him out of my life, I am thinking of ditching my 'friends' too.
I'm just lonely and fed up and most of all miserable. But I do think I've been strong.

I really want to proove them all wrong that I don't need any of them. How do i do it? All they see if me being down amd miserable.
Phone the police?

It's not just something you can spontaneously 'get over'. But you're coping, and that's the main thing, and **** them if they get a kick out of you being down and miserable, they're not worth it.
Its hard to find the right words for your ordeal, what your ex did is absolutely awful, he should be in prision for what he's done or locked in a secure unit, maybe you ought to see a councillor.
Reply 3
its actually very brave of you to come out and say stuff now, there must be so many people out there who hesitate in telling anyone any of this.

its great you wanna come out strong, it won't be easy but yeah, i think your 'friends' perhaps aren't the best people to be with.

i can't bear to imagine what you feel like, but you have your familys support? its not too long till uni starts, and then just think of it as a fresh start.

if you're really upset, like some have said already it may help to see someone professional to talk to.. it really helps to talk to people who can give great advice.
Reply 4
By the way, sorry about the poor spelling and grammar.

I just want revenge on him some how. I have had no moral support off my friends so I feel that I need to show him he has not got me down and I am a better person than he is.

He constantly texts me asking me what am I up to, maybe to rub it in that he is out with friends as he probably knows I am stuck at home. I don't have any money. I got rid of my part time job the other week as I couldn't concentrate. Hopefully, I've less than 4 weeks to uuiversity now.

I just want revenge. I want to see him and stand so high that he will feel that terrible for what he has done and what he has lost. He will never get me back.
Reply 5
Zafda

i can't bear to imagine what you feel like, but you have your familys support? its not too long till uni starts, and then just think of it as a fresh start.

I can't tell anyone in my family as it's a gay relationship, and they don't know anything about it.
Uni will be a fresh start for me - that's for sure.

I didn't get the grades I needed for university but I told the uni what had happened to me and they gave me a place moments after telling them.

Zafda

if you're really upset, like some have said already it may help to see someone professional to talk to.. it really helps to talk to people who can give great advice.
I've been to my doctors many times, around 6 times now, they refer me to social services but they're not saying by the time thye get someone to talk to me about it there'd be no point as I'd be at university. They've told me to wait until then. But it's hard, another 4 weeks of this is going to be so hard but I've got through 6 months of this so I'm sure 4 weeks won't do much damage.
Reply 6
do you not have any other friends you could talk to who would understand? I hate it when i hear about people (whether i know them as friends or not) are treated like this by others, whether theyre people they love, friends, or just strangers nd im truely sorry for you. Uni will be a fresh start though and its good they gave you a place after you explained everything. be strong and by the time the first week is over i guarantee youll be happy nd loving it. tbh it sounds like your friends were acting like this because it was a gay relationship. People who reach uni are (usually) much more open minded about everything though, and id hope that you wont ever be treated like this again.

anti depressants were a risky route to take, they can be effective, but ive seen the side effects they have on people and its not good, scary even. now your off then, id stay off them. Is there no chance of you seeing a councellor or phsyciatrist before you go though? surely something could be arranged, considering that with all this as well, its gonna be a massive (hopefully positive) step youve got to take next month. otherwise, i can only suggest you find some way of talking to your family, however difficult it may be.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. Sort yourself out first, then come back for revenge if you so desire.
Reply 8
Anonymous
Hi Guys.

I've just come out of an adventurous relationship. I've been treated very badly, I supose I let my self because I were in love. None of my friends have been there for me. I'm very lonely and they all treat nicely as though nothing has gone wrong but me on the other hand, they're just OK with.

He has locked me outside his house twice where I had to sleep outside as I had no money for taxi and it was too far to walk. He's tried to give me an overdose. His mates are horrible to me, one tried to split us up, another hit me and ripped my shirt and another one tried to hit me. He did nothing to condem their actions. My friends haven't either for his actions on me.

It has been extremely hard for me. I've been very tearful, I've been on depression tablets which I had made me a lot worse. I'm off them now.

I've been to tell and back.

I'm going university in a few weeks and I just want to be strong when I go there. I want him out of my life, I am thinking of ditching my 'friends' too.
I'm just lonely and fed up and most of all miserable. But I do think I've been strong.

I really want to proove them all wrong that I don't need any of them. How do i do it? All they see if me being down amd miserable.



you should of got rid of him after you'd slept outside once!
Reply 9
NickNack
do you not have any other friends you could talk to who would understand? I hate it when i hear about people (whether i know them as friends or not) are treated like this by others, whether theyre people they love, friends, or just strangers nd im truely sorry for you.

Thanks mate - that really means a lot. It is disgusting what he has done to me, but then again why did I let it all happen?

It's because I loved him.

NickNack
Uni will be a fresh start though and its good they gave you a place after you explained everything. be strong and by the time the first week is over i guarantee youll be happy nd loving it. tbh it sounds like your friends were acting like this because it was a gay relationship. People who reach uni are (usually) much more open minded about everything though, and id hope that you wont ever be treated like this again.
They were quite happy with the type of relationship it was. They weren't supportive as the lad that did this to me is very manipulative. Secondly, one of my friends, she doesn't like to judge people. She prefers to stay neutral. I want someone who is going to stick up for me and tlel him to go away and lcear off from me and support me. instead, they run up to hug him wave at him at though nothing has happened. Imagine if I did all this to him? I doubt I'd be greeted with the same response.

NickNack

anti depressants were a risky route to take, they can be effective, but ive seen the side effects they have on people and its not good, scary even. now your off then, id stay off them. Is there no chance of you seeing a councellor or phsyciatrist before you go though? surely something could be arranged, considering that with all this as well, its gonna be a massive (hopefully positive) step youve got to take next month. otherwise, i can only suggest you find some way of talking to your family, however difficult it may be.
The anti depressants were nasty to me. They made me a lot worse and I never want to feel like that again so they're gone. he will never understand why i was on the tablets in the first place. It really does my head in that he can go around and feel nothing for what he has done, no remourse... nothing at all! makes me angry!

The NHS in my area ia extremely slow, I've no chance of seeing anyone./ I have got in touch with my friend, the one that stays neutral, see if she can at least appreciate what i say to her and actually listen.